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Dear Dish-It, My Life Is A Disgrace


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Dear Dish-It,

My life is a disgrace and I am only 12. It is like my family hates me and it pees me off. At school, I am always the last one to be picked for teams. I have some friends who stick up for me, but other people do not listen to me, which I do not understand! Can you help?
Chillie


Dear Chillie,

Don't worry, Chillie, cuz things are about to get better! You're 12 and feeling exactly the way most tweens do. Older peeps think that at 12, your life should be pretty perfect with hardly anything to worry about. But the age you're at is a tough one, especially when it comes to self-esteem. It probably seems like everything is just crashin' down, but the truth is, it's not. As you said, it's not that your family hates you, it's LIKE they do. Here is a secret for ya - they don't! Your family loves you and the reason it seems like they don't is probably cuz it's tough for you to understand them, and for them to understand you - it's the generation gap. When it comes to school life, you say you have friends who stick up for ya. You are one heck of a lucky person then cuz there are plenty of people whose "friends" don't give a hoot about them. The fact that others won't listen to ya... well, why do the others matter in the first place? Your friends are stickin' up for you, and they're the ones that count.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    @rainbowpoptart  When I originally talked to my father, I was given the opportunity of good timing to bring it up. Luckily, there was no anger like I was partially expecting and I remained calm, which I definitely wasn't expecting. My fathers main concern was just worry and having seen other teens run away from something later getting themselves in trouble. He even brought up how he had run off at 18 and joined the Air Force, which I already knew. But, with this round, there is no perfect time to bring it up and he's always busy or we're having to do something so it's just very frustrating to find at least alright timing to bring it up, if that makes sense.
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    rainbowpoptart
    My advice on this may not be the best because I haven't personally dealt with this yet, but... Parents, or guardians, get used to having their children around. You're [usually] with them for 18 years, which is a long time, so of course they - or in this case, your father - is going to feel like he's lost something very dear to him once you move out. To me it seems like he does truly understand that you're growing up. He just doesn't want it to happen. He knows that you're leaving soon - he just doesn't want it to be soon. Parents/guardians who are close to the children usually feel that way. If you're really so concerned, talk to him about it again, in a similar way you have done already. Or perhaps just a "Wow, my birthday is just around the corner". Once you do move out, visit him as frequently as you're able to and feel like. I'm sure he'll appreciate it, and it'll help you maintain a close relationship with him.
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