Dear Dish It, I Can't Keep My Opinions to Myself

Dear Dish-It is here to talk about 2 things we all have troubles with: our opinions and arguments. These can be dicey, so let's read on.

Dear Dish-It,

I keep getting into arguments at school and now they're getting a bit more serious. Lots of people are my mates, but I just can't seem to keep my own opinion to myself. What should I do?

Dear beauty1566,

First, having an opinion means you're human. We've all got opinions, cuz we all 'think', and compare, and judge. So sounds like you think a lot, and that's a good thing. But did you know that our opinions tell the world a lot about us! They tell people we're mean, or nice, or cool, or, or, or..... Scary, huh? And it's defending our opinions that gets us into arguments!

So, now that we know you're human (jk), what do your opinions tell your mates about you? Or, what do your opinions tell 'you' about 'you'?

You say your arguments are gettin' more 'serious'. Does that mean 'mean', or more thoughtful?

And, you may have lots of mates at school now, but if your opinions are mean, and you keep dishin' them out, you won't be left with any friends by vacation time.

So what should you do? Simple - like your granny says, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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Delancy posted in Friends:
Calm down. Ignore her. You are YOU, don't let anyone change you. If someone hurts, cry a river and build a bridge over it cx
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hello dish-it i hope i not bothering rita im 16 year old and i have autism.i get bullyed a lot. this has been happening online.this girl said that i was crazy and that freddie mercury (queen lead singer) wouldnt love me cause i have autism.i am queen and freddie mercury's #1 fan.the girl said no body would believe me and it made me so upset i had a autistic meltdown.what do i do,please help.  
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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