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Dear Dish-It: I Get Nervous Talking To Guys

Dear Dish-It,

i like this boy tons.....but when i am around him i act like i hate him and know he some how found out and know i am deniying that i like him i am scared and confused what do i do??

tatiana


Dear tatiana,


Talking to someone of the opposite sex (in this case, a boy) is something that gets easier with time. The more you talk the easier it is to relax. Remember that he is human, just like you. Start with simple conversation topics. A simple "Hello, how are you?" can go a long way. Be friendly and courteous. Be someone who is easy to talk to and not someone who is mean and hateful. Ask about the weather or a TV show that was on the night before.


Find common interests. Talk about things that both of you like, such as a favorite band or sports team. Discuss hobbies and interests in hopes of finding a common ground. If you share a class together, talk about the lesson plan or homework assignments.


Use your common sense. Most boys don't want to talk about Barbie. Try to stick to topics that will keep the conversation going. Don't make yourself seem boring. Dead silence can often be awkward.


Ask questions. If you are interested in talking to him, ask for more details when he mentions something, but be careful not to pry into things that may be personal. The only way you will know the answers is if you ask.


Be someone that people want to talk to. Don't talk trashy or degrade others. No one wants to hang out with the drama queen. Don't be gossipy or a back stabber. Think before you speak. Remember that words can be hurtful. Try not to be shallow or superficial. Be real.


As you build your confidence, you will see that there is nothing to it. Low self-esteem can easily be picked up on. Keep a positive outlook. If you think the conversation is dying down, save face. Don't be stuck searching for something to say in the silence. Find a way to excuse yourself so that he’ll still want to talk to you again sometime. Be someone that you would want to be friends with and you cannot go wrong.


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