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Dear Dish-It: Should I Reveal My True Feelings?

Should I Reveal My True Feelings?
Should I Reveal My True Feelings?

Dear Dish-It,

I want to tell this guy, Joel, my real feelings for him. I like, like, like him a lot!!!

joel!!♥


Dear joel!!♥,

It’s pretty obvious you have a crush on Joel. You probably think about him a lot, imagine yourself with him and maybe even picture your future with him. Unfortunately, you’re not even in a relationship with him yet and you might feel too shy to reveal your true feelings because you're worried about how he might react.


Everyone has their own opinion about whether you should reveal your true feelings to your crush or not and how to do it or not to do it. But if Joel is single, free and available and you wouldn’t be hurting anyone by telling him you like him, then there's nothing to say you shouldn't let him know how you feel.


At the same time, try not to put all your hopes on getting a date with him – there’s a chance he doesn’t feel the same way about you that you feel about him. If that’s the case, try not to feel bad if Joel doesn’t say he likes you back. Remember, a relationship should be equal. The person you’re dating should think you're as great as you think they are, and they should want to be with you as much as you want to be with them.

Your feelings are nothing to be ashamed of. Having crushes is a normal part of being a human being, especially when you're growing up. However, while it might be hard to see this right now, these feelings you8 have for Joel that seem so overwhelming nearly always fade with time. The reason your crush feels so intense is that you're basing your emotions on a fantasy version of how a relationship with Joel could but may not actually be in real life.


If you do decide to reveal your feelings to Joel, you have to be ready ahead of time to deal with him reacting in a way you may not like or expect. Hopefully he says he likes you back and then the two of you can decide where to take your relationship from there. But if he says he doesn’t feel the same way about you, even though it might seem very hard, you will have to try and move on by enjoying all the things in your life that you enjoyed before you had a crush on him. Have fun with your friends, go out and meet other people.


In time, your feelings won't seem so overwhelming. And, while you're getting on with enjoying life, you might end up meeting someone who really likes you and who you can have a great relationship with. Remember, you deserve someone who really wants to be with you, whether it’s Joel or someone else!


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    MonasYou

    MonasYou wrote:

    Not telling him CX
    commented: Thu Jul 17, 2014

    lacysilver2

    lacysilver2 wrote:

    You can tell someone else to tell him or her
    commented: Wed Jan 01, 2014

    Kahalisia

    Kahalisia wrote:

    well im not gunna tell him cx
    commented: Wed Jan 01, 2014

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