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Dear Dish-It, Are My Friends Gay?

Dear Dish-It,

I went to a sleepover party at my friend's house and he invited 1 more guy. We were in his room at 12 AM, just us 3 guys, and they decide to play strip crazy 8s. Doing it with girls is bad but just guys is gay and bad (or so I think.) I refused to play. They got down to their boxers and quit. Then they started to show each other their privates! I didn't. So my real problem is, 1 of them is going out with my ex girlfriend - so now he's gay and going out with my ex! Me and my ex are good friends now. Should I tell her? And, what went on with them 2, does that make them gay?
homieg222

Dear homieg222,

Okay, this is obviously really buggin' ya... relax, your buds are not gay. Sometimes, when guys are growing up (girls too) they do stupid things like show each other their "privates." It doesn't necessarily indicate anything about their sexuality - it's more of a curiosity thing. If I were you, I would definitely NOT tell your ex. First off, your bud (her BF) probably is NOT gay. Secondly, it's not your place to "out" anyone even if they are gay (which this guy is not.) Now, I have a question to you - would it make a difference if your buddies were gay? Aren't they still the same people who you've hung out with, liked and had good times with? Sounds like you might be a lil' on the 'phobic.

Dear Dish-It,

I'm only 15 but I want to have a baby. I know it's hard work but I babysit all the time - sometimes up to a week or more! And, I home school. My boyfriend just proposed to me, so I don't see the prob. I just don't know how to tell my parents... Need help, soon!
kam2087

Dear kam2087,

You don't see the problem? Well allow me to bring up a few of the problems for you.

#1

How would you support a baby? At 15 you're not really able to get the type of job you'd need to support a small child.

#2

How are you going to finish school? It's a huge responsibility having a child and there isn't going to be a lot of time for homework or school. If you did continue school, who would look after the baby? Remember this is your responsibility and you can't rely on your parents for everything.

#3

Where would you live? Your parents probably aren't going to be very supportive of you having a child so young. If they kick you out, where would you go? A place of your own would be expensive and wouldn't leave much money left over for things like food, life, and diapers.

This may seem harsh, but you know what? It's not. It's half of the big-time problems and issues that you'll be going through as a young mom. So you don't know how to tell your parents? Just say, "Hey mom and dad, I'm thinking I want to have a baby." They should know what your thinking so they have a chance to talk some sense into you too.

Yo, you think your friend's are gay?,

Wow, you should confront them about it seriously before something happens that is so gross that you won't want to be friends anymore. So ask 'em or else.

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Nickname: kewlsportsgirl
Age: 12

Dear kewlsportsgirl,

It looks like both you and homieg222 are jumping to conclusions here. Chances are, homieg222's friends aren't gay but even if they are, who cares. That doesn't make them gross or weird or less cool then they always have been. The world would be a much happier place if there wasn't so much hatin'.

So you want to have a kid?,

But you feel it would be hard to take care of. So I would just wait until you feel the time is right. I would not know how you feel though cuz I am only 12 years old. I dont really worry about that kind of stuff. And about your parents, just tell them that he proposed to you and you really love him, and feel the time is right and your ready for marriage! Well good luck and all, bye!

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Nickname: kewlsportsgirl
Age: 12

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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drowning
drowning posted in Family Issues:
@rainbowpoptart  When I originally talked to my father, I was given the opportunity of good timing to bring it up. Luckily, there was no anger like I was partially expecting and I remained calm, which I definitely wasn't expecting. My fathers main concern was just worry and having seen other teens run away from something later getting themselves in trouble. He even brought up how he had run off at 18 and joined the Air Force, which I already knew. But, with this round, there is no perfect time to bring it up and he's always busy or we're having to do something so it's just very frustrating to find at least alright timing to bring it up, if that makes sense.
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rainbowpoptart
My advice on this may not be the best because I haven't personally dealt with this yet, but... Parents, or guardians, get used to having their children around. You're [usually] with them for 18 years, which is a long time, so of course they - or in this case, your father - is going to feel like he's lost something very dear to him once you move out. To me it seems like he does truly understand that you're growing up. He just doesn't want it to happen. He knows that you're leaving soon - he just doesn't want it to be soon. Parents/guardians who are close to the children usually feel that way. If you're really so concerned, talk to him about it again, in a similar way you have done already. Or perhaps just a "Wow, my birthday is just around the corner". Once you do move out, visit him as frequently as you're able to and feel like. I'm sure he'll appreciate it, and it'll help you maintain a close relationship with him.
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drowning
drowning posted in Family Issues:
Usually I wouldn't come here for advice, but I am really needing it. To sum it up, my birthday is in 21 days. Not only will I be leaving KW, but home as well. My mother has made it to where I have had plans to leave since I was around 11 or 12; so about 7 to 8 years. I won't get into everything, but we'll just say that my mother and I do not have a good relationship at all. My father on the other hand, I am very attached too and always scared of upsetting him. Things are not always very good between us at times, but we rarely fight. When we do, it is always bad nor ends well. So, having plans to move out are very scary to me and causes me plenty of anxiety that fights are going to break out when I have my help to get my belongings out.   For the record, I have talked to my father about leaving, why I want too, etc. But, more in the sense of that I want too, not that I am. Which, in a way, my parents understand I'm moving out as well as already pretty much know where I'm going without my mention. But, I don't think they, my father especially, understands how soon that is despite my saying of I want too when I'm 18 or when I say, "Soon." It doesn't help that my father told another that his "little girl is growing up" on him and that he is scared of the day I go because he will be alone. Which makes me feel guilty despite the fact I won't even be that far away. How should I talk to him once more and go about this or even when? I really want him to understand that I have thought everything through and that I will be in safe hands.
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