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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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maybe maybe not 

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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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guys come a go but best friends are forever so best friend

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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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Well ,if you chose one over the other, that would ruin the relationship you have with the person. o_o
If you really had to choose though, I think the friend should be chosen. There's no guartentee you and your boyfriend or whatever will be together for very long anyways. :P


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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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Personally, I am not much of a "chooser" when it comes to social relationship choices. I never tend to pick sides, but here are some of the benefits of having a best friend and a great boyfriend. It is good to see the Pros and Cons of maintaining both relationships, so without further ado, here are the advantages and disadvantages:

BEST FRIENDS - The Benefits:
(My definition of a "best friend" - a true friend that is loyal, trustworthy and always sticks by your side; never abandons you. Someone you can really understand and vice versa. They will always try to pick you up when you're down, honest with you and can keep your deepest secrets)

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1) Genuine Relationship - First, the positive points. A best friend is someone whom you are closest to. You may share a lot in common, have the same sense of humour, or share a similar outlook on life. One of the most positive things about this type of friendship is the "safety" of it. Quite simply, you are able to be yourself because your best friend accepts you just as you are. This allows you to be honest and genuine without having to "work" at it. You can relax and be yourself. Furthermore, your friend will not take things the wrong way because he or she knows you so well.

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Arguments Are Easy to Move On From - Any two people in a relationship are going to argue from time to time, but in a best friend situation the arguments are usually few and far between and easier to get over. This is because the two friends work to resolve the argument with the objective of making their friendship better. They don't try to "win," but rather aim to understand the other person's side of things.

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Easy Companionship - With a best friend, you always have someone to do things with. If you see an activity you'd like to do, you don't have to wonder who you could invite because you know your bestie will probably want to go with you. Moreover, best friends can usually just hang out and have a good time. They don't need to plan an involved event to be entertained.

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Comfort - A best friend is someone you don't have to fill in the blanks with. They already know all the inner details of your life. "It's like picking up a book and knowing exactly where you left off," Belleghem says. You can cut to the chase and get right to the meat of any discussion because all the background information has already been stored away.


5) Connectedness - One of our most basic fears is being alone, Belleghem explains. Whether your best friend is around the corner or in another time zone, just knowing she is there provides comfort. "It gives you a sense of being connected and not just free-floating in space," she says. So if you find yourself feeling isolated, whether physically or emotionally, pick up the phone and call your closest pal. Both of you will feel better for it.

6) Self-esteem Boost - Good friends help us to develop our self-esteem, says Belleghem. "Having someone in our life who thinks we are important -- someone who wants our opinion on things and who values our company -- makes us feel wanted, boosting self-esteem," she explains.

7) Honest opinions - Best friends will also be totally honest with us, Belleghem says. They know you well and are able to tell it like it is. So thank your best friend the next time she looks you in the eye, shakes her head and suggests you rethink a possibly silly decision. She's got your best interests at heart.

Cool Secrets Are Kept Safe - With a best friend, you can tell everything to him or her. You won't have to worry about everyone knowing your secret, because it's kept safe with your greatest, most trustworthy friend. It's glad to get it off your chest without anyone else having to know something you don't want to blurt out to the world.

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BOYFRIENDS - The Benefits:
(My definition of a boyfriend - a male whom you and him are in a romantic relationship with. Someone who can comfort you and can spend that extra time with you. Someone who is not a player, but someone who is loyal, honest and dependant)

1) Safety - With a boyfriend, you do not need to worry about any problem in the sense that you are safe with your special one. You feel protected by him and his love.

2) Being Dependant - Most of the time, you can rely on your boyfriend for anything. Whenever it's a date or you need some help, he'll be there with you.

3) Cuddles - No matter what age your boyfriend is, he will always give you a hug and might not let go. He holds you in his arms and you feel safe and comfortable, as well as he feels soft and warm. If you are upset, lonely or unsuspectingly wondering around the corridor, he will almost always come up and hug you.

4) Attractiveness - Most people tend to date others that are attractive in different ways. Whether if it's his gorgeous face, manly perfume, kind and golden heart or his hilarious personality, there's always that 'thing' that makes you attracted to him, and it leaves a warm and a sort of butterflies-in-your-stomach type of feeling.

5) Less Of A Chance Of Getting Teased - If your boyfriend is strong or is known to be strong, you will have a better chance of not being picked on because your boyfriend will be there to scare away the grumps.

