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Dear Dish-It, Sometimes I Wish I Wasn't Me

Advice for teens relating to depression, suicide, self-esteem and fitting-in.
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Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Well, I live with my dad, (my mom died when I was 3,) and don't get me wrong, I love my dad. It's just that I'm 12 and I'm going though the period thing and I NEVER EVER will be able to talk to my dad about this cause he's a... a guy! Anyway my aunt and I are VERY, VERY close. She asked me if I would like to live with her for the summer. My dad said I could. Well, now summer is over and I DON'T wanna go back to my dad. My aunt asked me if I wanted her to adopt me and I said I didn't know. I LOVE my dad and I LOVE my aunt! PLZ HELP!!!
WonderinG


Dear WonderinG,

You've been put in a very difficult situation, WonderinG. You should feel lucky to have so many people who love you but I understand how it can be hard choosing between your dad and your aunt. Does your dad know about your aunt's proposal for you to live with her? I think the first thing you need to do is sit down with both your aunt and your dad to talk about this. As much as you might want to go and live with your aunt, your dad is still responsible for you and no doubt loves you more than Britney loved Justin so he's probably going to want to discuss this matter before any big move is made. If you all sit down as a family, you'll find that a compromise is made pretty quickly. I'm sure both your dad and aunt just want you to be happy. Good luck!


Dear Dish-It,

Lonely and wanna leave...


Dear Lonely and wanna leave...,

Being a teenager can really suck sometimes. You're raging with hormones and your emotions are up, and down, and all around. Your body is going through massive change and you just don't know what to do. It's easy to see why we sometimes wish we could crawl into a hole and stay there for a while. But think of all the fun things that you would miss out on if you hid away. School dances, sleepovers with your girlfriends, shopping trips, vacations and a whole lot more. And what would your family and friends think? Don't you think peeps would miss you if you suddenly weren't around? Although you feel like you're the only one who doesn't fit in right now, you've gotta try and keep your chin up. Sit down with the 'rents and talk about how you're feelin'. How 'bout taking some fitness classes, or joining a team? You can meet new people while getting into shape. You should also check out some of these resources and consider talking to a professional about what you're goin' through.


  • www.selfesteem.org
  • www.teenshealth.org

  • Getting through high school can be tough but it does get better, trust me! As for boys, they grow up eventually and you'll find someone who will fall for the real you. For now, focus on learning to be happy with yourself. Good Luck!


    I just want to say that I'm 14, 5'2,and 90+ lbs. and I still run into the same problem. Even though I'm fine with my weight, others aren't. People call me names like bones and stick, and well they can be really hurtful. So hurtful I've even done harmful things to myself. But I knew that I wasn't helping myself, only hurting myself. So no matter how much you weigh, people are going to be unhappy with you. But what really matters is that you're happy with yourself.

    Kidz Submit By:

    Nickname: AJs Princess
    Age: 14

    I think that you are just being a little to harsh on yourself. It doesn't matter what other people think. You should focus on what you think. So if you think you look great, than that is great. You should be more confident in yourself! Because it's who you are on the inside that matters.

    Kidz Submit By:

    Nickname: kewlsportsgirl
    Age: 12

    So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    lonnie123

    lonnie123 wrote:

    I hate feeling like this I feel like ever is lying right to me they really don't care a...
    commented: Tue Aug 26, 2014

    Silver70

    Silver70 wrote:

    I have an opinion and i love to show it! Xp
    commented: Sat Jul 19, 2014

    korduna

    korduna wrote:

    aww how awful !
    commented: Sat Jul 19, 2014

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