i have alot of things going on in my life right now but the main thing i need help on is my dad. i love him to death but the side i love i rarely get to see. it has gotten so bad that at night when he gose to bed i throw like 3 or 4 beers over the back fence. do you think thats bad to do?? my brother he sometimes gose to his friends so he can be away from my dad whenever he is drunk. i stay in my room. and my mom left him for the same reason.whenever he is drunk its like he is another person we argue and when ever that happened i got kicked out 2 times. Do you think i should keep on throwing his beers over the fence and do you think i should like talk to him about his problem?? please answer because im am tired of seeing my dad look at the bottom of a beer bottleS. AND IF YOU THINK YOU CAN GIVE ME MORE ADVICE THAT WOULD BE HELPFUL

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"Ztarr" wrote:

i have alot of things going on in my life right now but the main thing i need help on is my dad. i love him to death but the side i love i rarely get to see. it has gotten so bad that at night when he gose to bed i throw like 3 or 4 beers over the back fence. do you think thats bad to do?? my brother he sometimes gose to his friends so he can be away from my dad whenever he is drunk. i stay in my room. and my mom left him for the same reason.whenever he is drunk its like he is another person we argue and when ever that happened i got kicked out 2 times. Do you think i should keep on throwing his beers over the fence and do you think i should like talk to him about his problem?? please answer because im am tired of seeing my dad look at the bottom of a beer bottleS. AND IF YOU THINK YOU CAN GIVE ME MORE ADVICE THAT WOULD BE HELPFUL

throwing it away isn't going to help, 'specially  not behind his back. he  needs to deal with whatever problem(s) that's causing him to drink excessively.  since you guys fight on a regular basis, I suggest a letter rather than direct confrontation. In the letter, tell him you love him, that your rarely get to see the side of him that you love and that you want to help him get better. Ask him to go to a professional for help or AA meetings.

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i think that u should talk to him about it .my dad is an alcoholic 2 and it got so bad my mom kicked  him out because it wasnt a safe inviorment when i was around him and my other dad is in prison so its just me and my mom and my sister i know my dad misses me so i told him it was me or the beer

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thats a good idea about the letter mybe i should try it that way i wont face the real fear of talkin 2 my dad

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I think you should just maybe, When he is sober, Talk to him, If that doesnt work, Talk to your closest friends and if your close to their parents then talk to them, Also on the childline website theres forums like this and then the childline people look into the things, But i wouldnt do that if you love him so much, Maybe look up Drinking meetings inyour area which are places where single parents can talk and stop drinking, Buy loads of juices and he may really like some juice, I dont know I just think you need to do something, Cause it sounds quite bad.

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Well, I have an adult friend of the family who has the same problem, he would drink.....7 beers, but he is a hard drinker, so that does not get him drunk, drinking is not illegal, and unless you leave you're house, its not against the law to be drunk either, now, however it is illegal to be abusive to you're chldren, and influencing you're children, you can even report him to the cops for negelent parenting, and he could get rehabilitation. That is one way out.

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thankyou and well im sorry and i least i have someone to talk to now and whwnever you need to taalk to me just let me know kk

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"Autumn_Rocks" wrote:

I think you should just maybe, When he is sober, Talk to him, If that doesnt work, Talk to your closest friends and if your close to their parents then talk to them, Also on the childline website theres forums like this and then the childline people look into the things, But i wouldnt do that if you love him so much, Maybe look up Drinking meetings inyour area which are places where single parents can talk and stop drinking, Buy loads of juices and he may really like some juice, I dont know I just think you need to do something, Cause it sounds quite bad.

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"Ztarr" wrote:

i have alot of things going on in my life right now but the main thing i need help on is my dad. i love him to death but the side i love i rarely get to see. it has gotten so bad that at night when he gose to bed i throw like 3 or 4 beers over the back fence. do you think thats bad to do?? my brother he sometimes gose to his friends so he can be away from my dad whenever he is drunk. i stay in my room. and my mom left him for the same reason.whenever he is drunk its like he is another person we argue and when ever that happened i got kicked out 2 times. Do you think i should keep on throwing his beers over the fence and do you think i should like talk to him about his problem?? please answer because im am tired of seeing my dad look at the bottom of a beer bottleS. AND IF YOU THINK YOU CAN GIVE ME MORE ADVICE THAT WOULD BE HELPFUL

Just try to tell him how you feel! When you see him get a beer or any alcohol, tell him, it makes his kids and his own wife not want to be around him.

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I have an alcoholic friend...Her name is !.KylieRawr.! Whenever she is around me she is always drunk! After a few days, she had to  go to rehab! Plz help me out with some advice ! She really needs help!!

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