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Dear Dish-It: I’m a Shopaholic!

Dear Dish-It,

I’m obsessed with shopping! I want to buy everything I see! But my parents won’t give me money anymore and with school and everything else I don’t have time to get a job. How can I kick my habit?

Shopaholic

Dear Shopaholic,

I totally get where you’re coming from – I’m sure that plenty of Kidzworld members can relate. Shopping can be fun … but it can also turn into an obsession or a really bad habit (there’s actually a term for compulsive shopping: oniomania). For that reason, it’s important to keep your shopping habits in check. Here’s my advice …

Find Out How You Really Feel

Some people say that they feel really good or happy or excited when they buy a new item. Is that how shopping makes you feel? If so, it can be a really good exercise to pay attention to your feelings – before, during and after your purchase. Sure, you may feel good while you’re buying something new, but how do you feel a few hours, days or week after you made the purchase? Chances are you don’t feel the same excitement about your purchase as you did when you were buying it – you may have even forgotten that you had had it! Remember, the “glow” or “thrill” you get from shopping doesn’t last – and that’s a good reason to keep your bad shopping habits in check and find other ways to fill your happiness quota.

Find New, Healthy Habits

Instead of shopping, why not avoid the mall altogether and start spending more time in places where the temptation to put down your credit card won’t be as bad. Hang out with friends or invite them over to your house; go to the park; start learning how to play a musical instrument. Anything to get you out of the mall and away from those cash registers! Besides, I’m willing to bet that the amount of happiness you get from these other activities will be much better and last much longer than buying another pair of jeans could ever give you!

Get Your Career in Gear

You may not have time for a job right now, but one day you will! When the time comes, you may find that your love of shopping could help you land a cool career as a buyer or merchandiser in, say, the fashion industry (if that’s what you’re interested in). By that time, hopefully, you’ll have kicked your bad spending habits and be in it for interest, rather than simply to keep your shopping obsession happy. Good luck!

Have Your Say

Has this ever happened to you? Got any good advice for Shopaholic? Leave your comment below!

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CoolerThanMyself
I'm a 12 year old girl with really strict parents! I do chores( even handling BLEACH sometimes) , I take care of my little brother, I'm in top set for all my classes- even on the gifted and talented register and I've only ever had 1 detention- and that was their fault anyway bc I was late( they drive). But, I'm still NEVER allowed out with my friends! My friends are all in top sets as well, are well behaved and all we literally would do is window shopping. I mean, there are my age smoking shisha and doing #####- they should be lucky I'm not a delinquent! But my parents always say I can't hang out. Not because they're worried about my safety, they just dont want me to go out.! Even sleepovers, my parents always say no because they ' haven't met the parents" but they make NO effort to do so. I'm losing out on knowing my friends better and whilst they're all making best friends, at school I'm just the person in the background- the left out friend. It hurts and most of the time I wish I was fostered or something. How can I make them loosen up? ( don't say anything about sneaking out because I chose life)
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Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Friends:
Is there a particular reason or situation causing you to feel this way? I can't provide much advice other than talk to them about it. Communication is important.
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Arenl
Arenl posted in Friends:
He is a jerk, but then what ?? He is your best friend . Maybe you should tell him to sleep for an extra hour. It may be a lack of sleep.
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KittyCheshire
KittyCheshire posted in Friends:
My BFFEL (best friend for eternal life) is being a jerk after we have been friends for a long time. What should I do?
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PittsburghPenguinsFanatic
"aftershock" wrote: "NicolletteA" wrote: no. and you sound like the marketing people that stop me at the mall.  :/ lol, I'm not, i just kno someone whos making a new app and wanted to see if any1 would use it.   BTW what do u say to the marketing people at the mall? No. I don't like those people at the mall. Sometimes, they ask my family and I (usually directed at my mom and sister, but sometimes at me, too. Even though I'm under 13. Not for long though.) if they want their hair done. And sometimes I'm so tempted to say, "No thank you. I did my hair today. Do you think I want it done?" But of course I never do. It's kinda disrespectful. So we just usually say No thank you. My mom, sister, and I now have a solution for that (my idea when I was maybe ages 9-11) Don't make eye contact with them and pretend that they aren't there.
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