Dear Dish-It: I’m Worried About My BFF

Dear Dish-It,
my bff is 14 and she is dating a guy who is 16 and he has a son so i am worried a bout my bff what should i do?
icy girl

Dear icy,

Well, the first thing you can do is talk to your best friend about the situation and explain to her why you are worried about her boyfriend. But, instead of giving her a lecture, try talking to her in a way that will make her come to her own decision about the guy she is dating.

In order to do that, you can try asking her questions that she can answer herself that will make her feel like she deserves to be with someone better than the guy she currently likes. Ask her if she’s really ready to take on the responsibility of someone else’s child, and if she realizes that no matter what, this guy will always have another woman in his life – his son’s mother. Is she ready to deal with that?

Beyond that, I’m afraid there’s not much more you can do. Just be there and be a friend to her. Even if you have a really strong feeling that what she’s getting involved with is wrong, there’s not much that will help besides talking to her and letting her come to you when she needs an ear to listen.


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