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Dear Dish-It, The Popular Boy Picks on Me

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Dear Dish-It,

Well, a few months ago my auntie announced that she was getting married. She's my favorite auntie and I was hoping that I'd be allowed to be a bridesmaid, but yesterday I found out from my cousin (who told me that she hated being a bridesmaid,) that I wasn't going to be one. My cousin would never, never lie to me cuz we're soooooo close. But, she kept rubbing it in my face and it really upset me! Now I'm really bummed that I can't be a bridesmaid at the wedding and I'm starting to hate my cousin. Please Help!
SparklyLollypopgirl

Dear SparklyLollypopgirl,

Hold on and back up a step here! Has anyone asked your auntie (the bride-to-be) exactly who is going to be in the wedding? Maybe your cousin isn't lying, maybe she doesn't know all the facts. As for her being soooooo close to you - why is someone so close to you "rubbin' it in your face?" I'd be hatin' on her too. Remember this - don't be too hard on your aunt if you don't make the bridesmaid cut. Why not ask her if you could help out at the wedding in other ways - like decorating the reception hall, being in charge of the guestbook or helping throw the bridal shower. And FYI - I thought being a bridesmaid would be a ton of fun too - until I was one. There is a reason the word "maid" is part of the title. You may be luckier than you think.

Dear Dish-It,

There's this popular guy at school who keeps asking me to go out with him. I know he's just kidding cuz he goes back to his friends and laughs at me. He also asked me if I shaved my legs?! I told my mom, she told me to tell him to stop (meanly.) I did, but then he made fun of the way I said stop! I can't tell my principal cause it'll make matters worse - he'll call me a tattle-tale, and his friends will get mad and make fun of me even more. It's really bugging me! It is bugging me with my grades, my concentration in class, etc. My friends don't protect me, they just laugh and tell me to go out with him, even though they know he's kidding. I need help, because I'm pretty sure it's going to continue to next school year.
catzella

Dear catzella,

This guy is the ultimate loser, huh? A serious bully, if you ask me (and you did.) I think you need to blow it off and walk into class this year like you forgot he even existed. Don't look at him, don't worry about him - he is dead to you. If he does start up again, say something simple like "Aren't you over that yet?" or "Do me a favor and think of something new. Your jokes are getting old." You know, something flip that will make him look like a big, giant booger. Don't say it all ticked-off or anything. Say it like he's the most boring, annoying, useless person in the world and you can't even believe you have to speak to him. And then forget about him all over again. Eventually this idiot will grow up - and even if he doesn't who cares? In the long run he'll mean nothing to you, trust me. As for your friends - tell 'em the way it is. Tell 'em that you know he's just teasing you and ask them why they are on his side instead of yours? Tell 'em you wouldn't treat them the same way. Hopefully they'll get it. Hang in there! Tell me how it goes, k?

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to here. But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, We'll dish 'em up, too.

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donteatcarrots
donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
This is a really weird situation... Maybe she's feeling sorry for you?
reply about 19 hours
AnneS12
AnneS12 posted in Family Issues:
Well That is your choice who you want to stay with.Nobody can force you about it.When your parents see a family<a data-cke-saved-href=" lawyer, then he will ask you whom do you want to stay with and jury will decide.So dont worry .
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worldqweencc
worldqweencc posted in Friends:
I'm not quiet sure what's a real friend and what's a fake one anymore. I know when there's a friend who's only a school friend rather than an 'outside' friend as well, but at the same time it makes me so confused. Here's my story: There's a girl named Xian. We had a unique way of becoming friends ... but it clicked. For the whole year I've been trying to keep in contact with her ... but she's not very willing to try and put in any effort to stay in contact with me. Her personality is beyond sweet, and her skills at art are even better. If she was to have an award, it would be a giant trophy with her face plastered on it and big bold letters listing 'Nicest Girl In The World!' ... Its just ... she lied to me.  I was all about this friendship. I was ... i'll admit ... sort of a lost puppy following around her owner.  So, I got her this T-Shirt she really wanted for her birthday, and not long her birthday was mine, April First. I was expecting at least a letter, or maybe even something cheap. It didn't really matter to me.  But on my birthday she didn't even come to school. Nor when she got back did she ever say sorry, or give me any be-lated gift of any sort.  That should have been my first clue. Even my mother started catching on. My second clue was she even told me she was oblivious and wasn't good at keeping in contact. I thought she was joking. How could a friendship so sweet be tossed out just like that? My third one was near the end of school, one of her friends in elementary was bragging about the plushies she got from Xian. Apparently she had four from her.  Xian had originally told me it was AGAINST her religion to give out gifts to other people. I knew she wasn't lying about her religion in general, because I met her mom on a field trip and she was quiet ... different. But I didn't understand why Xian had gotten so many small plushies for her, and yet not a single small stamp for me? My last clue was the last day of school. She didn't even try to say good-bye or even hang out with me for that matter. I know what you're thinking. "Girl, you've gotta be kidding me if you can't see that she has no intention of being your friend!" But this girl was the nicest to me. She stood next to me during harsh times, and comforted me when I was down. She told me I was important.  And you don't get many friends to do those special things to you. It was rare to have a friend make me feel so tall and worthy.  ... So ... I can't understand ... why'd she do all that .... and suddenly ... just ... walk away ...
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Style:
American Apparel croptop, Juicy Couture velvet sweatpants and Uggs
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
"donteatcarrots" wrote:I dunno, looks like something more than being friends is going on here. It's probably best to ask her face-to-face though, before jumping to conclusions. ^^^
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