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Dear Dish-It, The Popular Boy Picks on Me

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Dear Dish-It,

Well, a few months ago my auntie announced that she was getting married. She's my favorite auntie and I was hoping that I'd be allowed to be a bridesmaid, but yesterday I found out from my cousin (who told me that she hated being a bridesmaid,) that I wasn't going to be one. My cousin would never, never lie to me cuz we're soooooo close. But, she kept rubbing it in my face and it really upset me! Now I'm really bummed that I can't be a bridesmaid at the wedding and I'm starting to hate my cousin. Please Help!
SparklyLollypopgirl

Dear SparklyLollypopgirl,

Hold on and back up a step here! Has anyone asked your auntie (the bride-to-be) exactly who is going to be in the wedding? Maybe your cousin isn't lying, maybe she doesn't know all the facts. As for her being soooooo close to you - why is someone so close to you "rubbin' it in your face?" I'd be hatin' on her too. Remember this - don't be too hard on your aunt if you don't make the bridesmaid cut. Why not ask her if you could help out at the wedding in other ways - like decorating the reception hall, being in charge of the guestbook or helping throw the bridal shower. And FYI - I thought being a bridesmaid would be a ton of fun too - until I was one. There is a reason the word "maid" is part of the title. You may be luckier than you think.

Dear Dish-It,

There's this popular guy at school who keeps asking me to go out with him. I know he's just kidding cuz he goes back to his friends and laughs at me. He also asked me if I shaved my legs?! I told my mom, she told me to tell him to stop (meanly.) I did, but then he made fun of the way I said stop! I can't tell my principal cause it'll make matters worse - he'll call me a tattle-tale, and his friends will get mad and make fun of me even more. It's really bugging me! It is bugging me with my grades, my concentration in class, etc. My friends don't protect me, they just laugh and tell me to go out with him, even though they know he's kidding. I need help, because I'm pretty sure it's going to continue to next school year.
catzella

Dear catzella,

This guy is the ultimate loser, huh? A serious bully, if you ask me (and you did.) I think you need to blow it off and walk into class this year like you forgot he even existed. Don't look at him, don't worry about him - he is dead to you. If he does start up again, say something simple like "Aren't you over that yet?" or "Do me a favor and think of something new. Your jokes are getting old." You know, something flip that will make him look like a big, giant booger. Don't say it all ticked-off or anything. Say it like he's the most boring, annoying, useless person in the world and you can't even believe you have to speak to him. And then forget about him all over again. Eventually this idiot will grow up - and even if he doesn't who cares? In the long run he'll mean nothing to you, trust me. As for your friends - tell 'em the way it is. Tell 'em that you know he's just teasing you and ask them why they are on his side instead of yours? Tell 'em you wouldn't treat them the same way. Hopefully they'll get it. Hang in there! Tell me how it goes, k?

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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GlimmeringSky16
"HannahG" wrote: "GlimmeringSky16" wrote: Shouldn't this be titled like, "Suicide Isn't the Answer" or something. I actually didn't make this post. The person who created the post just never posted anything, they only titled it. And besides, even if it was me who created it, titling it "Suicide isn't the answer" wouldn't gather as much of an audience. Say someone here actually WAS thinking of suicide. They'd see this post and think about looking at it to see how many others were too. They'd come here and they might actually change their mind because they'd see my *encouraging* post that was totally unexpected. It's called a head fake. But if they saw "Suicide isn't the answer" as a title, they'd probably not look at it because they'd heard the same thing over and over again. I'm not suicidal, but if I were I wouldn't probably bother looking at a post like that.  I see your point now.
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HannahG
HannahG posted in Family Issues:
"GlimmeringSky16" wrote:Shouldn't this be titled like, "Suicide Isn't the Answer" or something.I actually didn't make this post. The person who created the post just never posted anything, they only titled it. And besides, even if it was me who created it, titling it "Suicide isn't the answer" wouldn't gather as much of an audience. Say someone here actually WAS thinking of suicide. They'd see this post and think about looking at it to see how many others were too. They'd come here and they might actually change their mind because they'd see my *encouraging* post that was totally unexpected. It's called a head fake. But if they saw "Suicide isn't the answer" as a title, they'd probably not look at it because they'd heard the same thing over and over again. I'm not suicidal, but if I were I wouldn't probably bother looking at a post like that. 
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Serena007
I beg you please don't do it...you have your rest of your life waiting for you...PLEASE DON'T... your frnds still like u...u frnds love u :) :) :)
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survive88
u r SOOO right!!!       keep up the good work!!!!! :) :) :) :) ;) [s:p/zxl] [s:p/zxl]
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survive88
IT WILL BREAK YOUR MOM AND DADS HEART!!!!!!   think about this will suicide make u feel better? how will it affect the people who love you?   does it have somthing to do with home life?   bulling? school?  boy friend/ girlfriend problem? talk to your loved ones about how u feel  if this is getting worse i would say talk to a specialist.  i dont want to sound to preachy but i am wondering did u post this so people could say ok and that would justify your actions?   or were u looking for help? i would gladly give it if i could but this is all i can do 4 u.... think it over...... im sorry if i sound to harsh to u.... TheLionTamer
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