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Dear Dish-It: I’m a Shopaholic!

Dear Dish-It,

I’m obsessed with shopping! I want to buy everything I see! But my parents won’t give me money anymore and with school and everything else I don’t have time to get a job. How can I kick my habit?

Shopaholic

Dear Shopaholic,

I totally get where you’re coming from – I’m sure that plenty of Kidzworld members can relate. Shopping can be fun … but it can also turn into an obsession or a really bad habit (there’s actually a term for compulsive shopping: oniomania). For that reason, it’s important to keep your shopping habits in check. Here’s my advice …

Find Out How You Really Feel

Some people say that they feel really good or happy or excited when they buy a new item. Is that how shopping makes you feel? If so, it can be a really good exercise to pay attention to your feelings – before, during and after your purchase. Sure, you may feel good while you’re buying something new, but how do you feel a few hours, days or week after you made the purchase? Chances are you don’t feel the same excitement about your purchase as you did when you were buying it – you may have even forgotten that you had had it! Remember, the “glow” or “thrill” you get from shopping doesn’t last – and that’s a good reason to keep your bad shopping habits in check and find other ways to fill your happiness quota.

Find New, Healthy Habits

Instead of shopping, why not avoid the mall altogether and start spending more time in places where the temptation to put down your credit card won’t be as bad. Hang out with friends or invite them over to your house; go to the park; start learning how to play a musical instrument. Anything to get you out of the mall and away from those cash registers! Besides, I’m willing to bet that the amount of happiness you get from these other activities will be much better and last much longer than buying another pair of jeans could ever give you!

Get Your Career in Gear

You may not have time for a job right now, but one day you will! When the time comes, you may find that your love of shopping could help you land a cool career as a buyer or merchandiser in, say, the fashion industry (if that’s what you’re interested in). By that time, hopefully, you’ll have kicked your bad spending habits and be in it for interest, rather than simply to keep your shopping obsession happy. Good luck!

Have Your Say

Has this ever happened to you? Got any good advice for Shopaholic? Leave your comment below!

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"classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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