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Dear Dish-It: Is He Shy Or Not?

Apr 11, 2010

Dear Dish-It,

I went to my school dance the other night. I walked up to possible love interest, complimented him and he asked to dance. I sat next to him and the convo was seriously stuck in the mud. We glanced at each other all night and I went to ask him to dance, he said no. Five minutes before leaving one of his friends came to me and said I should go ask him to dance. I’ve been flirting and asking to dance the whole night, I don’t think I could have been more obvious. I sent him 2 texts later in the week. No response. He is shy, but I can’t think why, sporty, smart, cute. Is he interested or only interested in seeing if I’ll stroke his ego?


Dear Emma,

First, the bad news (don't worry, it's not THAT bad). It's IMPOSSIBLE to know what someone else is thinking without drinking a magic potion, making yourself tiny (like Alice in Wonderland) and crawling into his or her mind! Even if you asked him what he's really thinking, you may not get a straight answer. So let's just forget about HIM and concentrate on YOU.

Situations like this are tough, because you have feelings for this guy. It can be hard to set aside your emotions and truly listen to what you're heart and head are saying is really right for you. In this case, ask yourself: do you really want to waste your time (and your feelings) on a guy who SEEMS distant and disinterested in you? Even if he IS just really, really shy, is it worth it for you? Wouldn't it be so much nicer (and easier) to wait for someone who is easier to read and makes his intentions crystal clear? (Do you see where I'm going with this?)

Always remember: YOU are the most important person in your life. So try to set all those feelings and emotions aside and figure out what the best thing for you to do is! You can't go wrong!

(Here another secret: Guys are odd creatures. The second you stop paying attention to them, they often decide they want to show you that they care. I say put your feelings for this guy on the backburner, focus and concentrate on yourself, and he may change his mind about letting you know how he REALLY feels.)

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