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Dear Dish-It, My Ex Wants to Get Back With Me

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Dear Dish-It,

My ex wants to go back with me. I told him NO I don't like you no more but we can be friends. He still asks me and he has my friends come say, "Do you want to go back with Byron?" What should I do about it?


I like this other boy. But I think I impress him too much. When I talk to him, I get nervous. What should I do about myself? A lot of boys at my school like me and want to go with me. What should I do about it? I smile too much so they probably think I like them. They ask me where do I live and what is my number. Should I stop smiling? Should I walk away? Should I say I'm not telling you my number and where I live and walk away? Please write back to me.
J-Gurl


Dear J-Gurl,

Okay first things first. Stick to your instincts and stay away from the ex. Tell your friends to step-off as well. They may just be trying to be nice to Byron cuz he's still all crushin' on ya but if you're not into him, they need to respect that. Tell 'em exes are exes for a reason.


Now, as for the rest of the guys who you're thinkin' are diggin' ya, I have two words for you: lucky girl! It's always nice to have attention. Even if you're not into the guy, it's still flattering. As for givin' out your personal info - like your digits or addy - stick with the silent treatment there. It's probably best to just tell the guys nicely that you're not cool with sharing that info. You've made it clear in your letter that you don't want to give it out, so don't.


And as for the guy you like who makes you all nervous - that's normal, girlfriend. There's nothing wrong with ya and no way to fix it. Sorry. Just keep pushing through the fear and get to know him. After awhile it'll be easy to hang with him.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    JesseWesse

    JesseWesse wrote:

    hahah i always end up back but i aint anymore IM A FIGHTER
    commented: Thu Mar 06, 2014

    Jennifer24

    Jennifer24 wrote:

    Jerk :p
    commented: Sat Jan 04, 2014

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    flamedog wrote:

    ok
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