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Teen Advice on Bullying

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

Well, a few months ago my auntie announced that she was getting married. She's my favorite auntie and I was hoping that I'd be allowed to be a bridesmaid, but yesterday I found out from my cousin (who told me that she hated being a bridesmaid,) that I wasn't going to be one. My cousin would never, never lie to me cuz we're soooooo close. But, she kept rubbing it in my face and it really upset me! Now I'm really bummed that I can't be a bridesmaid at the wedding and I'm starting to hate my cousin. Please Help!
SparklyLollypopgirl

Dear SparklyLollypopgirl,

Hold on and back up a step here! Has anyone asked your auntie (the bride-to-be) exactly who is going to be in the wedding? Maybe your cousin isn't lying, maybe she doesn't know all the facts. As for her being soooooo close to you - why is someone so close to you "rubbin' it in your face?" I'd be hatin' on her too. Remember this - don't be too hard on your aunt if you don't make the bridesmaid cut. Why not ask her if you could help out at the wedding in other ways - like decorating the reception hall, being in charge of the guestbook or helping throw the bridal shower. And FYI - I thought being a bridesmaid would be a ton of fun too - until I was one. There is a reason the word "maid" is part of the title. You may be luckier than you think.

Dear Dish-It,

There's this popular guy at school who keeps asking me to go out with him. I know he's just kidding cuz he goes back to his friends and laughs at me. He also asked me if I shaved my legs?! I told my mom, she told me to tell him to stop (meanly.) I did, but then he made fun of the way I said stop! I can't tell my principal cause it'll make matters worse - he'll call me a tattle-tale, and his friends will get mad and make fun of me even more. It's really bugging me! It is bugging me with my grades, my concentration in class, etc. My friends don't protect me, they just laugh and tell me to go out with him, even though they know he's kidding. I need help, because I'm pretty sure it's going to continue to next school year.
catzella

Dear catzella,

This guy is the ultimate loser, huh? A serious bully, if you ask me (and you did.) I think you need to blow it off and walk into class this year like you forgot he even existed. Don't look at him, don't worry about him - he is dead to you. If he does start up again, say something simple like "Aren't you over that yet?" or "Do me a favor and think of something new. Your jokes are getting old." You know, something flip that will make him look like a big, giant booger. Don't say it all ticked-off or anything. Say it like he's the most boring, annoying, useless person in the world and you can't even believe you have to speak to him. And then forget about him all over again. Eventually this idiot will grow up - and even if he doesn't who cares? In the long run he'll mean nothing to you, trust me. As for your friends - tell 'em the way it is. Tell 'em that you know he's just teasing you and ask them why they are on his side instead of yours? Tell 'em you wouldn't treat them the same way. Hopefully they'll get it. Hang in there! Tell me how it goes, k?

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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Break down her door, get all your stuff, smash a flower vase, trot out the door yelling "BYE FELICIA!" and don't forget the hair flip.  (: this is how I make friends and never lose any 
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So I have been best friends with this girl for six years, after Halloween she has not called me, answered my calls, or come over to my house (we live close to each other and go over to our houses all the time). I don't know why she hasn't talked to me and shes the type of person if you did something to make her mad she would tell you.  I don't want to call her (it may seem needy) but I have a bunch of her stuff at my house and I really just don't want them there anymore but I don't want to call her have a huge fight and avoid each other ( which would be really hard) forever.
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staystrong123
staystrong123 posted in Friends:
This is really true and sad... Many teens, have a problem with this because of society. This post helps. I have had problem with suicide and bullying. Ive felt like I should just end it because I have no point to be here because I'm being told I'm worthless, to fat, to dumb, not pretty enough, all tons of lies and i got to the point that i believe them. I'm an outsider in my school. It fells like a lot of people leave me.  I fell pain a lot. and There is bullying going on in my school. Life fell mean less a lot. I have to remind myself that I do have a point and that people do love me.  I know know I do have a reason to live and so do you guys so  Don't ruin you're life. You're to young.  You're to worthy. The bully are just jealous of you. Don't self harm tonight. Don't comment suicide. You all are worth A lot I promise. People love you. Don't worry about hatters. The hatter are gonna hate but lovers are there to help you trough the pain and if you did comment suicide imagine how they'd fell. Thanks for posting this it really helped me and really could've saved a life:) :) Bullies are just having problems themselves remember that!!!! Stay strong everyone!!!
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jordand08
"supernaturalblackcat" wrote:I know i have depession and i have been to the doctor for it. It's starting to get to that point again for the 3rd time this year that i want to be alone. It feels like no one cares about me at school. I really can't trust anybody either. I started to quit eating at home and at school only eating snacks every now and then. I am also losing Weight. I used to get called fat and i wasn't even fat. I have been abused by people who say my butt is smexy and huge and it's not. I have even been slapped on by them. I tell my mom and dad that i've been called fat and my dad ignore's me and continues whatever he's doing. I'm getting to the point again where i'm losing my temper and emotions right on the spot. I can't be bipolar cause it has to run in the family and my mom says i don't have it. People get mad at me when i don't laugh at their jokes when they expect me too cause i really don't listen. But when i say something funny they roll their eyes and give me mean looks. I don't even want to be around people that much. I just want to be outside in the fresh air during school but it's high school so their's no outside time. I also fake smile's at people to make them happy. But i just hurt on the inside. I just want advice.  Hi there. I'm sure you have people who care about you at school, just sometimes it's hard to see it. Dear, you have to eat. I assure you, you're not fat. (smexy isn't necessarily a bad thing)  You have to understand, that people say things just because they can, or to make themselves feel better. Never give them that opportunity, just ignore them. When you're about to lose your temper, think of something that makes you really happy.  If you need someone to talk to, you have your guidance consular, trust me I have social anxiety, and reallly hate talking about my problems, I find it easier for me, to message them. It's their job to listen, but not only that, they really care for all of their students. Talking helps, believe me.
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jordand08
"lion2a3" wrote:its beacause well people at shcool act like your friends but know deep inside i just dont have friendsand then theres bullies some picks on me for no the only place i can be myself KW so should i do suidce also im 11 No Ma'am you shouldn't. Things happen for a reason, normally to make others stronger. Trust me, nothing is worth taking your own life. If you need to talk I'm here, however I would suggest you talking to an adult.  Friends come and go. you have family, and if not, you have me, Trust me, it's not worth it. please, don't. 
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