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Dear Dish-it: Should I Quit the Team?

Feb 02, 2013

Dear Dish-it,

Basketball is taking over my life. One of my coaches is really mean and she’s taking all the fun out of the game. I just want to quit so I can have a normal social life, but I’m a starter and everyone would freak out if I quit. I’m especially afraid of how my nice coach will react. Will she hate me? Should I quit?

B-Balla

Dear B-Balla,

Change is a part of life. We’re always transitioning from one stage to another. Before you make any decisions that will change your life though, think about the consequences. Yes, your coach might be upset. He or she will probably be sad to see such a talented basketball player cash in their jersey for a pair of skinny jeans. But don’t let your coach’s feelings make this decision for you. You have to follow your gut.

Your Future

Also consider your future. Was basketball something you had hoped to pursue in high school, or if you’re already in high school, in college? Had you hoped to get a basketball scholarship in order to attend college?

A New Sport

You’ll also have to find any alternative way to exercise. With basketball being such a large part of your life, you don’t realize how much exercise you're actually getting. Maybe you could find a different sport to play, one that doesn’t take up so much of your time. Or why not join an after school basketball league, one that’s more casual and doesn’t offer so much pressure.

Follow Your Heart

Ultimately, quitting the team has to be your decision. What does your heart tell you? Is your mean coach really the only reason you want to quit the team, or have you simply fallen out of love with the game? Don't let anyone else affect your decision. Follow your heart and you can’t go wrong.

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Do you have any advice for B-Balla? Tell us in our comment section below!

 

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bookwormlestrange
I don't have ADHD, but I know plenty about it. One of my friends has ADHD and Tourette's, and the teachers were always turds about it. Anyway, i think that a good way to deal with ADHD acting up is either changing medication or trying to eat foods or drinks with caffeine. I'm not sure if it works for you, but a lot of people with ADHD have seen significant improvements after putting caffeine in their systems. If your friends are acting like turds, you need better friends. I hope my advice helps.
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SmartSunnyShadow
I have one so annoying sister, that it feels like I have 200 of them, oh my god. She's pounding on the door right now, HELP! 
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SmartSunnyShadow
Dad, obviously. I can't even explain what he does to me!
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SmartSunnyShadow
Well, if they are your BFFs, they shouldn't be teasing you to make you feel bad. Me, and my BFFs tease each other all the time playfully, but I understand that this is different, and if it's making you feel bad it isn't playful at all.   Maybe your eldest friend is having some trouble with family issues, bad grades, body changes, etc. It's okay to be angry, so maybe you should leave her space for a few days, and see if it turns better. If it isn't, then try to first make her calm down. Then, make her talk to you about why she is so angry and ask if you can try to help. If nothing turns out better, tell her that you feel uncomfortable, and you want her to talk to you.  For your 3rd eldest friend, support her as much as possible, and stand up for her in this terrible situation. If you are all BFFs, then you should all be very close and comfortable around each other, and the fight shouldn't last long. If not, they are not your real friends, and you have to go on without them. I have tons of advice on how to make new friends, so just ask me if you want to know. Your 2nd eldest friend seems to be the main problem.  First of all, tell her to stop, and say how you don't like her bullying you. You must say what she is doing wrong, and how it makes you feel. If she doesn't care, tell her you're serious, and you hate what she is doing to you. If it continues, ignore what trash she is saying, and just simply walk away. Focus on other things that will help make you feel better. Remember, all she is is a person, and it's up to you to act appropriately.  Stay positive, and calm. Focus on other things, and if she continues, tell her that you can all be friends and you miss her. Go get another friend to stand up with you, and tell her that you will report to an adult if she won't stop. She may be your friend, but she deserves it. I told on my BFF when she was mean, so it's all okay now.  If all else fails, get a trusted adult, and hang out with nicer friends. Your other friends will learn from their mistakes. If not, warn them, and give them a sincere kindness note of how you miss being friends. Then, also give one to the bully.
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AnnaOfExquizurd
Yeah, @CyclonicBass the best option really is to find a girl with a quirky personality. Become friends with her. Possibly, over time, she'll grow close to you and accept a request to be with you. Hope it goes well!
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