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Dear Dish It, I Can't Keep My Opinions to Myself


Dear Dish-It is here to talk about 2 things we all have troubles with: our opinions and arguments. These can be dicey, so let's read on.


Dear Dish-It,

I keep getting into arguments at school and now they're getting a bit more serious. Lots of people are my mates, but I just can't seem to keep my own opinion to myself. What should I do?
beauty1566


Dear beauty1566,

First, having an opinion means you're human. We've all got opinions, cuz we all 'think', and compare, and judge. So sounds like you think a lot, and that's a good thing. But did you know that our opinions tell the world a lot about us! They tell people we're mean, or nice, or cool, or, or, or..... Scary, huh? And it's defending our opinions that gets us into arguments!


So, now that we know you're human (jk), what do your opinions tell your mates about you? Or, what do your opinions tell 'you' about 'you'?


You say your arguments are gettin' more 'serious'. Does that mean 'mean', or more thoughtful?


And, you may have lots of mates at school now, but if your opinions are mean, and you keep dishin' them out, you won't be left with any friends by vacation time.


So what should you do? Simple - like your granny says, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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