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Dear Dish-It, I'm Single and Like It


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

Ok, I am single now. And I sort of want to stay that way. Three boys have asked me out and I have said no to all of them and it has felt really good because I am the type that always has a boyfriend. Now, another boy asked me out and I broke up with this boy two months ago, we had a disagreement. He has just asked me back out... the problem is that I still like him and I want to be his girlfriend - but I like being single. I am having a party that I invited him to and I really want him to come because we have fun together. But he says he won't come as my friend, he only wants to come as my boyfriend. What should I do? I keep telling him give me time but he says he needs an answer. But I really need to think about it. Please help me!
BablyBlu2


Dear BablyBlu2,

If ya wanna be single right now - BE SINGLE! Don't go back out with him. Sure, the guy is fun and ya have a good time together - so keep him as a best bud. If you don't want a boyfriend, don't let him pressure you into having one. It won't work out in the end anyway - nothing forced ever does. So tell the fun boy to chill and remind him that if he stays your friend - without pressure - he'll have a better chance of bein' your one-and-only when you're ready! So stick your ground, be strong and hang in there girl!


Dear Dish-It,

There's this kid that likes me but I don't like him. The other day my friend told me that he hated himself because I don't like him. He's begging me to get with him and my friend tells me I should just to shut him up. What should I do?
Sweet_Angel635


Dear Sweet_Angel635,

You don't go out with someone just to shut them up. It's not fair to them and it's not cool. What you should do is be nice to him... nice, but firm. Explain he's a great guy but he's not your type - tell him you still wanna be friends. As for him hating himself just because you don't like him... he's definitely got self-esteem issues. If he starts getting really depressed you might wanna tell the 'rents or a teacher. Oh yeah, one last thing - it sounds like your "friend" is making the whole situation a bigger deal than it has to be. Tell her to take a break from feeding the rumor mill and stay out of it.


Dear Dish-It,

I've been friends with this guy for three years now. Everyone says he likes me... I want to find out for myself. So, how do I know when a guy likes me?
angel_links


Dear angel_links,

There are tons of ways to find out if a guys digs ya. If you're friends say he does, chances are he does. Then there is the body language... does he smile at you a lot? Stare at you a lot? Talk to you a lot? A "yes" answer to any of those is pretty much a good sign. But to find out for sure - you gotta ask him. You don't have to go right up to him and blurt out. "Hey! Do you like me?" That would be a little cheesy. But ask him to do something - just the two of you - you know, a date. Then, if you're a total chicken - you could always write him a note... but I'm not a fan of that method myself. Whatever you decide to do - and however it turns out - remember this: You never know unless you try. Good luck!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    rainbowpoptart
    Goodness... I see where your mother is coming from: if you eat too much, no matter how healthy the food is, and don't work off the calories, you're going to gain weight. But she's being very obsessive and dramatic about it. There is nothing wrong with eating pizza or a cookie every now and then, and there's nothing wrong with relaxing from time to time either. As long as you aren't constantly eating junk and not burning the calories, then you do not have a problem. Eating unhealthy things every now and then does not make you fat. EATING every now and then does not make you fat. Try explaining this to her, calmly and patiently. Tell her that you don't want to be forced to do all of this exercising - being forced to exercise makes it a lot less interesting. Do not take "This is for your own good" for an answer; if you do not want to do it, it is NOT for your good. (This, of course, would be a different story if you were actually fat.) ALSO tell her that exercising too much and not satiating your cravings is JUST AS UNHEALTHY AS BEING FAT IS. If you were to not eat healthful meals and not snack every now and then, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the food is, plus exercise so frequently, you would not be healthy.  Eating is good for you, even if the food isn't. Eating too little and eating too much is not healthy. Exercise is good for you. Not exercising enough and exercising too much is not good for you. If you talking to her doesn't help, try telling another adult how you feel, and maybe they can help get it through to her. Regardless of what happens, take care of yourself. Moderate how much you eat, but don't limit yourself to less than you feel you need. Exercise, but don't do something you don't want to; working out should be fun. Good luck with everything. I'm really sorry that she makes you feel so badly about this.
    reply about 7 hours
    jake495
    jake495 posted in Family Issues:
    Make sure she knows its your body not hers In a respectful way of course
    reply about 8 hours
    ThePaleWalker636
    I'm perfectly happy with myself. I'm around 5'6" and somewhere between 140-150 pounds, and I don't feel fat. But my mom is constantly telling me that I am, or, at least, that I'm going to be. She forces me to go to exercise classes because I don't like many sports, tries making me go on diets, but I don't want to. She tells me that if I continue the way I am, having an extra cookie once in a while and only eating cereal for breakfast, that I'll end up fat, and she makes sure to emphasize how horrible that is for a person to live with. She rolls her eyes and sighs whenever she sees me getting a snack, and just in general makes me feel awful for eating the things I like and for relaxing. I've told her that I don't want to do these things and that she makes me feel bad when she says things like that, but she swears it's for my own good and that I should never want to be fat, that it ruins people's lives. How should I deal with this?
    reply about 8 hours
    drowning
    drowning posted in Friends:
    "NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
    reply 1 day
    drowning
    I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
    reply 1 day