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Being Thin & Small Can Suck

Advice & help for teens on health and fitness issues like being teased about being too short or too thin.
Life Coach Lisa De Lusignan
Being Thin & Small Can Suck - Reviewed by Kidzworld on Dec 27, 2006
( Rating: 1 Star Rating)

Weight issues can affect teens of all sizes. Some kids think they're too fat and get teased about it, but did you know that kids get teased for being too short and thin? Read on if you're on the other half of the scale.

Some peeps are bigger or heavier and they get teased about it. But, did you know peeps also get teased for being small? Life Coach Lisa helps out a Kidzworld member who gets bugged for being tiny.

1Dear Life Coach Lisa,

I get teased sooooo much, because I'm going into the 8th grade, but I'm only 4'9" and I only weigh 85 pounds. It hurts my feelings a lot. And on top of that, I'm the only one now without a boyfriend! But I'm really sweet, funny, & cute. What should I do?
Blue_ladybug

Hi Blue_ladybug

It's really tough to get teased for anything - specially when you can't change how you look and you can't make yourself grow. It's great that you know that you have more important things than the physical. We all know the inside is more important because those things never change but your body will be changing your whole life. So what now? Often the people who tease you the most are actually jealous of something about you. It takes a lot, but those ones you have to ignore. They are not your friends and who would want friends like that anyway? Not you. It sounds like you have some friends that are good to you, so see if you can confide in them that these things that people are saying are hurting you. It helps sometimes to say it aloud, too. Teasing back encourages teasers, so hopefully you aren't doing that! It doesn't sound like you are - so good for you.

Ask your mom when she started her growth spurt and how that was for her? Usually moms and daughters are similar and she may remember how it felt and may be able to help you. Also, if it helps, it is an advantage to grow a little slower than average because often those kids are thinner adults. I know that seems like a long way away but you can think of that when the bigger, heavier kids tease you. It can be your little secret. I know this for a fact because I too was exactly the same. I remember hitting 100 lbs when I was well into high school. Now I am 5'4 and 115 pounds and that's just fine with me. About the boyfriend thing, you have all the time in the world for lots of those (when your bigger friends are at Weight Watchers you'll be busy dating.) Kidding! But seriously, right now focus on making some great male friends - it will be way easier when the right time for datin' comes - you will have lots of practice dealing with boys (sometimes they can be difficult!!)

Also join a team or something where you can use your smaller size to your advantage, such as long distance running or biking - the smallest are often the fastest because you need to be light. And lastly, like every other challenge this will go away, you will grow so keep your sense of humor and have fun with lots of good friends (boys or girls) instead of moping about boyfriends. Good luck!

Got a prob or a question to do with health, fitness or other weighty issues? Why not ? And be sure to keep checkin' back in the Locker Room for more cool advice and tips from Kidzworld's Life Coach, Lisa!

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justicegirly

justicegirly wrote:

like what kid of girls the ones that are your friends on kidzworld or what????
commented: Mon Mar 05, 2012

smethan

smethan wrote:

I like girls that are small and thin.
commented: Sat Mar 03, 2012

justicegirly

justicegirly wrote:

your right being thin and small sucks
commented: Thu Mar 01, 2012

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This might seem obvious but is there anyone else you might be able to walk home with? I always try to solve problems simply first. If yes, than I encourage you to invite that person to walk home with you. If not - let's take a step back and figure our why you are feeling left out/ignored.  Do your friends talk about things that you don't understand, do they block you from participating in the conversation? If you guys have to walk together and there is no choice in the matter - YOU be the initiator of great conversation. Confidently smile - and talk to BOTH of them at the same time. It's so helpful to be able to navigate a conversation generously. That means you be the one on the high road - ask questions, people love talking about things that are interesting to them. Ask questions and figure out what common things all three of you have together and before you know it your walk will be over.  Hope this helps. Let us know what happens.  Inclusivity totally kicks butt over exclusivity! 
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