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Mom's Body-Shaming Me. What do I do?

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Posted about 1 year ago

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I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing.
I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives.
How should I deal with this?

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Posted about 1 year ago

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Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course

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Posted about 1 year ago

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I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it.

There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently.

Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.)

ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you.

If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her.

Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun.

Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.

Posted 7 months ago

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I'm so sorry my mom does the same and I am the same weight if u needs talk I'm here

Posted 7 months ago

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I understand how you feel. here are some things you could do.
1) Sit down with your mom and have a proper talk about her constant nagging about your weight
2) or, you Could go to the gym and try to make it fun by:
-going with a/some friend(s) 
-try to find a sportt/workout you like, because eventhough you might not be overweight, some sport or workout every now and then can't o any harm.
-buy some amazing clothes that make you feel good
-always bring music
-you could also try going to the gym with your mom, if she gives up, you could too.
3) if your mom gets really mean about it, talk to another close adult or a counselor

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