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Dear Dish-It, Friends vs. Hotties!

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Dear Dish-It,

Okay, I like this boy, right? And he likes me too, but only a little bit. And my friend had this plan, to get the boy to like me a lot, so I went with it. Now me and the boy are close, but my old friend thinks it is a bad idea to go out with him. Now, about a month ago, my old friend was mad at me. Now, yesterday, my old friend called me and said she misses me and all that stuff. But the main reason I am writing to you is to ask should I forgive her after how long she was mean to me and forget about the boy I like? Or don't forgive her and go out with the boy I like?
Confused


Dear Confused,

I'm confused too! I don't see why you can't make nice with your girlfriend and go out with the boy. If your friend's crushin' on your boy, she's gonna have to deal. You spied him first... and the original plottin' was all 'bout gettin' you together with him. That said, try to respect her feelings cuz it's gonna be hard for her to see you with him.


Dear Dish-It,

There is this really cute and fine boy I like, named Kendrick. I love him so much that we just clicked and started kissing. But there's also this other cute and fine boy named Jeremiah that I like and I know he likes me too, but he doesn't want to admit it. I think that he doesn't want everyone to make a big deal about it. Who should I keep?
talisha


Dear talisha,

Who do you have? It doesn't sound like you got any say about hottie number two - Jeremiah. Besides you are already makin' time with hottie number one. So I say, stay focused girl. You'll get a bad rep if ya start playin' two hotties at one time. Not to mention, it's just not cool. As for cool, if things cool off between you and Kendrick then you can check out Jeremiah... but not before ending things properly with your current boy.


Dear Dish-It,

There are these 2 guys that I like very much, but get this - they are best friends!! Well anyway, I asked one of them to get with me and he told me that he couldn't 'cuz his best friend likes me. A few days later he (the one that I asked) told my best friend to tell me not to think that he doesn't like me 'cuz he really, really, likes me! My best friend told me that I should ask his best friend to get with me, but I'm afraid that they might think I'm a Ho cuz I already asked his best friend to get with me. And I'm also afraid that he might tell me no. What should I do?
*Goody2Shoes*


Dear *Goody2Shoes*,

Sorry girl but this is a no-win for ya. Guys tend to watch each other's backs. Right now you look good and you know that the one friend is crushin' back at ya. But it seems clear, he won't make a move as long as his friend likes you. The same goes for the friend. The only way you can play this without lookin' bad is to do nuttin'. Be friends with both of them and see what happens. Eventually one of them might step up to get with you, but it's gotta be on his/their terms. If you ask out the hottie's friend, you're goin' look like you're playin' both of them!


Dear Dish-It,

I like this boy and my friend likes him too. But he likes me and not her. What should I do... go with him or let her be mad at me?
mrs.bow wow


Dear mrs.bow wow,

Listen girl, there's enough Shad for the both of you. (LOL) Okay, seriously, a hottie is never worth tossin' a friendship over. Talk to your girl and let her know how you feel about this guy, but reassure her that she is your friend and that her feelings count. Tell her you really like him and think he likes you too, but that if it's not okay with her, it ain't gonna happen. If your friend is a good friend she will step aside and give you the green light to go for it. But, if you're a good friend you'll hold friendship higher than this, or any other crush, that may be over next week. Remember good friends are hard to find.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    cutegirl199

    cutegirl199 wrote:

    t depends if the boy is a hottie or a really hottie
    commented: Tue Dec 16, 2014

    sweetsapphire08
    yes u will dont worry if a girl likes u and u like her than ask the girl do u want to be my girlfriend
    commented: Mon Dec 15, 2014

    lionkid

    lionkid wrote:

    i will never get a girl friend i dontknow why
    commented: Sun Dec 14, 2014

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    Thranduil
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