Dear Dish-It, I Love a Bad Boy

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

Last term, I dumped my really faithful friend that always walks home with me. Now, I walk with a bunch of people who don't even think I'm there. They call me "friend," but they don't even care. I always bring lots of tasty snacks to school and when they want some, they just beg and say they're my friend. My best friend tried to give me advice but I always yelled at her after. She forgives me but I don't have anyone to walk home with. The girl who I always walk home with won't even talk to me anymore. What should I do?

Dear Smartest_gurl,

Well, despite your nickname, you really weren't very smart about the way you handled your friends. The good news is - you realize the error of your ways. The bad news is you're gonna have to eat a lot of humble pie - and that still might not be enough. If I were you I would send your walkin' bud a note or just grab her for a minute in between classes. Tell her you were a dork and that you are sorry. Listen to what she has to say - if she wants to tell you you've been a jerk. It's gonna sting, but let's face it, you deserve it. Tell her that if she's ever interested, you'd like to walk home with her again cuz you realize she was your real friend. Hopefully she'll have a heart and give ya a second chance. One more thing... stop yellin' at peeps (like your BFF) who are givin' ya advice.

Dear Dish-It,

Hey, I am having a little trouble and I don't know if you can help. I have this guy friend, which is now my x-boyfriend. He claims he is a thug. He is into smokin' weed and stealing cars. I am the only female he ever said "I love you" to and his family and friends tell me all the time how much I mean to him. Still, I feel I have no time in my life for those things he does. He is always gettin' locked up or getting fines. I don't know if I should leave him or just see what happens - please help!

Dear inluvwitathug,

Leave him and don't look back. It may seem harsh - and I guess it is - but the thing is, you can't save people. This "thug" needs to realize that his life is in the toilet and pull it out himself - for himself. Besides, if you meant so much to him, why would he be actin' like this and expecting you to stay with him? Eventually, he could get you into trouble too - and you sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders so it would be a real shame. It's a tough thing to do, but you gotta walk away from thug-boy and find someone who is into positive things and will bring up UP not down.

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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
My friend problem: Get ready 'cause this'll be long. Problem = ... Okay, so I know this girl, Amelia. Last year when I was new at school she invited me to sit with her and her friends on the second day. Since then, we've been 'best friends'. Throughout the whole of last year she was really great. Now, it's been a few weeks since the first day of school - 5th grade. On the first day she was really happy to see me and we did all that normal BFF stuff. We even traced one of each of our hands and wrote 'BFFs' at the top. It all started with this.                                                   HOW IT HAPPENED One day we were sitting in the cafeteria. Her: Hey, what should we do during recess today? Another Friend Who Doesn't Like Amelia: Hey, do you want to do ______________? Me: Ummmmmmmmmmmm ......... errrrrrrrr .............. Me: (Thinking of Plan) Me: Eureka! Me: Hey, Amelia, I have this idea. Since you don't like Belen .... (this is other friend's name)  and you don't like her, I was thinking: Maybe on Monday I could hang out with you and Tuesday with her ... etc. Her: Cool. Well ... okay. Note: Well, I was feeling pretty bad, because she'd been a really great friend, but then I thought: Hey, it's only one day! It's not like I told her "Hey, I'm going to ditch you!" So then I went off with Belen. Well, the next day, or maybe a few days later - I don't remember - she told me during recess again: Her: Hey, do you want to go hang out with them over there? Points Me: Sure ... why not? Then we went on over there. During the whole of that recess, she didn't pay much attention to me. That was when I got suspicious. Now, it's been, like, 4 weeks since the first day of school. I decided to hang out with Belen during recess on Friday. Tomorrow is Monday, btw. Belen: Are you going to hang out with me during recess today? Me: Yeah. I would've wanted to go off with Amelia, but she was blowing me off lately. Last year a lot of people weren't her friends and she wasn't that social. Now, I see her flirting with _ _ _ _ _ _ easily and everyone (even people who left her out of their groups last year) is crowding around her while she talks about her big party. Last time, she even asked me if I wanted to go away with Belen, because she wasn't there either. Maybe I'm overreacting and she's just getting to be friends with a lot more people. I dunno. Should I be happy for her? Like I said, Belen and Amelia kinda hate each other, which is pretty inconvenient because they're both my best friends. So, you know that 'big party' Amelia is hosting? Belen's not invited and I don't know about myself, either. During yet ANOTHER recess Belen was talking about planning her birthday party. Now it's October 4th and her birthday is actually on January 21. Weird. I think she means this as a revenge party, because she is NOT inviting Amelia. Am I overreacting and taking this too seriously? Maybe I'm not and Amelia really isn't a good friend. But if I go to Belen's party and have an awesome time, Amelia (if I was overreacting) would be really upset. Then she would ditch me - FOR REAL. If I AM invited to Amelia's party, then what if she started blowing me off there? I don't want to look like a pesky little 'friend', clinging onto her. I NEED HELP. P.S. I have another problem caused by the first problem. I am crushing really hard on My Crush. I'm sure boys like fun, bouncy, happy, perky girls. He usually sees me during recess, where Amelia is usually blowing me off. Then, I start acting really sluggish and moody. Basically downright not-in-the-fun-mood. What would he think? Thank you for your help. P.P.S. PLEASE DO help me. This is an emergency. Thank you very much for your help (if you do help, that is.)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
Perfect Friend: Someone who will support you when you fail. Someone who encourages you. Someone who sticks with you. Someone who comforts you when things go wrong. Someone who is funny and makes you laugh. Someone who tells you the answers in class ... Someone who would wait for you after detention. Someone who would buy you great presents for your birthday. Someone who you know you can always count on. Someone nice (obvious). Someone who never fights with you. Someone who would always be a good friend, even if you weren't. Someone who is loyal. Someone who'd never go off with some other person. Someone who would read all this stuff without telling me they were bored.
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
This thing happened in kindergarten ... too embarrassing to even talk about it now ... so bye.
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