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Bounce Wit Me - Stereotypes

Lil Bow-Wow says "bounce wit me, bounce wit me." But hold on. An article reported that teachers might put you in special ed classes based on how you walk, talk or dress. And ya know what, that's not very special.

La Vonne Neal, an assistant professor of education at Southwestern University played tapes of White and Black teens both walking like geeks and getting their stroll on. She had teachers look at the tapes and rank them. The teachers rated the teens that swaggered as more aggressive and more stupid. When both teens walked with good posture and a straight head they were felt to be nicer. Go figure. You know and I know that you can't tell how smart someone is by how they walk.

But as your mothers have always told you, "first impressions are lasting ones". For most of us, the way we learn about other people - Black, White, Latino or Asian - is from how we think they are, based on stereotypes from movies, music or television.

How we think they are can make us react to them in a certain way. Think about it. Has it happened to you? You meet someone, size them up, make all kinds of assumptions about them, and then find out YOU WERE WRONG.

It's cool if you can still be friends, and ya know, you can live and learn from your mistakes. It is not cool, if they are denied a chance because of how they walk, talk, or look. Open your eyes at your school. Do you see people put down, or shut out because they are different? Are you smacked down because people really don't know you?

Here's what you do. Teach yourself to be open. It is bound to rub off on others. Don't stand by and let your friends or teachers or parents make stupid comments about something you know they have no idea about. Do the right thing and stop judging. Oh, and by the way - walk straight!

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    bffeaea
    bffeaea posted in Friends:
    I don't know you and I'm not exactly sure how you act, but being friendly is definitely the way to go. Don't change yourself for ANYBODY. Especially someone who you don't need to impress. Speaking of impressing, don't try, do. If you are telling a story and that happens to impress them than that's great! But don't go out of your way to try to make yourself look awesome because I'm sure you already are. Be yourself. But the most important thug now you can do is not try to make a million friends. Because personally I would rather have one AWESOME friend than a million ok friends. I hope this helped. :)
    reply about 14 hours
    HoneyHamstern
    HoneyHamstern posted in Friends:
    Be yourself and most important of all, be kind. You will get great friends by doing so. Being popular doesn't always mean being nice; sometimes people tend to be rude and bossy to be "popular" and that isn't good. But if you participate or even start a group at school, at the library or somewhere important in the community (community service like the Rotary Club is a good way to start for kids and teens) can be a great way to meet friends and share your happiness.
    reply about 15 hours
    esthery27
    "f3rr3tgal" wrote:dear dish-it,        I absolutely love my family but... my dad has these headaches  where if they are really bad i can not say anything right he will get really mad. i don't know what to do i really hate being yelled at by my  dad and i love him soo much !!!! what do i do?  [s:sm3/1jvp]                                                       thanks,                                                            f3rr3tgal Tell him that you love him and you understand he's suffering but you really don't like it when he yells at you. You can write a note or a card to him. I'm sure he'll understand. And of course if needed see a doctor so that he'll know what to do to deal with those headaches.
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    esthery27
    esthery27 posted in Friends:
    You won't want to be, it's exhausting. Just be happy the way you are and don't care about what others think or say about you.
    reply about 16 hours
    GiddyUpGecko
    GiddyUpGecko posted in Friends:
    What if you just aren't populr, and you want to be???  :(
    reply 1 day