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hi im steffi and this doesnt have 2 do with dating.im 12 and i like this guy and i think he likes me 2 cuz he keeps staring at me but everytime his friends r around he's always mean 2 me but when were alone hes nice.i don't knoe wat 2 think.plz help or plz give me advice

Saabe wrote:
THE AGE THING

I'm putting this first to save you all some time- This section is for all those UNDER 12. The rest of the guide is for everyone above that age, except for, of course, those parts about extreme situations that can happen to anyone.

IF YOU ARE UNDER 12: I do NOT support dating that young.
And before you protest, let me tell you why: You are just not mature enough. Don't take offense, it's a proven statement. Yes, if you're 11 or 12, you've begun puberty, but just because you're now interested in the other sex and want to start dating, doesn't mean you're ready. Relationships are stressful, and break ups are inevitable. Besides, guys to actually develop mentally, much slower than girls. While girls are done maturing in their early 20's, boys don't stop until they're 30
The thing about guys being two years behind girls mentally is pretty much true, so if you're ten and dating, your bf is really 8, and who wants that? And if you date an older guy, that's even worse because he'll be more mature than you and more likely to get into bad things with you.

Besides, such young relationships don't last. Do NOT think you will be special, and your relationship will last forever, 99.99 % of the time, it doesn't, at least when you're this young.

Also, the younger you start dating, the more likely you are to get into bad relationship habits: Getting Physical too Fast, Always going after Looks, Picking the Wrong Type of Person.

It's better to make sure you've experienced childhood as much as possible before dating. While you might feel now that you're ready to be an adult, you'll only feel that way until it stops being a novelty, and you're stuck, unable to go back to being a kid. So enjoy being a KID, and act like one!

You can't really go on dates anyway, so give it a rest and wait until you can!

im almost 10 would it be safe to

For One I Am Gonna Still Go Out And 2 I Do Not Care!

I do not care about all of this cuz i have gone out since i was 11 and the guy i went out with was really 7 not just the mature joke! But i am really mature weither they are or not!! I do not care what you say cuz i am livin my life anyway!! I can still be a kid and no the older guys cannot get me to do something i do not want to do!!

I WOULD SUGGEST NOT TO LISTEN TO HER!

what did you do?

i like wat you said that is right too

why did you say that?what kind of girl are you?not to be funny though forreal.

Saabe wrote:
THE AGE THING

I'm putting this first to save you all some time- This section is for all those UNDER 12. The rest of the guide is for everyone above that age, except for, of course, those parts about extreme situations that can happen to anyone.

IF YOU ARE UNDER 12: I do NOT support dating that young.
And before you protest, let me tell you why: You are just not mature enough. Don't take offense, it's a proven statement. Yes, if you're 11 or 12, you've begun puberty, but just because you're now interested in the other sex and want to start dating, doesn't mean you're ready. Relationships are stressful, and break ups are inevitable. Besides, guys to actually develop mentally, much slower than girls. While girls are done maturing in their early 20's, boys don't stop until they're 30
The thing about guys being two years behind girls mentally is pretty much true, so if you're ten and dating, your bf is really 8, and who wants that? And if you date an older guy, that's even worse because he'll be more mature than you and more likely to get into bad things with you.

Besides, such young relationships don't last. Do NOT think you will be special, and your relationship will last forever, 99.99 % of the time, it doesn't, at least when you're this young.

Also, the younger you start dating, the more likely you are to get into bad relationship habits: Getting Physical too Fast, Always going after Looks, Picking the Wrong Type of Person.

It's better to make sure you've experienced childhood as much as possible before dating. While you might feel now that you're ready to be an adult, you'll only feel that way until it stops being a novelty, and you're stuck, unable to go back to being a kid. So enjoy being a KID, and act like one!

You can't really go on dates anyway, so give it a rest and wait until you can!

I understand what you said about ppl younger than 12 not date, am 11 but im very mature(because im tall and polite, ppl think im 13) and almost all of my friends (who are not as mature as me) have dated and their relationship have turned out ok. Sure that they broke up afterwards, and it was because of the boy, but i think some girls that are younger do have reponsability and i think some are ready to have boyfriends. but that doesn't mean not acting goofy with your friends!!

I understand how you girls feel. It's becoming more and more common for kids to date younger. But just because it's common, does not make it good.

Yes, I bet some of you girls are very mature and responsible at age 12, I mean, I started dating at 14, that's only two years later. But two years can make a HUGE difference. While you may not get into any heavy dating stuff now, starting to date earlier can have a negative effect.
These relationships do not last, which begins to de-sensitize both the guy and the girl. Meaning you get more used to breaking up with someone. This can actually create a change in you mind that tells you it's normal to break up. So once you're older and in a relationship with real potential, you may find yourself breaking up with the person, not because it's going badly, but because your brain tells you it's time, that's how you've always done it.

Dating may seem like a fun thing to do now, but it can be very damaging to you.

I would suggest you just make a lot of guy friends instead. That works on the social skills you will need to have to be a sucessful dater, without causing you any heartbreak or pain.