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Dear Dish-It, My Ex Wants to Get Back With Me

Dear Dish-It,

My ex wants to go back with me. I told him NO I don't like you no more but we can be friends. He still asks me and he has my friends come say, "Do you want to go back with Byron?" What should I do about it?


I like this other boy. But I think I impress him too much. When I talk to him, I get nervous. What should I do about myself? A lot of boys at my school like me and want to go with me. What should I do about it? I smile too much so they probably think I like them. They ask me where do I live and what is my number. Should I stop smiling? Should I walk away? Should I say I'm not telling you my number and where I live and walk away? Please write back to me.
J-Gurl


Dear J-Gurl,

Okay first things first. Stick to your instincts and stay away from the ex. Tell your friends to step-off as well. They may just be trying to be nice to Byron cuz he's still all crushin' on ya but if you're not into him, they need to respect that. Tell 'em exes are exes for a reason.


Now, as for the rest of the guys who you're thinkin' are diggin' ya, I have two words for you: lucky girl! It's always nice to have attention. Even if you're not into the guy, it's still flattering. As for givin' out your personal info - like your digits or addy - stick with the silent treatment there. It's probably best to just tell the guys nicely that you're not cool with sharing that info. You've made it clear in your letter that you don't want to give it out, so don't.


And as for the guy you like who makes you all nervous - that's normal, girlfriend. There's nothing wrong with ya and no way to fix it. Sorry. Just keep pushing through the fear and get to know him. After awhile it'll be easy to hang with him.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    -Gwen9-- posted in Friends:
    "jordand08" wrote:Thank you.You're welcome. :)
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    donteatcarrots
    talk to the person you're closest too. yes, you said you don't get close with people, but there's probably one person who you speak to more often than others- talk to that person.
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    donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
    Don't worry too much- it's only your first relationship- but I'd sit down with him at one point, and discuss what makes you uncomfortable, eg; if you know what I mean...
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    donteatcarrots posted in Friends:
    Probably sound a little stereotypical, but the majority of boys don't really act like that... Ask him :p
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    kittenkid
    First: WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T KILL YOUSELF! When you get past this you'll be glad. Well, this is just my opinion, but I think you should first find someone, anyone, even if you don't trust them, if there're your parents talk to them about it. I bet a bunch of people have already told you this but there're right. Before you walk up to them, write down what you're going to say and then think of a few questions they might ask and write down the answers to them. Remember to tell them that it might take you a minute to think of an answer. Before you answer, think of the exact words you will say  before you say anything, and think in your mind about it. Think about wether it is a lie or not before you say it. If it gets out of you mouth before you realize it is a lie, don't be afraid to say so and just say the truth. Also, just try to find something you like to do that will take your mind off everything. If you really can't think of anything, try just practicing saying your feelings to yourself, or a pillow or something.  Hope this helps!
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