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Dear Dish-It, My BF Cheated on Me at Camp

Dear Dish-It,

I really don't know why I did it but I did. This is what happened... My BF and I have been goin' out for three months and usually we both love to make-out and cuddle and hug and stuff. But two weeks ago he didn't want to but I did, (but I don't know why I wanted to.) Well, we got into a fight and I left and went to the movies w/ my friends. At the movies I saw this really HOT guy and started talkin' to him and one thing led to another and I kinda... made-out with him. I've talked to my BF about this and he's ok with it but I'm not. I wanna know why I had the "urge" to make-out. Can u help me?
missmouth65


Dear missmouth65,

The only person who knows why you had the "urge" to kiss a perfect stranger at the movie theater is you. You had a fight with your boyfriend because he didn't want to make-out with you, so you went looking for some action with someone else. There are no mystical forces at work here that forced you to kiss the movie dude. Sounds like you wanted to make your current boy jealous and it didn't work, so now you're "confused." I think it's time you stop playing games with your boy's head and, if you're unhappy, dump him. Don't kiss other guys behind his back.


Dear Dish-It,

I liked this guy for a really long time. The day after my 14th birthday he asked me out but told me he was going away for six weeks. He got home yesterday and that's when I found out that he had been cheating on me at camp. Every one of my friends (including his best friend) is telling me to dump him, but I still like him even though this isn't the first time he's hurt me. Should I end it before he can? Or forgive him and give him one last chance?
perfect_lil_me


Dear perfect_lil_me,

Dump him. Dump him right away and do not take him back. He cheated on you as soon as he went away. Why'd he ask you out if he's just going to get busy with someone at camp? Because he wanted to know he had a girl to come home to who would put up with his cheating ways. Show him you're not gonna take being cheated on and find yourself a guy who'll treat you right!


Dear Dish-It,

Ok, I keep telling my friends that I don't care about having a BF. They keep trying to hook me up but I don't want them to. Inside I like quite a few boys but I never admit it. I've never had a BF before. I don't think anyone likes me. They insist that I get a BF but I keep telling them no. And even if they ask people if they like me, I just know they'll say no. I think they think I'm ugly or something, so I hide the fact that I do like them. People don't even give me a chance.... I don't know what to do.
Cass_girl320


Dear Cass_girl320,

So who, exactly, isn't giving you a chance? All the boys you won't admit to liking? Or are you talking about all the boys that you assume find you ugly, even though you haven't talked to them before? You have to get out there and talk to people if you want them to give you a chance. Your friends aren't mind readers, so you're gonna have to speak up about these crushes of yours. I bet if YOU gave people a chance, they would flock to you like bees to honey. You need to give yourself a chance too, girlfriend. Sure, you may not be perfect, but no one is. Stop worrying about what other people think, just relax and be yourself.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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    Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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    Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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    First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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