Dear Dish-It: My Boyfriend Or My Best Friend?
i have a boyfriend and his name is daniel. My best friend likes him and im afraid shes going to be mad at me if she finds out im dating him and i cant lose my best friend again. im nervous! what do i do!?
If you really like this guy and want to see where things with him could go, then you’ve got to tell your best friend how you feel. Will it hurt her? Yeah, probably. But it will sting so much more if you don’t clue her in.
So sit your best friend down and talk to her about how you feel. Make sure she understands how much you care about her and her feelings, and that while you would never want to do anything to hurt or betray her, you really like this guy, and if it’s OK with her, you’d like to give things a shot with him.
Of course she may say that it’s not OK with her and she’d prefer if you didn’t go after him. If that happens, you have a choice to make. You can either go for him anyway and risk losing your friend, or you can respect her wishes.
But the important thing to realize is that you deserve happiness and if you truly like this guy you have every right to go for him, but in doing so, be open and honest with your best friend and show consideration for her feelings. If you expect her to be a good friend to you then you need to do the same for her.