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Teen Advice on Bullying

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

Well, a few months ago my auntie announced that she was getting married. She's my favorite auntie and I was hoping that I'd be allowed to be a bridesmaid, but yesterday I found out from my cousin (who told me that she hated being a bridesmaid,) that I wasn't going to be one. My cousin would never, never lie to me cuz we're soooooo close. But, she kept rubbing it in my face and it really upset me! Now I'm really bummed that I can't be a bridesmaid at the wedding and I'm starting to hate my cousin. Please Help!
SparklyLollypopgirl

Dear SparklyLollypopgirl,

Hold on and back up a step here! Has anyone asked your auntie (the bride-to-be) exactly who is going to be in the wedding? Maybe your cousin isn't lying, maybe she doesn't know all the facts. As for her being soooooo close to you - why is someone so close to you "rubbin' it in your face?" I'd be hatin' on her too. Remember this - don't be too hard on your aunt if you don't make the bridesmaid cut. Why not ask her if you could help out at the wedding in other ways - like decorating the reception hall, being in charge of the guestbook or helping throw the bridal shower. And FYI - I thought being a bridesmaid would be a ton of fun too - until I was one. There is a reason the word "maid" is part of the title. You may be luckier than you think.

Dear Dish-It,

There's this popular guy at school who keeps asking me to go out with him. I know he's just kidding cuz he goes back to his friends and laughs at me. He also asked me if I shaved my legs?! I told my mom, she told me to tell him to stop (meanly.) I did, but then he made fun of the way I said stop! I can't tell my principal cause it'll make matters worse - he'll call me a tattle-tale, and his friends will get mad and make fun of me even more. It's really bugging me! It is bugging me with my grades, my concentration in class, etc. My friends don't protect me, they just laugh and tell me to go out with him, even though they know he's kidding. I need help, because I'm pretty sure it's going to continue to next school year.
catzella

Dear catzella,

This guy is the ultimate loser, huh? A serious bully, if you ask me (and you did.) I think you need to blow it off and walk into class this year like you forgot he even existed. Don't look at him, don't worry about him - he is dead to you. If he does start up again, say something simple like "Aren't you over that yet?" or "Do me a favor and think of something new. Your jokes are getting old." You know, something flip that will make him look like a big, giant booger. Don't say it all ticked-off or anything. Say it like he's the most boring, annoying, useless person in the world and you can't even believe you have to speak to him. And then forget about him all over again. Eventually this idiot will grow up - and even if he doesn't who cares? In the long run he'll mean nothing to you, trust me. As for your friends - tell 'em the way it is. Tell 'em that you know he's just teasing you and ask them why they are on his side instead of yours? Tell 'em you wouldn't treat them the same way. Hopefully they'll get it. Hang in there! Tell me how it goes, k?

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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MonasYou

MonasYou wrote:

That's insane!! OMG
commented: Wed Jan 08, 2014

lillyflower637
I always hate it when people call you names. May I remind them to call me my actual name?
commented: Mon Sep 23, 2013

Jcool18

Jcool18 wrote:

