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Teen Advice on Bullying

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

Well, a few months ago my auntie announced that she was getting married. She's my favorite auntie and I was hoping that I'd be allowed to be a bridesmaid, but yesterday I found out from my cousin (who told me that she hated being a bridesmaid,) that I wasn't going to be one. My cousin would never, never lie to me cuz we're soooooo close. But, she kept rubbing it in my face and it really upset me! Now I'm really bummed that I can't be a bridesmaid at the wedding and I'm starting to hate my cousin. Please Help!
SparklyLollypopgirl

Dear SparklyLollypopgirl,

Hold on and back up a step here! Has anyone asked your auntie (the bride-to-be) exactly who is going to be in the wedding? Maybe your cousin isn't lying, maybe she doesn't know all the facts. As for her being soooooo close to you - why is someone so close to you "rubbin' it in your face?" I'd be hatin' on her too. Remember this - don't be too hard on your aunt if you don't make the bridesmaid cut. Why not ask her if you could help out at the wedding in other ways - like decorating the reception hall, being in charge of the guestbook or helping throw the bridal shower. And FYI - I thought being a bridesmaid would be a ton of fun too - until I was one. There is a reason the word "maid" is part of the title. You may be luckier than you think.

Dear Dish-It,

There's this popular guy at school who keeps asking me to go out with him. I know he's just kidding cuz he goes back to his friends and laughs at me. He also asked me if I shaved my legs?! I told my mom, she told me to tell him to stop (meanly.) I did, but then he made fun of the way I said stop! I can't tell my principal cause it'll make matters worse - he'll call me a tattle-tale, and his friends will get mad and make fun of me even more. It's really bugging me! It is bugging me with my grades, my concentration in class, etc. My friends don't protect me, they just laugh and tell me to go out with him, even though they know he's kidding. I need help, because I'm pretty sure it's going to continue to next school year.
catzella

Dear catzella,

This guy is the ultimate loser, huh? A serious bully, if you ask me (and you did.) I think you need to blow it off and walk into class this year like you forgot he even existed. Don't look at him, don't worry about him - he is dead to you. If he does start up again, say something simple like "Aren't you over that yet?" or "Do me a favor and think of something new. Your jokes are getting old." You know, something flip that will make him look like a big, giant booger. Don't say it all ticked-off or anything. Say it like he's the most boring, annoying, useless person in the world and you can't even believe you have to speak to him. And then forget about him all over again. Eventually this idiot will grow up - and even if he doesn't who cares? In the long run he'll mean nothing to you, trust me. As for your friends - tell 'em the way it is. Tell 'em that you know he's just teasing you and ask them why they are on his side instead of yours? Tell 'em you wouldn't treat them the same way. Hopefully they'll get it. Hang in there! Tell me how it goes, k?

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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I hang out with a bunch of different groups of people.. All of which have drama. And it is NOT fun. They all expect me to choose a side and start making me feel bad so that I would HAVE to pick them. It really doesn't make me feel so good, I don't know what to do. :/
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My best friend will NOT stop self harming. She's told about 2 other of our close friends and we all tried to work together to make her stop. She'd just lost her favorite cousin, that's when it all started. We tried to tell her that there's better things to do but she just will NOT stop! I've already told her mom, and there's still no stopping her! I'm just really worried for her and I don't know what else to do!  =( =(
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My bestie Lydia's mom, had her when she was 12. Lydia's mom is like the best mom out there. True, Lydia has a hard time not having a dad and having to be real responsible. But Rosalyn is an awesome mom. Don't be so judgy people.
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