“Mutual caring relationships require kindness and patience, tolerance, optimism, joy in the other's achievements, confidence in oneself, and the ability to give without undue thought of gain.”
All you people saying "looks don't matter i'm such a good person", you're lying.
Whether you like it or not, you judge people you meet based on how they look.
I'm not saying that I only care about looks, but I can't say I don't care about them.
You wouldn't date a whale that has a nice personality.