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Dear Dish-It, Did I Do the Right Thing?


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Dear Dish-It,

One of my teachers recently lost her daughter to cancer at a very young age. She has taken the month off, and I wrote a nice poem about love and loss and sent it to her via mail. I'm not sure if I did the right thing. Will she get mad at me?
shanana99


Dear shanana99,

It was very thoughtful of you to send your teacher a poem during this difficult time. She's probably having an extremely hard time dealing with the loss of her daughter, and it is always helpful to know that there are people around her who care. You might not get a response from her right away, or even at all, but that doesn't mean that she doesn't appreciate the thought. It just means that she has a lot on her mind and can't focus on thanking everyone for their letters and cards, etc. Now that you've done something to show that you're thinking of her, just give her space to grieve. These things take time to get through. If and when she returns back to school, I'm sure she will thank you for thinking of her during her time of need.


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