×
Back left 6d79ffa2165c70419b5d81367025d889a832b878a14a24f303dd5f6f59a4f2c5
Back right 7131bbac0729874ea35f73598ddf94d2e1f7db07d23b55f12e0a2064353ff6d7

Mom's Body-Shaming Me. What do I do?

Celebs cartoon cfce93feab0316bf700026de7ec97f7de6e9ad1915d2ce24ce54a99a68a2b199
Posted 5 months ago

Posted By:

Thumb
I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing.
I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives.
How should I deal with this?

I.... lost all the pictures I had here.

But... I...




I'll need a minute.


Posted 5 months ago

Posted By:

Thumb
Posts: 90

Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course

"You'll never be the man your mom is".


Posted 5 months ago

Posted By:

Thumb
Goodness...

I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it.

There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently.

Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.)

ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you.

If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her.

Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun.

Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.


News Feed

To view your full News Feed please Login using your Username and Password or Register with Kidzworld!

Forum Activity

What book are you currently... in Books and Comics posted by SuperhitArtemis005
In what house did you get s... in Books and Comics posted by SuperhitArtemis005
What Song are You Addicted ... in Everything Music posted by sleepoverules222
Who did Emma Watson play be... in Celebs posted by SuperhitArtemis005
abortion is murder in Politics and Current Events posted by Mylifesofar
What Song are You Addicted ... in Everything Music posted by ThePaleWalker636
The Wrong Answers Game! :3 ... in Forum Games posted by H3LLSCRIVVER
The Wrong Answers Game! :3 ... in Forum Games posted by aashilove
What Song are You Addicted ... in Everything Music posted by H3LLSCRIVVER
Top Music 2017! in Everything Music posted by Wolf74
The Wrong Answers Game! :3 ... in Forum Games posted by BlackWolfee
The person below me in Forum Games posted by rainbowpoptart
School of Heirs [ATJ | Limi... in School posted by fandom-in-reverse
Killer of my Life Chapter O... in Private Roleplay posted by CaptJolee
Throw anything at the user ... in Forum Games posted by BlackWolfee
The Great Release | Open in General Roleplays posted by fandom-in-reverse
The Young Heroes Program Ma... in General Roleplays posted by fandom-in-reverse
What Song are You Addicted ... in Everything Music posted by Wolf74
Illuminati yes or no in Express Your Faith posted by babe01
Angel Hills High- A fanasty... in School posted by MrsPinkPiggy
New site layout this week! in New Features on KW posted by distant
How the Russians Interfered... in Current Events posted by jake495
School Shooting in New Features on KW posted by RedGem
what do you want to be when... in Current Events posted by resist_
What do you want for 2018 in Current Events posted by Abbergrl
what do you want to be when... in Current Events posted by Rach
What do you want for 2018 in Current Events posted by Rach
New site layout this week! in New Features on KW posted by Jordan
New site layout this week! in New Features on KW posted by SnowflakeAngelKitten
New site layout this week! in New Features on KW posted by SnowflakeAngelKitten
Happy birthday Nisha! (2/20) in Random posted by Abbergrl
Happy birthday Nisha! (2/20) in Random posted by Abbergrl
Happy birthday Nisha! (2/20) in Random posted by Abbergrl
Happy birthday Nisha! (2/20) in Random posted by rainbowpoptart
Happy birthday Nisha! (2/20) in Random posted by Mermaid_Author14
Happy birthday Nisha! (2/20) in Random posted by ValenciaRose
Abbergrl's Birthday Thingyyyy~ in Poetry & Stories posted by Abbergrl
Abbergrl's Birthday Thingyyyy~ in Poetry & Stories posted by Abbergrl
Abbergrl's Birthday Thingyyyy~ in Poetry & Stories posted by BabyMiracle83
Abbergrl's Birthday Thingyyyy~ in Poetry & Stories posted by AnnaOfExquizurd