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Dear Dish-It, I Love a Bad Boy


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Dear Dish-It,

Last term, I dumped my really faithful friend that always walks home with me. Now, I walk with a bunch of people who don't even think I'm there. They call me "friend," but they don't even care. I always bring lots of tasty snacks to school and when they want some, they just beg and say they're my friend. My best friend tried to give me advice but I always yelled at her after. She forgives me but I don't have anyone to walk home with. The girl who I always walk home with won't even talk to me anymore. What should I do?
Smartest_gurl


Dear Smartest_gurl,

Well, despite your nickname, you really weren't very smart about the way you handled your friends. The good news is - you realize the error of your ways. The bad news is you're gonna have to eat a lot of humble pie - and that still might not be enough. If I were you I would send your walkin' bud a note or just grab her for a minute in between classes. Tell her you were a dork and that you are sorry. Listen to what she has to say - if she wants to tell you you've been a jerk. It's gonna sting, but let's face it, you deserve it. Tell her that if she's ever interested, you'd like to walk home with her again cuz you realize she was your real friend. Hopefully she'll have a heart and give ya a second chance. One more thing... stop yellin' at peeps (like your BFF) who are givin' ya advice.


Dear Dish-It,

Hey, I am having a little trouble and I don't know if you can help. I have this guy friend, which is now my x-boyfriend. He claims he is a thug. He is into smokin' weed and stealing cars. I am the only female he ever said "I love you" to and his family and friends tell me all the time how much I mean to him. Still, I feel I have no time in my life for those things he does. He is always gettin' locked up or getting fines. I don't know if I should leave him or just see what happens - please help!
inluvwitathug


Dear inluvwitathug,

Leave him and don't look back. It may seem harsh - and I guess it is - but the thing is, you can't save people. This "thug" needs to realize that his life is in the toilet and pull it out himself - for himself. Besides, if you meant so much to him, why would he be actin' like this and expecting you to stay with him? Eventually, he could get you into trouble too - and you sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders so it would be a real shame. It's a tough thing to do, but you gotta walk away from thug-boy and find someone who is into positive things and will bring up UP not down.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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