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Dear Dish-It: I’m a Shopaholic!

Dear Dish-It,

I’m obsessed with shopping! I want to buy everything I see! But my parents won’t give me money anymore and with school and everything else I don’t have time to get a job. How can I kick my habit?

Shopaholic

Dear Shopaholic,

I totally get where you’re coming from – I’m sure that plenty of Kidzworld members can relate. Shopping can be fun … but it can also turn into an obsession or a really bad habit (there’s actually a term for compulsive shopping: oniomania). For that reason, it’s important to keep your shopping habits in check. Here’s my advice …

Find Out How You Really Feel

Some people say that they feel really good or happy or excited when they buy a new item. Is that how shopping makes you feel? If so, it can be a really good exercise to pay attention to your feelings – before, during and after your purchase. Sure, you may feel good while you’re buying something new, but how do you feel a few hours, days or week after you made the purchase? Chances are you don’t feel the same excitement about your purchase as you did when you were buying it – you may have even forgotten that you had had it! Remember, the “glow” or “thrill” you get from shopping doesn’t last – and that’s a good reason to keep your bad shopping habits in check and find other ways to fill your happiness quota.

Find New, Healthy Habits

Instead of shopping, why not avoid the mall altogether and start spending more time in places where the temptation to put down your credit card won’t be as bad. Hang out with friends or invite them over to your house; go to the park; start learning how to play a musical instrument. Anything to get you out of the mall and away from those cash registers! Besides, I’m willing to bet that the amount of happiness you get from these other activities will be much better and last much longer than buying another pair of jeans could ever give you!

Get Your Career in Gear

You may not have time for a job right now, but one day you will! When the time comes, you may find that your love of shopping could help you land a cool career as a buyer or merchandiser in, say, the fashion industry (if that’s what you’re interested in). By that time, hopefully, you’ll have kicked your bad spending habits and be in it for interest, rather than simply to keep your shopping obsession happy. Good luck!

Have Your Say

Has this ever happened to you? Got any good advice for Shopaholic? Leave your comment below!

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Do You Shop at Vintage Stores?

  • Yeah, it's where I find all the coolest stuff.
  • Only when I tag along with my vintage-lovin' friends.
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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? It's really nice that your mother supports it, that always helps!! I'm glad that your family enjoys his company as well. Being 16 while he's 20 is alright. It's a slight odd age gap. But, I think as long as you both are ready, it's alright. Make sure you're mature and safe with your choices though. Personally, I think you should wait until you're closer to at least, 17. But, as long as you two are smart about what you're doing, it should be alright when it come around to it.
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"Shygirl15" wrote:I really like this boy in my second period class but i dont know how to tell him because he knows that im transgender do whatever makes you feel comfortable or just wing it and tell him and if he tells you something because you're trans forget about him! He doesn't deserve you. But it's totally okay if you want to play it safe and not go up to him. You do you. :3 
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"SatanslilDemon" wrote: Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice??? i suggest you wait i mean you are going to be 16 that's way too young to be dating someone who is 4/5 years older than you,no? You can still talk to him when it comes to your anxiety attacks and all of that because I have those too every night so I know how it feels, but maybe you should wait. But at the end of the day it's your decision I'm just here to give advice 
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Ok so I have a dilemma. I really, and I mean really like this guy. He's considerate of my mental wellbeing and health, plus he's really funny and sweet. He's respectful, loyal, and his hugs are the best ever(he's like a foot and 4 inches taller than me). the dilemma is, he'stwentyandI'mfifteenturningsixteensoon.... I'm not gonna even ask about dating him until i'm sixteen but I've called him in total anxiety attack crying my eyes out and he calmed me down and made me laugh, and I invited him to come see a choir performance so he spent the day with me... My mom ships us... but I'm a little worried because of the age difference  and experience difference and just, I don't want to miss the chance of being with him because of it. ​  any advice???
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I feel like that too. My best friend will always hang out with her 'new friends' that I have a really bad opinion about. My friend will treat me rudely all the time and sometimes make fun of me with her friends. But, when I needed her the most in my life, she was there for me, and I told her how I felt. She says that she just wants to hang out with more people and apologized, people can be a little teasy at times.  Also, after seeing each other for a long time, people make new friends and start hanging out with them more, it doesn't mean that she doesn't like you.  This may be different for you, but just tell her about it, she will have to know you feelings at one point.  Hope I helped you. 
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