Dear Dish-It,
My mom told me I can't talk to my crush anymore! I just told her about some bad choices he made, and now I'm not allowed to talk to him! He did hurt me but I still like him. She told me to like another guy, but I just like Enrique so much! It may be love – what should I do?
true2myself
Dear true2myself,
First thing’s first. It is NOT love if this guy hurt you. In fact, you should focus on that instead of any good times or good feelings you had with or about Enrique. A guy that hurt you once will hurt you again and again and again if you give him the chance. So why not be a strong girl and move on from this crush, just like your mom suggested?
As for talking to your crush without your mom’s permission, well, I think that’s a decision you should have made yourself. As soon as someone hurts you in a relationship, it’s usually time to call it quits with him or her. Why would you want to give someone who hurt you (and who is most likely going to hurt you again) the time of day?
You need to gain some more self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence, and figure out what your mom already knows about you – that you deserve a lot more and a lot better than someone who has no problem hurting your feelings. That way you’ll be able to make the right decisions about future crushes and relationships yourself – or at least be able to recognize good advice when your mom offers it to you.
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