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Dear Dish-It,

Ok, I am single now. And I sort of want to stay that way. Three boys have asked me out and I have said no to all of them and it has felt really good because I am the type that always has a boyfriend. Now, another boy asked me out and I broke up with this boy two months ago, we had a disagreement. He has just asked me back out... the problem is that I still like him and I want to be his girlfriend - but I like being single. I am having a party that I invited him to and I really want him to come because we have fun together. But he says he won't come as my friend, he only wants to come as my boyfriend. What should I do? I keep telling him give me time but he says he needs an answer. But I really need to think about it. Please help me!
BablyBlu2


Dear BablyBlu2,

If ya wanna be single right now - BE SINGLE! Don't go back out with him. Sure, the guy is fun and ya have a good time together - so keep him as a best bud. If you don't want a boyfriend, don't let him pressure you into having one. It won't work out in the end anyway - nothing forced ever does. So tell the fun boy to chill and remind him that if he stays your friend - without pressure - he'll have a better chance of bein' your one-and-only when you're ready! So stick your ground, be strong and hang in there girl!


Dear Dish-It,

There's this kid that likes me but I don't like him. The other day my friend told me that he hated himself because I don't like him. He's begging me to get with him and my friend tells me I should just to shut him up. What should I do?
Sweet_Angel635


Dear Sweet_Angel635,

You don't go out with someone just to shut them up. It's not fair to them and it's not cool. What you should do is be nice to him... nice, but firm. Explain he's a great guy but he's not your type - tell him you still wanna be friends. As for him hating himself just because you don't like him... he's definitely got self-esteem issues. If he starts getting really depressed you might wanna tell the 'rents or a teacher. Oh yeah, one last thing - it sounds like your "friend" is making the whole situation a bigger deal than it has to be. Tell her to take a break from feeding the rumor mill and stay out of it.


Dear Dish-It,

I've been friends with this guy for three years now. Everyone says he likes me... I want to find out for myself. So, how do I know when a guy likes me?
angel_links


Dear angel_links,

There are tons of ways to find out if a guys digs ya. If you're friends say he does, chances are he does. Then there is the body language... does he smile at you a lot? Stare at you a lot? Talk to you a lot? A "yes" answer to any of those is pretty much a good sign. But to find out for sure - you gotta ask him. You don't have to go right up to him and blurt out. "Hey! Do you like me?" That would be a little cheesy. But ask him to do something - just the two of you - you know, a date. Then, if you're a total chicken - you could always write him a note... but I'm not a fan of that method myself. Whatever you decide to do - and however it turns out - remember this: You never know unless you try. Good luck!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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