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Dear Dish-It, I've Been Dumped Three Times


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

This guy and I were dating. I was totally in love with him! The guy of my dreams! But he broke up with me two times. The third time he asked me to be his girlfriend, he promised he wouldn't break up with me. What happens? I have a fight with his friend and he breaks up with me... AGAIN! Just cuz his friend and I aren't friends anymore. But now I totally miss him. Every time I see a picture of him, I feel so alone. I try to forget him but it's IMPOSSIBLE! What should I do?
Spicecookie25


Dear Spicecookie25,

What you need to do is move on. If looking at pics of him drives you crazy, throw those pics away. Hang out with other friends and set your sights on a new cutie. He's broken your heart three times in a row, I think it's safe to say that you two are not meant to be. Although it will be tough to get over this guy, it has to be done, unless you have a weird desire to be miserable for the rest of your life.


Dear Dish-It,

I have TWO guys that like me! And they are brothers! TWIN BROTHERS! I met Kevin first, then I met Mike a week later! Kevin liked me and then Mike met me and started flirting, (but it wasn't because Kevin was flirting.) Anyway, Kevin is a wild guy, a player. And Mike is sooo sweet. It's been two years and Mike still likes me and Kevin has a GF but is still flirting with me. Mike and Kevin fight a lot (even in front of me,) over me. Mike and I have kissed but we both don't wanna hurt Kevin. HELP!
dancing7


Dear dancing7,

I think this is a pretty simple situation. You and Mike really like each other and his player twin brother currently has a GF. Why are you even worrying about him? He has no reason to get bent out of shape if you and Mike decide to hook up. Just because he keeps flirting with you, doesn't mean he has a claim on you. It just makes him an even bigger jerk for disregarding the feelings of his girlfriend. It seems pretty obvious that you've chosen the right brother, so stick with Mike and forget about what player Kevin has to say.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this one boy and he says he likes me. And his friends say that he likes me. But I don't know what to think cuz in earlier relationships he has acted really mean to me and once made me cry. But I can't help liking him. What should I do?
Lau-Lau11


Dear Lau-Lau11,

In what earlier relationships has this guy been mean to you? While dating someone else, or while dating you? If you and this boy have dated before and he treated you badly, then chances are, he hasn't changed. If he brushed you off cuz he was seeing someone else then chances are, he was just trying to avoid troubles with his current GF, not actually trying to be mean to you. If you think that you two could have a good time together, then go for it. You can take things slow and if it looks like he's back to his bad self, then you can tell him to take a hike!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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