my opinion :

 

You need to be very careful of the words you choose when speaking to your children. The children absorb everything you say and it becomes a part of the person that they grow up to be.

When you yell you are out of control and it does not help an out of control child to calm down if they sense the adults around them are out of control too.


what do u think guys ?

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I agree. But spanking them is wrong too. 

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Sometimes, if really strong words are said, yelling is so much worse than getting slapped. So I guess it really depends on the situation...

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"Jelly3" wrote:

I agree. But spanking them is wrong too. 

Spanking a kid when they need it is not wrong in any way so long as its not there face, neck, or chest aria.  Different kids need different punishments (we don't all learn the same way)

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I think yelling is worse than spanking. Yelling tears a kid down and makes them feel like they aren't worth anything. It can make them feeel like their parents don't care about them and it only helps the parent. Some kida need to get spanked to learn. Some need to get grounded or have things taken away but yelling is never good.

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It depends on what kind of mistakes have kids done, so I guess spanking is worse than yelling

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It depends on how loud you yell, what words you use and what sort of child it is. For spanking, it depends on where and how hard you actually slap. For a younger child yelling would be worse as it can be scary too but for an older child spanking would probably be seen as embarrassing and it would hurt a bit too, making worse for that child.

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yelling isn't exactly the psychological torture people make it out to be

really

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In my opinion spanking is no good. Just really wrong. But yelling is something that has to be done. Under some real strict conditions like without the usage of inappropriate language, being too loud that it scares the kid, and its a matter of the age of the kid your talking to. We yell at kids to bring them on right track. Not mentally wear them out. So i support the right type of yelling. On the other hand, accidentally or purposely even, i don't support spanking kids. Its just abusing them and i'm very much against it. You have to talk to kids if they are wrong.

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Yelling at kids is equally damaging as spanking them. Neither stop the child from doing whatever the parent wanted them to stop doing, and both have the potential to cause behavior problems or depression for the kid. That's what the research says, anyway. 

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