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Being Thin & Small Can Suck

Being Thin & Small Can Suck - Reviewed by Kidzworld on Dec 27, 2006
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Weight issues can affect teens of all sizes. Some kids think theyre too fat and get teased about it, but did you know that kids get teased for being too short and thin? Read on if youre on the other half of the scale.

Some peeps are bigger or heavier and they get teased about it. But, did you know peeps also get teased for being small? Life Coach Lisa helps out a Kidzworld member who gets bugged for being tiny.

1Dear Life Coach Lisa,

I get teased sooooo much, because I'm going into the 8th grade, but I'm only 4'9" and I only weigh 85 pounds. It hurts my feelings a lot. And on top of that, I'm the only one now without a boyfriend! But I'm really sweet, funny, & cute. What should I do?
Blue_ladybug

Hi Blue_ladybug

It's really tough to get teased for anything - specially when you can't change how you look and you can't make yourself grow. It's great that you know that you have more important things than the physical. We all know the inside is more important because those things never change but your body will be changing your whole life. So what now? Often the people who tease you the most are actually jealous of something about you. It takes a lot, but those ones you have to ignore. They are not your friends and who would want friends like that anyway? Not you. It sounds like you have some friends that are good to you, so see if you can confide in them that these things that people are saying are hurting you. It helps sometimes to say it aloud, too. Teasing back encourages teasers, so hopefully you aren't doing that! It doesn't sound like you are - so good for you.

Ask your mom when she started her growth spurt and how that was for her? Usually moms and daughters are similar and she may remember how it felt and may be able to help you. Also, if it helps, it is an advantage to grow a little slower than average because often those kids are thinner adults. I know that seems like a long way away but you can think of that when the bigger, heavier kids tease you. It can be your little secret. I know this for a fact because I too was exactly the same. I remember hitting 100 lbs when I was well into high school. Now I am 5'4 and 115 pounds and that's just fine with me. About the boyfriend thing, you have all the time in the world for lots of those (when your bigger friends are at Weight Watchers you'll be busy dating.) Kidding! But seriously, right now focus on making some great male friends - it will be way easier when the right time for datin' comes - you will have lots of practice dealing with boys (sometimes they can be difficult!!)

Also join a team or something where you can use your smaller size to your advantage, such as long distance running or biking - the smallest are often the fastest because you need to be light. And lastly, like every other challenge this will go away, you will grow so keep your sense of humor and have fun with lots of good friends (boys or girls) instead of moping about boyfriends. Good luck!

Got a prob or a question to do with health, fitness or other weighty issues? Why not ? And be sure to keep checkin' back in the Locker Room for more cool advice and tips from Kidzworld's Life Coach, Lisa!

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My parents have always been aggressive and abusive and I only just noticed it a couple months ago. Over time they've gotten worse (specifically my mother). Whenever she gets mad she'll yell at us and if she gets mad enough she'll hit and push us around. Whoever we get into arguments it's always one- sided and she always wins, even if she knows she is wrong. An argument we had not to long ago was about me not taking care of myself. She looked at my hair and started to touch it and told me "Your hair isn't soft why is it so dry, it's probably because you aren't taking care of your hair." Then she goes on to tell me that she's going to cut it and all of this other stuff when she knows I'm conscious about me looking like a boy ( Used to get called a boy for having short hair). As the argument goes on, I start to tell her things that she knows she is wrong about. She proceeds to yell at me then grabs me by the face and say "If you don't lower your tone and listen to what I'm saying I'm going to knock you in the head." Then she goes on to tell me she remembers nothing I was saying and that it's a lie. She also hit me when I didn't clean the laundry room correctly and whenever she gets fed up. I'm constantly having to watch what I say and do, because I'm scared that I'm going to end up hurt. She also likes to degrade me and tell how bad I'm doing. She's said plenty of thing like when I didn't have my bed covers tucked in she yelled at me and hit me and I said "Do you expect me to just stand here and take this", and she replied saying "That's what you are supposed to do you are the child and I am the adult, you take whatever I do until I'm done." Another time is when I had my band concert and I had to pick out the right attire. When we went shopping to get the clothing I chose slacks when she liked a skirt better, we went on to fight in the store and she bought the slacks. When we got home she said to me that real girls wear skirts and dresses and boys wear slacks and pants. This hurt me because she knows I have a past with people telling me I look like a boy etc. Another time I started to sleep on the floor, because I was practicing a minimalist life. When I left my pillows on the floor she found it and questioned me on why they were there. I told her it fell of my bed when really I left it there. Later when I told my dad, he told her and she got mad because I was getting cat hair on my pillows. She then proceeded to ask why I lied and I told her sometimes lying is better then the truth (I knew she would get mad that I was sleeping on the floor so I lied) then she told me that I was never going to have a relationship, a job, or friends ( This hurt me because I don't have friends now). 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Dear Kkmr324, I hope you get to feeling better as time goes on.  It does get better but like you said you can't actually get over it.  Losing someone to cancer is awful and I have never lost a friend and I hope I never will and I am so sorry that you did, but I have lost family to cancer and it is horrible.  I hope your okay. :(
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A few months ago,my friend Kendall died of cancer. It was really hard to "get over it"; because really you dont just get over it. One thing i did was find a bunch of pictures of me and Kendall and remembered all the fun we had together. And it helped! I still miss her, but good friends and family helped with that.
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Kkrmr324 posted in Family Issues:
A few months ago,my friend Kendall died of cancer. It was really hard to "get over it"; because really you dont just get over it. One thing i did was find a bunch of pictures of me and Kendall and remembered all the fun we had together. And it helped! I still miss her, but good friends and family helped with that.
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why are you allowing that to control your happiness? why can't you have true happiness instead of chasing some dream for momentary satisfaction? You're 12. This is when your core beliefs, values, and outlooks on life start. Don't mess it up choosing to be sad over something like that.
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