Dear Dish-It, Help, I'm Pregnant

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Dear Dish-It,
My BF of 2 years got me pregnant. I am 5 weeks pregnant. What should I do cuz I'm only 12. I need help!! Answer soon!
iamcool0808

Dear iamcool0808,
You need to hook up with some help ASAP. Unfortunately, I'm not the kinda help you need. How do you know you're 5 weeks pregnant? Did you take a home test or did you go to a clinic. Cuz if you've taken a home pregnancy test and that's all, you need to get yourself to a doctor. The thing 'bout the home test is they're not really reliable. The test itself is pretty accurate... so much so that many doctors and clinics use them. But the test can give a false result when the instructions aren't followed properly. I guess what I'm tryin' to say is, when you're nervous you can make mistakes.

You still need to deal with this AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. I know you don't want to hear this but you should talk to your mom. She is the best person in the world to help you. She loves you and you know she's got the experience... she's had babies of her own. And if you're scared that she's gonna wig, well come on you're her baby, of course she's gonna wig. But she's still your mom and she loves you and she will want to help you. If you really can't face your 'rents, talk to a doctor or maybe your fave teacher at school. The point is, you need an adult in your corner.

You've got another issue you need to deal with quickly. I'm guessing you had unprotected sex, which means you may have contracted an STD. Sexually Transmitted Diseases are no joke girl. AIDS is an STD. If you are old enough to have sex (and I don't think you are,) you are old enough to take responsibility for your health. Check out the list below for the 411 on your health, pregnancy and support near you.

Taking Care of Business

  • Talk to an adult. Your mom and dad are the best option in most cases. You made a mistake... don't make it worse by not talking with your 'rents. Family is about supporting each other during the hard times. Give them a chance to help you. If 'rents are totally out of the question, talk to a doctor, school nurse or teacher. You need someone who can give you direction.
  • Get properly tested for pregnancy and STDs.
  • Speak with a doctor (your family doctor or the local free clinics) about what the next step is.
  • Get informed. Learn everything you need to know to make grown up decisions. Here are a couple of sites with the 411 on pregnancy, pregnancy testing, abortion, adoption, parenting, sexually transmitted diseases, maternity homes and more. Remember one thing when reviewing these sites or talking to someone about your options - almost everyone has an agenda. That means there are clinics and help lines that are pro-choice and others that are pro-life. This is why having an adult in your corner is really important. Having a trustworthy adult help you, will make it easier for you to make the choice that is right for you.

    Teen Line
    Planned Parenthood

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