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Dear Dish-it: My Fam Hates My BF

Jul 11, 2010

Dear Dish-it,


What do I do if my family does not like my boyfriend? They think he is a pain in the butt but I love him a lot more than they all know. So what do I do?


confused lover


Dear CL,


It’s really tough when you feel like you have to choose between a guy and your family. But at the same time, unless they are really worried about you in terms of whether this guy you're seeing is right for you or not, then your mom and dad should support your relationship. Here are a few things to think about.


Real Deal

Is there a reason why your folks don’t like your guy? Do they think he’s mean to you or doesn’t treat you right? If that’s the case, then it might be time to do some soul searching and figure out if he’s really the guy for you. Or maybe they're worried because you’ve been distant or have started spending less time with them at home since you started dating. All of us girls have had a time when we’ve been so smitten over a stud that we’ve neglected our fam. If that’s the case, make it point to let them know that you still love them a lot and you’ll try (and you will!) to make some more time for them.


Talk About It Out

On the other hand, if he’s treating you right and you’ve made sure you're balancing both boy and family time, then it might be time to have a serious sitdown with your parents. Let them know how you’ve been feeling, and make sure they understand that it's really important to you that they like and accept the guy who means most to you right now.


Guy Greet

Another thing you can do is have your boy spend more time with your family getting to know them, and letting them get to know him. The more your mom and pop get to know and spend time with your BF, the sooner they’ll see why you like him. I know it’s a tricky situation, but you can do it. Everything always works out in the end.


Sound Off

Would you keep dating a girl or guy that your mom or dad didn't like? Have your say by leaving a comment below this story!


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