Valentine’s Day is the perfect day to tell your crush how you feel about them. But what if you’re too shy to say it in person or to their face? Here are some tips and ideas on how to write the perfect Secret Admirer Note for the person you love – even if they don’t know it yet!
What To Do
First thing’s first. If you’re going to write a note to your crush, you need to make sure you’re doing the right thing. In some cases, it may be best to just let your crush know you like them and skip the whole “secrecy” part of it. But if you really feel like writing a note is the way to go, just remember not to overdo it or you’ll look like a stalker. Write the note, keep it simple, drop it off secretly and let fate do its work.
Say What You Feel
The first key to a great Secret Admirer Note is to clearly state how you feel about the person. Don’t go on and on about it or be confusing or vague. That will make you seem creepy. Just say you like them, maybe give one or two reasons why, and leave it at that. You want the note to be as short, simple and clear as possible – remember, this isn’t a love letter to someone you’ve been dating for years. It’s a note to your crush to let them know you’re interested and try to find out if they like you back or not. Leave the mushy stuff for your one-year anniversary!
DO: “I like you.”
DON’T: “You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You mean everything to me.”
Use Their Name
Ever heard stories of a Secret Admirer Note gone wrong? The last thing you want is for the wrong person to get their hands on it and accidentally think the note is for them! Make sure that your note gets to the right person by clearly stating his or her name somewhere in it! You can even put it in an envelope and print their name right on the front (but still make sure you put their name on the note inside, in case the note and envelope get separated). Use a pen and not a pencil – you don’t want to risk someone erasing the name and replacing it with someone else’s. And if there’s more than one “Kate” in your class, put their last initial or full last name somewhere on it, too!
DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.”
DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You mean everything to me.”
Make Them Feel Special
Think of your Secret Admirer Note as something that will compliment your crush and make him or her feel happy. But don’t say stuff that you don’t mean and make sure you only write down your true feelings – you don’t want them to think you’re head over heels in love when really you just want to get to know them a bit better and see where things go.
DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.”
DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You mean everything to me.
You’re just the best person I have ever known in my whole entire life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you and only you. I LOVE YOU!!!”
Be Confident
The most attractive thing you can be is confident with yourself. It’s definitely scary to tell someone you like them, but if you’re sure of yourself and know that you mean well then you’ll have nothing to worry about. The worst thing you can write in a Secret Admirer Note is anything that makes you seem scared or weak. You know how you feel and you know what you want – don’t be afraid to express it!
DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.
It’d be great to get to know you better.”
DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You means absolutely everything to me.
You’re just the best person I have ever known in my whole entire life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you and only you. I LOVE YOU!!!
Every night you visit me in my dreams. Then I wake up crying because I know it was all just a fantasy. I can’t live without you anymore!!! But I’m too afraid to talk to you – I’m so scared you’ll reject me!”
Reveal Your Identity?
If you want your Secret Admirer Note to really be a secret, don’t sign your name and leave it in a place where you know the right person (and only the right person) will find it. BUT, if you want something to happen, you’re going to have to take the next step:
- Sign your name on the note
- Leave a clue about your identity
- Letting them know that you wrote the note
The third option can be a good one, because you can wait to see how your crush reacts to receiving the note before you make your move. If you decide to go with option No. 2, make sure you leave a pretty good clue – the point is to get your crush to figure out who you are, not to send them on a wild-goose chase or lead them to someone other than you. If you sign your name on the note, well, it’s not really a Secret, anymore, so you can just call it an “Admirer Note!”
DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.
It’d be great to get to know you better.
From: Nick”
OR …
DO: “To Kate S:
I like you.
You seem really cool and smart.
It’d be great to get to know you better.
If you want to know who I am, look who’s sitting behind you in math class tomorrow.”
DON’T: “To My Secret Admirer:
You are the love of my life. I think about you all the time, 24 hours a day, seven days a week. You means absolutely everything to me.
You’re just the best person I have ever known in my whole entire life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you and only you. I LOVE YOU!!!
Every night you visit me in my dreams. Then I wake up crying because I know it was all just a fantasy. I can’t live without you anymore!!! But I’m too afraid to talk to you – I’m so scared you’ll reject me!
If you want to know who I am, look three desks over and five rows back in either math or science class one day this week.”
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