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Dear Dish-It: Now He's Mad At Me!

Oct 25, 2009

Dear Dish-It,

There is a boy in my class and he looks at me and laughs at all my jokes when half the time they're really not that funny. He will look at me and smile or stare for a while. Just recently he moved because I asked him if he could stop staring at me. He got mad and moved to a new table. Does any of that mean that he likes me? Should I start being nice or just still ignore him?


Dear supergirl,

I'm confused! Do you like him or not? It sure does sound like he had a little crush on you. But now that his feelings are hurt, I'm not sure if he's changed his mind.

If you DO like him and regret making him feel bad about staring at you, then you need to talk to him about it in private. Tell him that you're sorry and that you didn't mean to hurt his feelings. Then it will have to be up to YOU to put your heart on the line - if you want to let him know you like him back. Explain that his staring at you just made you a bit nervous, and you didn't know what to do, but that you do really like him. Then wait and see what he says.

If you DON'T like him and you're just asking me whether you should apologize to him or not, well, I'd still say YES, you do owe him an apology, especially if you feel bad about hurting his feelings. If he accepts your apology and accidentally mistakes it for something more, then you may have the same problem on your hands as before. If that happens, maybe just explain that you only want to be friends with him but you don't have a crush on him.

Either way, BE NICE. It always pays to be nice to other people, no matter how you feel about them and no matter how they feel (or you THINK they feel) about you. Remember: Always treat others the way you'd like them to treat you.

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