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Dear Dish-It: Mom Won't Let Me Talk To Him

Dear Dish-It,

My mom told me I can't talk to my crush anymore! I just told her about some bad choices he made, and now I'm not allowed to talk to him! He did hurt me but I still like him. She told me to like another guy, but I just like Enrique so much! It may be love – what should I do?

true2myself


Dear true2myself,


First thing’s first. It is NOT love if this guy hurt you. In fact, you should focus on that instead of any good times or good feelings you had with or about Enrique. A guy that hurt you once will hurt you again and again and again if you give him the chance. So why not be a strong girl and move on from this crush, just like your mom suggested?


As for talking to your crush without your mom’s permission, well, I think that’s a decision you should have made yourself. As soon as someone hurts you in a relationship, it’s usually time to call it quits with him or her. Why would you want to give someone who hurt you (and who is most likely going to hurt you again) the time of day?


You need to gain some more self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence, and figure out what your mom already knows about you – that you deserve a lot more and a lot better than someone who has no problem hurting your feelings. That way you’ll be able to make the right decisions about future crushes and relationships yourself – or at least be able to recognize good advice when your mom offers it to you.


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 @isabellax same
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Ashleexo posted in Family Issues:
"Sophieex_" wrote:I'm not afraid of either of my parents. But if I could choose, my mom. I'm also not afraid of either of my parents at anytime.  But when I was 13 and under and in trouble, it would be my dad.
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country_girl19
If you really want to get rid of the romantic feelings for him, just try picturing a future with him, and also asking these questions in your head, "Is he a good guy?" "Would we last?" But maybe he's acting awkward around you, because your friend asked him to Prom, but he might rather go with you, but doesn't know how to say anything about the situation. I would suggest talking to him about it, and if he is a jerk about it, don't bother. But talk to him first, and if he has the same feelings, then talk to your friend about it. I just want to warn you, that if you do this, you and others could get their feelings hurt. Crushes are a risky, scary thing in high school. Anyway, that's what I think you should do. If you don't want to do that, then follow what your intuition tells you.
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