Dear Dish-It, I Flirt a Lot With Boys

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Dear Dish-It,

I have a little problem. Okay, I flirt a lot with boys, and a lot of boys like me, but the boy I really like doesn't like me. I think he likes my best friend because he's always hitting, tripping and pushing her in the hallway. She smiles too (although that's no big deal because she smiles all the time,) but I think she likes him back. What should I do? I'm really confused. Please answer this.

Dear Erami,

Okay, there are a few things that could be going on here... First, your flirty ways may be holding you back from romance. Some guys (and maybe your hottie is one of 'em) get way uncomfortable with flirty girls. They figure that someone who already gets so much attention and flirts with so many people must be outta their league. So that could be part of the prob here.

On a related note, your BFF - who is always smiling - might not seem so intimidating and, yeah, he might be into her. I mean, she's your best friend so you gotta get that she's a great girl, right? Maybe he gets that too.

Then again it could be that he's just Mr. Oblivious and he has no idea you're crushing on him, or that he's making it seem like he's into your bud. Some guys aren't aware of that kinda thing. The point is, you (and I) don't know what is really going on here. You need to ask your BFF how she feels about this hottie. Then you need to tell her how you feel about this hottie. Once you've squared things with your bud (cuz buds are the most important thing in all of this) you both need to tell him how you feel. If your BFF isn't into him, she needs to make that clear - in case he is into her. And if you're still crushin' on him, stop flirting with other dudes and make it clear that he's where your interest is. Let us know how it goes.

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .

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