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Dear Dish-It, The Popular Boy Picks on Me

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Dear Dish-It,

Well, a few months ago my auntie announced that she was getting married. She's my favorite auntie and I was hoping that I'd be allowed to be a bridesmaid, but yesterday I found out from my cousin (who told me that she hated being a bridesmaid,) that I wasn't going to be one. My cousin would never, never lie to me cuz we're soooooo close. But, she kept rubbing it in my face and it really upset me! Now I'm really bummed that I can't be a bridesmaid at the wedding and I'm starting to hate my cousin. Please Help!
SparklyLollypopgirl

Dear SparklyLollypopgirl,

Hold on and back up a step here! Has anyone asked your auntie (the bride-to-be) exactly who is going to be in the wedding? Maybe your cousin isn't lying, maybe she doesn't know all the facts. As for her being soooooo close to you - why is someone so close to you "rubbin' it in your face?" I'd be hatin' on her too. Remember this - don't be too hard on your aunt if you don't make the bridesmaid cut. Why not ask her if you could help out at the wedding in other ways - like decorating the reception hall, being in charge of the guestbook or helping throw the bridal shower. And FYI - I thought being a bridesmaid would be a ton of fun too - until I was one. There is a reason the word "maid" is part of the title. You may be luckier than you think.

Dear Dish-It,

There's this popular guy at school who keeps asking me to go out with him. I know he's just kidding cuz he goes back to his friends and laughs at me. He also asked me if I shaved my legs?! I told my mom, she told me to tell him to stop (meanly.) I did, but then he made fun of the way I said stop! I can't tell my principal cause it'll make matters worse - he'll call me a tattle-tale, and his friends will get mad and make fun of me even more. It's really bugging me! It is bugging me with my grades, my concentration in class, etc. My friends don't protect me, they just laugh and tell me to go out with him, even though they know he's kidding. I need help, because I'm pretty sure it's going to continue to next school year.
catzella

Dear catzella,

This guy is the ultimate loser, huh? A serious bully, if you ask me (and you did.) I think you need to blow it off and walk into class this year like you forgot he even existed. Don't look at him, don't worry about him - he is dead to you. If he does start up again, say something simple like "Aren't you over that yet?" or "Do me a favor and think of something new. Your jokes are getting old." You know, something flip that will make him look like a big, giant booger. Don't say it all ticked-off or anything. Say it like he's the most boring, annoying, useless person in the world and you can't even believe you have to speak to him. And then forget about him all over again. Eventually this idiot will grow up - and even if he doesn't who cares? In the long run he'll mean nothing to you, trust me. As for your friends - tell 'em the way it is. Tell 'em that you know he's just teasing you and ask them why they are on his side instead of yours? Tell 'em you wouldn't treat them the same way. Hopefully they'll get it. Hang in there! Tell me how it goes, k?

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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MissD
MissD posted in Friends:
If someone is bullying you to the point of making you cry - first of all: I am so sorry that is happening and that is NOT okay. Have you told any adults? You should really tell someone in your RL.  Technically we should be able to be ourselves regardless of who we are without worrying about getting picked on. I know realistically that's not always the case.  What are some of the things in your life that make you to happiest? If I were you and to me you sound like an interesting & creative person - I would focus on your strengths? Then focus on doing things that make you feel good on the inside. Maybe you have a favourite queen song? Can you paint a picture with that song on repeat, can you go for a hike or a jog while listening to your fav. music? Have you ever thought of writing fan fiction about Queen? All these things help to let of steam.  Bullying is NOT okay. Please tell someone and then find a constructive, healthy way to spend some time positively. Try to practice self love, and be less judgmental with the way you see yourself - just because you are different or think differently - that's a good thing! Celebrate it  [s:p/zsv]
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9bella
9bella posted in Family Issues:
the mall people probably think your too young too.
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sugarpie567
my father would usaully yell at me for making his food wrong and sometimes if im ten minutes late my mom would say something like this "you need to grow up and take cares of your chours and stop going on my phone" then she go off topic like "you need more friends and go out doors and". Then my dad is all like "are you sleepy bc you eat to much junk food (even thou i barely even eat a full blown meal)". Oh and my brother, he keeps saying how ugly i am and he brings his girlfriend (which is one year younger than him" into my room like can i be alone. What i am saying is family do not like the youngest child.
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sallylace
sallylace posted in Friends:
i already talked to jordan
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-xXLoneWolfXx-
-xXLoneWolfXx- posted in Friends:
Tell the manager. According to the rules, if you want to get hacks (nice messages on your profile by someone) Then you have to ask them to do it through comments. Otherwise these things happen.
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