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Dear Dish-It: Mom Won't Let Me Talk To Him

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Dear Dish-It,

My mom told me I can't talk to my crush anymore! I just told her about some bad choices he made, and now I'm not allowed to talk to him! He did hurt me but I still like him. She told me to like another guy, but I just like Enrique so much! It may be love – what should I do?

true2myself


Dear true2myself,


First thing’s first. It is NOT love if this guy hurt you. In fact, you should focus on that instead of any good times or good feelings you had with or about Enrique. A guy that hurt you once will hurt you again and again and again if you give him the chance. So why not be a strong girl and move on from this crush, just like your mom suggested?


As for talking to your crush without your mom’s permission, well, I think that’s a decision you should have made yourself. As soon as someone hurts you in a relationship, it’s usually time to call it quits with him or her. Why would you want to give someone who hurt you (and who is most likely going to hurt you again) the time of day?


You need to gain some more self-esteem, self-respect and self-confidence, and figure out what your mom already knows about you – that you deserve a lot more and a lot better than someone who has no problem hurting your feelings. That way you’ll be able to make the right decisions about future crushes and relationships yourself – or at least be able to recognize good advice when your mom offers it to you.


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animefreakXD

animefreakXD wrote:

listen to your mom, he's bad news!
commented: Mon Nov 04, 2013

supahninja65

supahninja65 wrote:

Listen to ur mom he hurt u
commented: Sun Apr 22, 2012

butterfly7483

butterfly7483 wrote:

if my mom did that i will still talk to him anyway who is with me now wont you do the s...
commented: Sat Apr 21, 2012

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InternetOwl
What part of it are you scared of? Is it eating in public and around other people, or just eating in general?  What it might be, if it's eating in public you don't like, is social anxiety, or social phobia. You should ask your doctor to check, because if it is, they can offer you ways to help. For instance, they might recommend therapists or group sessions to help ease your fear.  Even if it's just a phobia or, in unlikelier circumstances, an eating disorder, you should still go to your doctor or a therapist so you can try to overcome it. Try doing things that calm you down before these situations as well, like exercise, reading or listening to music (I'm not sure what relaxes you but sometimes these help). Also, you should try to slowly get used to the situations. So don't force yourself to eat straight away when you're out, but slowly start doing so whenever your comfortable with doing so. Unlike your mum wants, you can't just "stop" being scared because that's not how it works.  But right now, please don't force yourself into any of these situations. It's not good for your mental health to be forced to face a phobia of yours often. 
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ElfyKathy
Dear Dish-It, Within the last few years I have felt a bit sick and shaky when we go out to eat. It's not so bad when it's a carvery lunch or something at a pub, but settling down for a chocolate brownie and a milkshake shakes me up. Don't get me wrong, I love going out with Mum, but it's just sitting down and taking a bite. I want to chuck it in the bin. I love eating brownies and stuff at home and I'm pretty healthy. But I refuse to go to the town before lunch in fear. Mum told me I got to stop this or I'm going to develop a terrible phobia.  Please help! ElfyKathy, worried
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NianiNaturallyNerdy3
She isn't jealous she is just dissappointed that you chose to get lessons when she did to get better . She had to get better to catch up to you so you can enjoyher as your best friend. Then you went ahead and got lessons as if you needed them. She is just upset that you showed off a talent that she didn't have. And she tried to get better to impress you but you got better as well. Which kept her at the stage she will always be at my best friend sings way betyer than me but I try. 
reply about 3 hours
NianiNaturallyNerdy3
It may be hard but break it down to them we aren't friends but we can be associates. It may leave them a bit dissappointed but tell them we aren't in the same category to be as close as friends. 
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