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Dear Dish-It, I Need to Know If I'm Ugly

Help for teens with low self-esteem and other problems.
Teen Advice on Self-Esteem

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Hey what's up gurl! 'Aight here's my story... I like this guy cuz he's sooo sweet and cute and U know. Well, he likes my best friend and I happen to know that she likes him back! What do I do? Do I tell him he has no chance with her or do I say go for it??? Help!
lipshyne


Dear lipshyne,

This is a classic example of good vs. evil... your "good" side vs. your "not-so-good" side. It's ultimately up to you to decide who will win. But... since you asked my advice.... don't be a tool and stab your bud in the back. It'll only end in disaster - for you! If you lie and tell this hottie he has no chance with your bud, it still doesn't mean you'll snag him. Maybe he'll never go for you - even if you tell him you don't know a single soul who finds him attractive except you. Even if he does go for you - do you wanna be second choice? And he may still find out about the lie. Then you'll be out a BF and a BFF. And if this girl is your friend, why do you wanna diss her? Tell him to go for it (your friend,) and sleep soundly at night.


Dear Dish-It,

Hey, I have this boyfriend... we have been dating for three months and it's been great. The thing is, most girls say their boyfriends try too hard, well mine doesn't try at all! I have to ask him to call me - or like this one time, I didn't ask him to call me, and we didn't talk for three weeks!!! I call him all the time but it gets frustrating. So what should I do? Do I keep doing what I'm doing and ignore it, or should I talk to him?
cutie_pie88


Dear cutie_pie88,

I fail to see anything "great" about this relationship. Sorry, girlfriend, but the guy sounds like a total lame-o in the communication department (a department critical to the relationship biz.) If I were you, I'd fire his butt (dump him) and start taking applications to fill the BF position. After all, wouldn't you rather have a BF who tries too hard than not at all?


Dear Dish-It,

I went to a camp this summer and I had a BF but the only reason was cuz he didn't have a gurl 2 go 2 the dance with. And at school, everyone teases me about how "ugly" I am. I need 2 know if I really am ugly or not, and how 2 get a BF. I have boobs and a butt, plzzz help ASAP!
Soccerbabe13


Dear Soccerbabe13,

Chill. The fact is, not everybody can be as hot as Britney Spears, J. Lo or Sarah Michelle Gellar. I know I'm not a buff babe like them. But did you know that not everybody in the world thinks those peeps are hot? Some guys have actually told me they think Brit looks like a puppy, or J. Lo is skanky and Sarah Michelle looks too much like Freddie Prinze Jr. The point is, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Someone is gonna think you're a beauty one day or another. Kids are exceptionally cruel to each other - and everybody goes through an awkward period when they're growing up, which doesn't help with the teasing. The fact is you need to stay strong and keep feeling good about yourself. That confidence will shine through and add to your appeal for that special someone. And did this guy actually tell you he only went out with you cuz no one else would go 2 the dance with him? If he did, next time tell him to take a hike and go to the dance with friends. You deserve better than that!


Why in the world would you think you are ugly? You are not ugly if you have friends. You should never think you are ugly.
Username: Little_Washu


I often feel like I'm ugly too, but that never kept me from anything. In fact, I've even gotten used to all the teasing and such. I do have a lot of admirers, so it really does depend on who is judging you by your look. And don't go out with a guy if you're a second choice. He is so totally not worth it.
Username: tigerlily122


You are NOT ugly. Everyone is beautiful, or handsome in boys' cases. No matter what people think of you. It really matters what you think.
Username: Anonymous


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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lonnie123

lonnie123 wrote:

Lol aww thanks :)
commented: Sun Jul 27, 2014

Disney_

Disney_ wrote:

Lonnie da f v.v Youre flawlesy perfect so hush ❤
commented: Sun Jul 27, 2014

lonnie123

lonnie123 wrote:

I'm like sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ugly I hate it
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Boysrock50
Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
The perfect friend would always be there to support you when you have a problem, and will offer to help. The perfect friend is someone who guides you to doing the right things, not the wrong things. They would make the effort to talk to you, not wait for you to contact them first all the time, as friendship should be a 50-50 relationship. They would stay your friend for years, not leave you as soon as they find someone 'cooler'. They won't act different around others to impress them and leave you. They would listen to you just as much as they tell you things. They would turn to you as their first choice, not their reserve choice. But most importantly, the perfect friend would be someone who always makes you happy to be with.
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brunostar
brunostar posted in Friends:
You want someone who cares, understands and will be there for you, and not just when you're down. You want someone who makes you smile and laugh at 3 am and you have to try not to giggle in class because of something that happened a weeks ago. Everyone fights, but you don't want someone who you constantly fight with and who makes you feel down or drops your self-esteem. If someone bothers you to do bad stuff, walk the other direction and don't take in the negative force. I'm the type of person that takes people in for who they are, I care and listen and try my best to make them laugh and be happy. I have gotten mixed with bad friends as in talking me into negative things, constantly making me feel down, ditching for other people, insulting other friends. I need to change how I act, I seem to annoy and bother people a lot. And possibly I care too much, I also at times understand too little. I get attached to easily and hurt easily. I don't know what else you asked so imma end this now xD
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MissD
MissD posted in Friends:
Describe the perfect friend in your opinion.  In what ways are you a good friend? What do you need to do to become a better friend?  What do you think? 
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MissD
MissD posted in Friends:
Honestly? They aren't safe for you. Depression is difficult to overcome. Especially when people are negative about it around you. If they refuse to believe you, then there is no point trying to be friends with them again. Some people just don't accept mental problems or swear that they are being faked. I never quite understood why people don't acknowledge it, but whatever. Moving on from that, you should find friends that you don't need to pretend around - depression isn't too uncommon. Look and listen. You'll find the right people - they just proved that they weren't it. No one can go back and make a brand-new start, but anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending!  I really like the post above me, Huntress that was really good advice. I have a theory, there are two kinds of people in the world, Vampires and Sunshine. The vampires, take from us: they suck our self esteem, positive thoughts, smiles, energy.. YUCK. Sunshine on the other hand, gives and gives. You feel warmer just being around sunshine people, they lift you up, remind you about your good qualities, cheer for you and help you be your best most true self.  Here is the other thing about Vampires and Sunshine - Vampires tend to run in packs, they draw their power from taking other peoples away - and IMO they are insatiable. Sunshine people are awesome, even if you only have one in your life - it's enough.  I hope you will look around and see if you can spot the difference, I'd love to know if you have at least one Sunshine person in your life - let go of those horrible vampires, in the end you will feel much better for having made that empowered decision!!  Good Luck! 
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Huntress
Huntress posted in Friends:
Honestly? They aren't safe for you. Depression is difficult to overcome. Especially when people are negative about it around you. If they refuse to believe you, then there is no point trying to be friends with them again. Some people just don't accept mental problems or swear that they are being faked. I never quite understood why people don't acknowledge it, but whatever. Moving on from that, you should find friends that you don't need to pretend around - depression isn't too uncommon. Look and listen. You'll find the right people - they just proved that they weren't it.
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