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Dear Dish-It, Can My Long Distance Relationship Work?

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Long Distance Relationships

Dear Dish-It,

I have a boyfriend and everything between the two of us is GREAT! We tell each other all the time how much we are into one another and he's really someone that I could see myself being with in the long run. The only and BIG problem is he lives four hours away from me in Detroit and I live in Toronto. We met because my best friend is his cousin. He comes down like six months out of the 12 months of the year, so I see him about every two months. I've known him for four years, but nothing happened between us until recently. We've now been dating only a month, but I talk to him every night online. I know it's a new relationship and we haven't been together that long, but believe me when I say that I feel very strongly about him. I'm just not sure if being in a long distance relationship, like the one were in, is worth it. I want it to work SOO bad. He tells me all the time that he's going to move down here the first chance he gets. A guy has never made me feel this good about myself. Please help me and give me your honest advice, do you think that this relationship could work with distance between us?
xxalwaysandneverxx


Dear Dxxalwaysandneverxx,

Long distance relationships are definitely tricky for people of all ages. It sounds like you're really into this guy, but are still aware of the downsides of the situation. As long as you keep things in perspective, there's no reason you can't continue to date this guy. Know at all times that distance can prove challenging because you'll be living completely separate lives most of the time. Being able to talk online on a daily basis will definitely help, but it's certainly no replacement for having him in the same city as you. Also, don't get too hooked on the idea of him moving to up to be with you. Aside from the fact that you're both only 16, moving from one country to another isn't actually that easy. For now, just enjoy the time you have with him and as long as you're having fun that's all that matters. If this relationship starts to be more hassle than happiness, it's probably time for a re-evaluation of whether you're meant to be together or not. Hope this helps!


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    Libbyh15

    Libbyh15 wrote:

    Long distance relationships don't work! I have tried 2 times it's hard,I was scared of ...
    commented: Mon Mar 26, 2012

    xxxhellokitty123xxx
    dudes if think dat it will work out well its not!! first of all u will neva get to see ...
    commented: Fri Aug 12, 2011

    lozzabops123

    lozzabops123 wrote:

    my bf lives in america , i don't know if it will work out but that don't stop me loving...
    commented: Wed Jun 29, 2011

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