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Dear Dish-It: My Boyfriend Or My Best Friend?

Dear Dish-It,
i have a boyfriend and his name is daniel. My best friend likes him and im afraid shes going to be mad at me if she finds out im dating him and i cant lose my best friend again. im nervous! what do i do!?
Cinderella


Dear Cinderella,


If you really like this guy and want to see where things with him could go, then you’ve got to tell your best friend how you feel. Will it hurt her? Yeah, probably. But it will sting so much more if you don’t clue her in.


So sit your best friend down and talk to her about how you feel. Make sure she understands how much you care about her and her feelings, and that while you would never want to do anything to hurt or betray her, you really like this guy, and if it’s OK with her, you’d like to give things a shot with him.


Of course she may say that it’s not OK with her and she’d prefer if you didn’t go after him. If that happens, you have a choice to make. You can either go for him anyway and risk losing your friend, or you can respect her wishes.


But the important thing to realize is that you deserve happiness and if you truly like this guy you have every right to go for him, but in doing so, be open and honest with your best friend and show consideration for her feelings. If you expect her to be a good friend to you then you need to do the same for her.



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moongemowl
moongemowl posted in Friends:
Okay, I've NEVER posted anything about my friends before, so bear with me. I've known that me and my BFF have the same crush since we met in 5th grade. But it always seems that my BFF is closer to him than I'll ever be. They went to 2 school dances together while I'm still in the friend zone with my crush. I pretend to not care but I really do care. I've never been in this situation before and don't know what to do about it. Should I tell my BFF how I feel or wait this whole thing out? Or even forget my crush being my crush and find a new crush? HELP!!!!!   :love :confused
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jordand08
Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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jordand08
You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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