6) Holding Hands And Watching Movies - Holding your boyfriend's hands is a nice, tingling emotion. It makes you feel warmer inside and out, especially when you are out on a date at the cinema or the park. Not every couple can go to a date, but there's always a time to hold hands.

7) You Learn Something New - Whether it's skate boarding or a topic in Maths that you don't understand, your boyfriend will teach you something new, and it is fun to learn with the one you love. You get the blood rush when he holds you as you practise skating or feel really grateful that he is helping you with homework.

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This is part one of the Pros and Cons of having a boyfriend and a best friend. This post would probably be a mouthful, so I'm going to let you take some time to read all of this before I post more.


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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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Part two of my two-part Pros and Cons of having a boyfriend and best friend. Now I am going to write down a list of Cons and Disadvantages of having both a best friend and a boyfriend. Not all boyfriends and best friends are like this, but most of them are like this.

BEST FRIENDS - The Disadvantages:
"True friends are like diamonds real and rare, false friends are like leaves scattered everywhere."

1) May Limit Other Friendship Opportunities - If you and your friend are so close that you shut out any new friendships from forming, you're doing yourself a disservice. The benefit of a best friend is that you feel comfortable in yourself, which should encourage you to seek out other friendships. But this can backfire if you and your pal are so close you never make new friends. This means that if you and your best friend fall out or have an argument, you won't feel very comfortable trying to find other people to talk to.

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You May Forget How to Make Small Talk - Making small talk is a skill, and if you're not going outside your comfort zone to chat with new people on a regular basis, it can be tougher to strike up a conversation. If you have a best friend that you hang with 24/7, you may think small talk is useless. But make no mistake, small talk helps you with work colleagues, acquaintances, and friends alike, so if you and your bestie are together a lot, practice making small talk with people you meet in passing.

3) Your Secret Won't Be Kept For Long - If you've had a recent fallout with your best friend that you commonly share secrets with, chances are that your secrets will be told by your ex-best friend. It is common for ex-best friends to be friends again after an argument or fallout, but once the secrets have been released, they have been released.

4) Jealousy - There are some best friends that are really really when it comes to you speaking with other people. They usually try to limit you from socialisation because they are worried that they will be replaced. They try to be overprotective, and that's a sign that they really care for you but can be selfish at times.

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BOYFRIENDS - The Disadvantages:

1) They Are Inappropriate Or Embarrassing - Sometimes boyfriends behave like boys. This is because most girls mature before boys, but it can be a real pain when your boyfriend has quite a reputation and gets sent to the principal's office a lot. You might like the bad-boy type, but when it comes to him asking you inappropriate questions, you would probably feel uncomfortable and don't know what to say.

2) Boyfriends Come And Go - The truth is, a lot of teen relationships don't last a lifetime. Boys come and go, whilst best friends will be there for you. You will be hurt a lot by the fact that you have to have a relationship after relationship.

3) Overprotective - Sometimes your boyfriend is just too overprotective. The sight of boys talking to you or others making you feel uncomfortable immediately sets up his temper. Despite wanting to protect you with all his might, he might be trying too hard to carry out that mission.

4) He Might Flirt Around - Most boys these days tend to have a reputation around school, so chances are he'll flirt with other girls, not noticing that he's hurting you.
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And that is the final piece of the Pros and Cons of having a boyfriend and best friend. Of course, everyone is different, so there will possibly be more or less added to the Advantages and Disadvantages.

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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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I agree.. if you choose your best friend over your boyfriend or vice versa that would ruin the relationship you have with the person. I once chose my boyfriend over my best friend and after that, it resulted into something really bad but I would say that I definitely learnt my lesson and wouldn't make that decision again.

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should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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I think u should keep them equal. Ur best friends is a very close person and is very special to u. But  it also is how it bf would treat u. If he treats u like the world he does need to be loved back. If he treats u like a normal girlfriend then ur best friend needs to be with u.



should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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Really, I'd pick boyfriend, but the more logical thing to do, would be to keep with your friends. This is many because, at our age, we tend not to "fall in love" but that "love" is actually mere lust at a young age, so you guys aren't likely to be together for years on end. Where as friends would stay with you for a long time, if they're true.


should boyfriends that you are in love with be chosen over best friends

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honestly i agree with you its either sisters before misters or no sisters at all i learned that the hard way

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