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Dear Dish-It: I Have To Move

Dear Dish-It,

I met this really great guy and I fell In love with him, but my mom brought a house in Pennsylvania, and we're supposed to the move there this summer. Should I let him go or make an effort to stay connected? Please help!!!!

Amberlove1015


Dear Amber,


Sounds like a not-so-great situation. I’m sorry you have to move to another state so soon after falling in love. However, I think you can make up your mind as to whether to think of this in a good way or a bad way. Here… I’ll show you just what I mean…


You can choose to think and feel as though things in life are happening TO you, or you can choose to think and feel as though things in life are happening for a good reason. If you choose to think the first way, everything will seem bad, all the time. In your situation, it will feel like your mom is forcing you to break up with someone you love. However, if you choose to think and feel and second way, you will be able to see and know that there must be a good reason for you having to move away from this guy, and that it is leading you to something even better than you have now.


I know it may still hurt to leave behind someone you love, but since you don’t really seem to have a choice in the matter (I assume you have to move with your mom), I think you should just feel thankful that you met someone who you could love and feel so much about, and look forward to all the wonderful new love you will most likely find in your new home.


As for whether to stay in touch with your ex or not, I say why not? In this day and age we have so many amazing and fast methods of communication available to us – we don’t even need to take the time to sit down and write out a letter by hand and take it to the mailbox and wait for it to be delivered on the other side. With a click of a mouse or simply by pushing a button on your BlackBerry, you can communicate with people who live on the other side of the country – or the world.


So yes, keep in touch if you want to but don’t be so down about having to leave – I promise you there’s a good reason behind it, and eventually you will look back and be able to see just what that reason was!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to deardish@kidzworld.com But 'member, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share,We'll dish 'em up, too.


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