Choosing Love Over Friendship

Choosing Love Over Friendship - Reviewed by Kidzworld on Dec 27, 2006
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What happens when a friend makes you choose between her and the guy you really like? Would a real friend make you choose? And how do you know if you made the right decision?

I'm in grade 11 and this is one of the hardest years for me. I recently changed schools. I thought I had a very good set of friends at my new school. Ones that you can count on. There were few interested in drinking and drugs and no real rumors going on, yet. I became close friends with a girl named Jenn. I got to know her boyfriend - the one was dating at the time. I got to know every one of the crowd.

Six months went by. School was almost out again. Jenn broke up with her boyfriend and had dated a few others afterwards. I started liking her the ex from months before. The one that she had cheated on. People found out. The whole group, called friends, turned their backs on me. A few friends didn't care, but it turned ugly. I was called everything and anything. I was betrayed more than anything. I was asked to choose. It was either her or the guy. If I chose her, then I had to have nothing to do with the guy. I chose the guy. For a couple of reasons. Those friends that I had, spread rumors about each other all the time. It was one really bad soap opera.

I was sorry to hurt Jenn, real sorry. Yet how this guy made me feel was wonderful. I am the only girl in his world. I was thinking about friends. I thought about the future. The ones that would always be there for me and the ones that I could count on. In the long run, the guy proved to be there.

I wasn't about to give that up. I couldn't afford it. So therefore, I made a choice - one that left me without friends. However, I am happy. The few friends that I have now, I know will be there for me. They are the ones that I call true friends.


I know that life goes on. Friends will come and go. Those that stay, are the true ones. I want a family and to marry in the future. I learn to take one day at a time. Treat others how you want to be treated. This makes you a happier person.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: Superwoman
Age: 16

1 My bestfriend and I both liked the same guy, but after she found out someone else liked her she stopped liking my crush. But after she stopped liking him, he started liking her! I was depressed. But when I found out my friend got a boyfriend, I knew she wasn't going to go out with the guy I liked.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: munchkinkadoodlybob
Age: 14

1 I honestly can say that I would not choose love over friendship. Friends don't come and go, you can't just stop being friends with some one and find another friend just like them. But with guys, that happens all the time. I never do that. But my best friend does it all the time. If her boyfriend calls her she'll hang up with me for him, or if I ask her to go somewhere with me and then he asks her, she'll go with him. I hate when she does that.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: Goody2shoes_89
Age: 14

1 Well I think you shouldn't care what others think. You know you like him so go for it. If Jenn didn't want him no more so why should she care since she got her other boyfriend. I mean if a guy makes me happy, why should I leave that for a friend who should care about you and doesn't.
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: GtownAZnBbgurl
Age: 13

1 Should friends be supporting your decision instead of nagging you to sing?
Kidz Submit By:
Nickname: tomboy girl 13
Age: 12

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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Hmmm....Then she mustn't be necessarily "using" you, if she is not getting something in return ( As far as we know of). However, It does sound like she is being extremely unfair. That just might be how she is. Not exactly loyal to anyone. Well, try to talk to her about it and tell her how you feel. And, if it doesn't work out, then she might not be a great friend to hang around with, and maybe you will find someone else who enjoys your company. I hope this helps, and good luck :)
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
No not really. Like I said, one minute she's all smiley and then she doesn't even look at me. Most of the time I see her with Daniela and Andrea. Today she was asking me if I was going to hang out with her, Daniela, Andrea and Luisa during recess. When I told her that I was 'going to have to think' she was like, "Whatever." and ran off to catch up with the Threesome. Thanks. :)
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EndlessDream posted in Friends:
Is she asking you to do things for her? Like help with homework, carry her books and so on?
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XxIHateMathxX posted in Friends:
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