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Dear Dish-It, Are All Guys Cheaters?

Dec 27, 2006

Dear Dish-It,

I need some advice, my boyfriend and I have been goin' out for 'bout three, maybe four weeks and the day before we went out, he kissed this girl I really don't like. I didn't mind then as I wasn't goin' out with him, but now, when we walk about the streets holdin' hands, and she appears he lets go of my hand. He says he doesn't fancy her and that he luvs me. I don't know if I should be goin' out with him or not! Help plz!
littlemissnoisy


Dear littlemissnoisy,

Okay, there are two things that I think could be happening here. Best case scenario: Your dude knows that this girl has a crush on him. (I mean, heck, they kissed and the next day he's datin' you.) Everytime you two are together and he sees her, he pulls away from you because he doesn't want to rub it in her face that you've got him and she doesn't. Worst case scenario: He's got feelings for this girl and, he's playin' ya both. Now, maybe neither of these scenarios is the case, but it is definitely weird that he's pullin' away in front of this chick. You need to stay a little guarded with this hottie and not give him your heart just yet.


Dear Dish-It,

Are all guys cheats? I am only 15 but my two BFs have left me for other girls. I later found out through my best friend (who found out from, like, the whole school) that both of 'em started messing with their new GFs before we even ended it! I'm not that keen on guys lately and am wondering what to do? I don't wanna be single 4ever!
Eve4ever


Dear Eve4ever,

No, not all guys are cheats - just like not all girls are. Unfortunately, there are cheaters and users and players on both sides of the dating game - looks like you've had more than your fair share at this point. Here's what I would do - chill out and take a break from the dating game. Maybe rethink what it is that attracted you to these two guys to begin with. Sometimes, people end up datin' a certain type of person (the cheatin' type) without realizing that there is a similarity in their personalities that they could have been used as a warning sign. Don't blame yourself - just figure out what these two losers had in common and try to avoid it next time. Also, take it slow next time. Get to know the guy pretty well before committing to 'em. Hang in there and good luck!


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