Dear Dish-It, Are My Friends Gay?

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Dear Dish-It,
I went to a sleepover party at my friend's house and he invited 1 more guy. We were in his room at 12 AM, just us 3 guys, and they decide to play strip crazy 8s. Doing it with girls is bad but just guys is gay and bad (or so I think.) I refused to play. They got down to their boxers and quit. Then they started to show each other their privates! I didn't. So my real problem is, 1 of them is going out with my ex girlfriend - so now he's gay and going out with my ex! Me and my ex are good friends now. Should I tell her? And, what went on with them 2, does that make them gay?
homieg222

Dear homieg222,
Okay, this is obviously really buggin' ya... relax, your buds are not gay. Sometimes, when guys are growing up (girls too) they do stupid things like show each other their "privates." It doesn't necessarily indicate anything about their sexuality - it's more of a curiosity thing. If I were you, I would definitely NOT tell your ex. First off, your bud (her BF) probably is NOT gay. Secondly, it's not your place to "out" anyone even if they are gay (which this guy is not.) Now, I have a question to you - would it make a difference if your buddies were gay? Aren't they still the same people who you've hung out with, liked and had good times with? Sounds like you might be a lil' on the 'phobic.

Dear Dish-It,
I'm only 15 but I want to have a baby. I know it's hard work but I babysit all the time - sometimes up to a week or more! And, I home school. My boyfriend just proposed to me, so I don't see the prob. I just don't know how to tell my parents... Need help, soon!
kam2087

Dear kam2087,
You don't see the problem? Well allow me to bring up a few of the probs for you.
#1 - Babysitting a child is nowhere near the same as having one of your own. Imagine babysitting 24-7 for the rest of your life - and NOT getting paid for it. Imagine paying for it instead. Along with a child comes medical bills, clothing bills, food bills... bills, bills, bills! How do you intend to pay for this child?
#2 - Education. Girlfriend, no disrespect intended, but it took me about ten minutes to make your letter legible. And what does "I home school" mean? Do you get home schooled or do you help teach home schooling? I don't get it. What I do get is the fact that you definitely need a heck of a lot more education before you have a baby. Why? Because you'll need a pretty decent job to support your kidlet and high school drop-outs usually don't get those.
#3 - So your BF proposed, huh? You're fifteen and I am assuming he's not far off age-wise - that means there aren't very many states that will actually allow you to get married. Want to know why that is? Because if everybody married the person they were dating at 15 (when they were 15) we'd have an even higher divorce rate than we already do. You may feel grown up, but you aren't. Believe me when I say that you'll look back on 15 when your 20 or 22 or 25 and laugh your head-off at how much you actually didn't have a clue about. Besides which, having a baby at such a young age really slams your chances of discovering a ton of cool stuff - about the world and about yourself. College, dorm living, late nights goofing off with your buds, dancing 'til dawn, spring break trips, sharing apartments with your friends, cool summer jobs, etc. - all of it will be off-limits to you, mommy dearest.

This may seem harsh, but you know what? It's not. It's half of the big-time problems and issues that you'll be going through as a young mom. So you don't know how to tell your parents? Just say, "Hey mom and dad, I'm thinking I want to have a baby." They should know what your thinking so they have a chance to talk some sense into you too.

Yo, you think your friend's are gay? Wow, you should confront them about it seriously before something happens that is so gross that you won't want to be friends anymore. So ask 'em or else.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: kewlsportsgirl
Age: 12

Dear kewlsportsgirl,
It looks like both you and homieg222 are jumping to conclusions here. Chances are, homieg222's friends aren't gay but even if they are, who cares. That doesn't make them gross or weird or less cool then they always have been. The world would be a much happier place if there wasn't so much hatin'.

So you want to have a kid? But you feel it would be hard to take care of. So I would just wait until you feel the time is right. I would not know how you feel though cuz I am only 12 years old. I dont really worry about that kind of stuff. And about your parents, just tell them that he proposed to you and you really love him, and feel the time is right and your ready for marriage! Well good luck and all, bye!
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: kewlsportsgirl
Age: 12

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