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Choosing Love Over Friendship

Choosing Love Over Friendship - Reviewed by Kidzworld on Dec 27, 2006
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What happens when a friend makes you choose between her and the guy you really like? Would a real friend make you choose? And how do you know if you made the right decision?

I'm in grade 11 and this is one of the hardest years for me. I recently changed schools. I thought I had a very good set of friends at my new school. Ones that you can count on. There were few interested in drinking and drugs and no real rumors going on, yet. I became close friends with a girl named Jenn. I got to know her boyfriend - the one was dating at the time. I got to know every one of the crowd.

Six months went by. School was almost out again. Jenn broke up with her boyfriend and had dated a few others afterwards. I started liking her the ex from months before. The one that she had cheated on. People found out. The whole group, called friends, turned their backs on me. A few friends didn't care, but it turned ugly. I was called everything and anything. I was betrayed more than anything. I was asked to choose. It was either her or the guy. If I chose her, then I had to have nothing to do with the guy. I chose the guy. For a couple of reasons. Those friends that I had, spread rumors about each other all the time. It was one really bad soap opera.

I was sorry to hurt Jenn, real sorry. Yet how this guy made me feel was wonderful. I am the only girl in his world. I was thinking about friends. I thought about the future. The ones that would always be there for me and the ones that I could count on. In the long run, the guy proved to be there.

I wasn't about to give that up. I couldn't afford it. So therefore, I made a choice - one that left me without friends. However, I am happy. The few friends that I have now, I know will be there for me. They are the ones that I call true friends.

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I know that life goes on. Friends will come and go. Those that stay, are the true ones. I want a family and to marry in the future. I learn to take one day at a time. Treat others how you want to be treated. This makes you a happier person.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: Superwoman
Age: 16

1 My bestfriend and I both liked the same guy, but after she found out someone else liked her she stopped liking my crush. But after she stopped liking him, he started liking her! I was depressed. But when I found out my friend got a boyfriend, I knew she wasn't going to go out with the guy I liked.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: munchkinkadoodlybob
Age: 14

1 I honestly can say that I would not choose love over friendship. Friends don't come and go, you can't just stop being friends with some one and find another friend just like them. But with guys, that happens all the time. I never do that. But my best friend does it all the time. If her boyfriend calls her she'll hang up with me for him, or if I ask her to go somewhere with me and then he asks her, she'll go with him. I hate when she does that.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: Goody2shoes_89
Age: 14

1 Well I think you shouldn't care what others think. You know you like him so go for it. If Jenn didn't want him no more so why should she care since she got her other boyfriend. I mean if a guy makes me happy, why should I leave that for a friend who should care about you and doesn't.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: GtownAZnBbgurl
Age: 13

1 Should friends be supporting your decision instead of nagging you to sing?
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: tomboy girl 13
Age: 12

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astucieuse331
astucieuse331 posted in Friends:
I've always felt the same way. My one best friend gossiped behind my back, used me, all that girl stuff. She took me for advantage and we had a bunch of fights because of her finding a new friend and completely acting as if I didn't exist, and I told her to give me at least some attention every once in a while if she can't even continue to talk to me daily. And.. I lost her. Well, she lost me. We both lost each other. But then I realized.. it's the people that you least expect to be nice to you you'll find kindness in. Why? Based on personal experience, and I'll tell you the story: For my gym class, me and my peers were supposed to make a group for a dance. This was when my best friend had found a new friend already, and the time at which we had a few fights because of that. Of course, I relied on my best friend to count me in her dance group. At lunchtime, I sat together with my best friend, and we ate our lunches in silence. All of a sudden, I brought up the dance groups and asked her straightforwardly: "Can I join your group?" No reply. "Kelly, can I join your group?" No reply. "I mean, since our class is uneven, I found it fair that there'd be a group of five, you know?" None at all. Kelly ignored me straight off the bat, leaving me speechless. My mind raced with thoughts, and I thought, maybe it's not worth having Kelly as a friend. A few days later, we were playing Dodgeball for gym. I was on Kelly's team, and overheard her talking with her new friends about who to pick for the dance group. One of her friends mentioned me, and Kelly said: "Oh no, we shouldn't pick her because _____ (I don't know what she said then)." I was shocked, but was anticipating it, so when the time came to choose groups, I saw my friend, Luke, ask two girls, Cher and Bridgette, to join their group. Surprisingly, Cher and Bridgette actually accepted him, and so I thought, "Wow, if they accepted Luke, they might accept me aswell!" and so built up the courage to ask them if I could join. Even though Cher and Bridgette were mean to me sometimes, I knew that I had to risk it and see what'd happen. Afterall, rejection is just another opportunity to find a better group. Little did I know, it'd be the best choice of my life. They were so happy, and even thanked me for joining them! I was speechless once more; I never knew that the peers that I thought I would never be friends with would actually be my friends!  So yeah, that's what I learnt, and I never regretted learning that fact. Ever since then, though, I've learnt not to trust people as much as I used to anymore. I learnt that independency is what works for me, what I was meant for in terms of socializing or working. But, other things may work for you. If you still want a friend, you can be independent and wait for the right person. However, if you still want a real friend, you can wait, but still mingle (hang out) with other people! I I'm not going to make fun of you because I know how you've felt, just as I stated in my past problem before. But you can move on from those friends, they're not worth your time and certainly don't deserve you as a friend. Trust me, if it's meant to be, you'll definitely find a true friend. But if it's not, you may become like me, finding happiness in my own way. I want to remind you though-- you don't need someone to stay happy, or keep you company. This may sound silly, but you can even have your own invisible friends! I've had one, but that's very rarely for me. It's not silly though if you see the general idea; usually these friends are made from different dimensions of your personality or just because of will. There's a lot more fish in the sea, though, so I'm sure you'll find a true friend that's meant for you  :) Take care, and I hope you'll find a true friend soon!
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ts01
ts01 posted in Friends:
im so sorry you girls feel that way.true friends are there, its just easier to find users because they are more plentiful. dont give up, you will find real friends eventually
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lolflowergirl
lolflowergirl posted in Friends:
i feel alone too
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kayme123
kayme123 posted in Friends:
i know the feeling. but i got taken off a website instead of my friends. i can assure you they probably feel the same and are missing you, BUT its not worth dwelling over it. friends come and go without any choice in life and trust me, i lost the love of my life and my two of the best friends in the world. The thing is, you have to move on, because they wouldent want you feeling sad over them right? they'd want you to be the happy person you were when you were with them! for starters, i'll be your friend so your not scared to make some new ones. To be honest, i went through the exact same thing as you did and it DOES hurt very bad. But once you find some people that are willing to make you feel better, you know you've chosen the right friends again
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Irene_love
Irene_love posted in Style:
"1.am.3m0" wrote:Hey. Im also turning 15 soon. So dont worry you arent alone hahah. Start dressing for your shape and also find whats comfortable.  Because if you wear something that is uncomfortable you wont be happy and happiness is the best look :) Most of the time I wear jeans with a graphic tshirt or singlet and a cardigan or light jacket. Hoodies are great for winter. And I wear combat boots like doc martins and converse. Hope I helped somehow! :)
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