they might be popular but r they smart
commented: Fri Jul 05, 2013

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kaykay2002
kaykay2002 posted in Friends:
"Wooper1255" wrote:No. Just no. Mr. Face does not approve this. ._.Okay, okay, let's get serious.Your best friend BULLYING you? And loves it when you get mad? What the heck? SHE'S NOT EVEN YOUR FRIEND!You should have a talk with your best friend. No seriously, she doesn't have any friends cause she's a bully and no one likes to be friends with a bully...You should tell your best friend that she NEEDS to change her attitude! She needs to be more nicer to others also.Also, a best friend is: Caring, Kind, Loyal, Nice, Thoughtful, and will stand up for you against bullies, will be there if you're upset, maybe they'll even CRY with you!A best friend is totally NOT: Someone who bullies you, Someone who likes it when your madYou should ask her any of the following questions:Are you Okay?Why are you bullying me? You're my friend.Is something wrong like family issues?Questions like that are good because there may be a reason for bullying. She could be suffering from depression, or is confused or lonely. Just talk to her. Have a discussion with her. Also, you should talk to other people. Ask them why they aren't friends with your best friend. Then maybe, after they tell you what they don't like about her, you can go back to your best friend and tell her the things she needs to improve on. Also, if necessary, tell an adult like your mom, a teacher, consular, or her mom.Whatever you think will solve this conflict between you and your best friend well... just go for it. But think about the outcome too.Hope I helped, I might add some tips and suggestions to you. :3  your right and the only reason I have put up with her this long is because her dad died but I cant stand her anymore so but seriously I feel like there is another reason bcuz she has had people confront her saying "u know what I have put up wit this for a while and I have told u to stop and u don't listen and I know your dad died but that doesn't mean u can treat people like that "  but she still does it and for the past 3 yrs. I have put up with it but not anymore I will talk to her about it. Thanks.
reply about 3 hours
Wooper1255
Wooper1255 posted in Friends:
You NEED to tell your parents or HER parents about her attitude, this is abuse from your OWN best friend! Tell an adult, don't be afraid, it's not even SILLY to tell an adult, this is serious, she is HURTING you! Tell someone before things get out of hand and she REALLY hurts you! D=
reply about 4 hours
Wooper1255
Wooper1255 posted in Friends:
No. Just no. Mr. Face does not approve this. ._. Okay, okay, let's get serious. Your best friend BULLYING you? And loves it when you get mad? What the heck? SHE'S NOT EVEN YOUR FRIEND! You should have a talk with your best friend. No seriously, she doesn't have any friends cause she's a bully and no one likes to be friends with a bully... You should tell your best friend that she NEEDS to change her attitude! She needs to be more nicer to others also. Also, a best friend is: Caring, Kind, Loyal, Nice, Thoughtful, and will stand up for you against bullies, will be there if you're upset, maybe they'll even CRY with you! A best friend is totally NOT: Someone who bullies you, Someone who likes it when your mad You should ask her any of the following questions: Are you Okay? Why are you bullying me? You're my friend. Is something wrong like family issues? Questions like that are good because there may be a reason for bullying. She could be suffering from depression, or is confused or lonely. Just talk to her. Have a discussion with her. Also, you should talk to other people. Ask them why they aren't friends with your best friend. Then maybe, after they tell you what they don't like about her, you can go back to your best friend and tell her the things she needs to improve on. Also, if necessary, tell an adult like your mom, a teacher, consular, or her mom. Whatever you think will solve this conflict between you and your best friend well... just go for it. But think about the outcome too. Hope I helped, I might add some tips and suggestions to you. :3
reply about 4 hours
Boysrock50
Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
Yeah I had a friend in the same situation as you, he was too scared to say anything so we spoke for him. Now the 'friend' has changed and hes our mate. Just tell her straight and firmly, its the only way
reply about 4 hours
kaykay2002
kaykay2002 posted in Friends:
"Boysrock50" wrote:She is obviously NOT your best friend.I wouldn't even call her a friendShe is a bully who thinks she can have her own wayShe thinks she can control you like you're her follower because she the truth is she needs youBe smart and leave her because she's only going to keep you down and then one day she will find  friends just like her and she will just ignore you forever, thinking shes too cool for you.I would either:Tell her straight that she needs to make her own friends because you don't want to be friends anymoreor:Tell her that you don't like what she does and either she changes her ways and acts more like a friend, or you cant be friends anymore.I'm not trying to be harsh, I'm being wise and you should be wise too. Thanks I actually might try that but she is really stubborn and will not take no for an answer I have tried just ignoring her but he will kick, hit, or punch me to get attention. my parents also don't like her bcuz she is bossy. I also have to go to summer camp with her for the next 2 weeks and w have to be buddies for it so i think i might die
reply about 4 hours

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