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Dear Dish-It, I Don't Want to Lose My BF or My BFF

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Dear Dish-It,

My best friend likes the same boy I like. She doesn't know I like him though. But the boy likes me back so we decided to be together. I'm worried that my best friend might find out. I don't want to lose my best friend, but I don't want to lose my boyfriend either. What should I do??
mystrygrl


Dear mystrygrl,

You're in a tough situation and no matter what you do, someone's going to get hurt and it'll most likely be your best friend. If you liked the same guy she liked, you should've been honest and upfront from the beginning cuz she probably would've been a lot more understanding about the two of you hookin' up. Sure, she would've been upset that her crush likes someone else (that's you), but she would've appreciated your honesty. But now you've lost that opportunity cuz you went behind her back and started going out with this guy. I suggest you talk to your best friend ASAP and tell her what's going on. The longer you wait, the worse the situation will be cuz she'll hear it from someone else - and there's nothing worse than finding out that your BFF is going out with your crush from some random girl who sits two rows over in Spanish class.


If your best friend is an amazingly understanding and forgiving person, then she'll get over it and be happy for you. But, you should be prepared for the possibility that she may never want to speak to you again. After all, you did betray her by going out with her crush behind her back. I really hope this doesn't happen, but you need to face up to your actions and the choices you've made.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    kianaworld

    kianaworld wrote:

    why would you dont wanna have a bff!!!!!! people who dont have a bff is lonely!!!!
    commented: Fri Mar 22, 2013

    kianaworld

    kianaworld wrote:

    why would you dont wanna have a bff!!!!!! people who dont have a bff is lonely!!!!
    commented: Fri Mar 22, 2013

    kianaworld

    kianaworld wrote:

    why would you dont wanna have a bff!!!!!! people who dont have a bff is lonely!!!!
    commented: Fri Mar 22, 2013

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