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Dear Dish-It: I'm Depressed

Dear Dish-It,

I think I'm going through depression. I'm scared to tell my parents. I've been eating a lot to make up for my emptiness. My sister went through the same thing at my age. I'm too scared to tell her even. I told my BFF I'm a little depressed, but not as depressed as I really am. And when my sister went through depression I promised myself that wouldn't happen to me. And now that it is, I don't know who to turn to. I'm confused, scared, and alone. In my own corner. I need advice.

true2myself

Dear true2myself,

It is SO important that you have reached out to me in your e-mail. Because I happen to care very much about what happens to you, even though we’ve never met! It’s really normal to feel sad sometimes or really overwhelmed by what you’re dealing with as a kid or teen. But there are things you can do about it.

Get to a counselor or therapist.

My best advice is for you to try and get to a trained professional who can help you deal more effectively with everything you have going on. You can ask your parents to connect you with a counselor or a therapist, and you don’t necessarily need to tell them why you want to see someone. You can just tell them that there’s a lot on your mind and you think that talking with someone could help. You can also find a counselor by talking to your school counselor or asking him or her for a referral to another counselor. Or try searching the Internet to find a professional counselor near you.

You’re not alone.

You need to know that you are not alone in your feelings of sadness, loneliness and depression. There are plenty of sites on the Internet about depression, and lots of people logging on to those sites each day, trying to reach out for help for themselves. But, as they all say themselves, these sites cannot substitute for the help of a trained mental health professional.

Remember, you took a brave step forward by just writing an e-mail to me. This means that you can take the next step — reaching out to someone close to you, so you can start to feel better.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to Dish-It here. Send all of your questions to Dish-It in the forums But remember, if ya hang out in Chat with other Kidzworld members who know ya by your 'username', ya might wanna use a secret nickname when ya write in. That way no one'll ever know it's you. And, just in case ya don't know, Dish-It gets a lotta letters everyday, and she can't answer 'em all. So keep checkin' the column cuz she's prob'ly answerin' somethin' very similar to your question while you're out doin' somethin' else. K? And Thanks! Ya keep her outta trouble. Oh! And if ya've got words of wisdom you wanna share, we'll dish 'em up, too.

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What Do You Do When You Get Blue?

  • I curl up in front of the tube with a bowl of ice cream.
  • I retreat to my room and crank the tunes.
  • I surround myself with my friends and fam.
  • I take long walks and avoid my peeps at all costs.

Dear Dish-It In The Forums

PotterDrinksWater
While engagement isn't illegal for juveniles, marriage is as you can already tell. Judging by your feelings, I don't think the relationship will last long enough for him to be able to wait. I heard some courts will allow it, depending on location. Knowing whether her engagement is okay is a tricky thing. She seems pretty confident in the relationship. As for your own feelings, how well do you know him? Do you have any knowledge about him outside their love life? Do her parents know anything about him? If you don't now the answers, don't be afraid to ask them to her or her parents. I'm also a 16-year-old girl and I don't feel comfortable with it. Many young adults have a hard time understanding the transition from  teen to adult, but if he's put his problems on her, that's a bad sign. I don't think 5 months is long enough in my opinion and I think this could lead to making bad habits in a relationship. I appreciate that you're trying to help your friend be safe. Hopefully some of her closest people will help her with you. They don't necessarily have to steer her against him, but they should help guide her into deciding what's best ad how to carry on from that.
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CaptJolee
CaptJolee posted in Friends:
I don't even think that legal for a adult to marry a teen I think you should ask that part to make sure my theory is correct
reply about 7 hours
Boysrock50
Boysrock50 posted in Friends:
Do your parents know her parents? Maybe you could get your parents to speak to hers. Or if not, maybe tell her parents yourself that you're concerned. Try speaking to her and making sure she's 100% sure about what she's doing?
reply about 8 hours
KittyChes16
KittyChes16 posted in Friends:
So last year my friend got engaged at the age of sixteen to a guy of twenty-one and they only dated for 5 months at the time. I'm afraid she's making a mistake. They're still together, but her guy seems like he has a temper and might get abusive in the future.  What should I do? 
reply about 9 hours
DaEpicMuffin
DaEpicMuffin posted in Style:
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reply about 18 hours