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Dear Dish-It, I Like Two Guys

Dear Dish-It,

I've been having problems with my friend who is my fake little sister. I like a boy, and he liked me, but now he tells me that he don't like me no more. We were supposed to be talking but now he won't be honest and tell me he likes my friend. I hate that cuz she has boyz drooling all over her! When I find someone that liked me for who I am - and who I liked for everything he is - now he's gone and tryin' to get with my friend. I'm hurt and cryin' every night over him. What should I do?
candygirl2002


Dear candygirl2002,

Here's what you should do - take the high road and move on! There is no point crying over spilt milk - especially sour milk, which is what this guy is! Sorry girlfriend, but he never "liked you for who you are." A guy who really liked a girl would not treat her the way he treated you - he'd show a lil' respect. As for the friend envy... chill before you turn green. This girl hasn't done anything wrong. She can't help it if your guy turned into a dog and is crushin' on her. And she also can't help it if lots of guys crush on her. You need to forget him and start feelin' good about what you got goin' on instead of feeling bad about what your friend has goin' on.


Dear Dish-It,

When my boyfriend moved away, we broke up. Then a couple of days later I got a new boyfriend. I REALLY like him and he REALLY likes me. But now my old boyfriend moved back, and he says he still likes me and wants to get back together. When I told him I had a new boyfriend he got mad and got into a fight with my new boyfriend. They told me to choose one of them! But I like them both!!! What should I do???
SexyAngel2002


Dear SexyAngel2002,

You may like 'em both, but you only REALLY like one of them - at least according to your letter. Judging from what you've told me, I think you should stay with the new guy and stay away from the one who moved away. See, the new guy is the one you REALLY like (your words) and the old guy is threatening to beat people up - not a cool move no matter what the situation. Tell the old BF that you still like him as a friend but that you're happy with the new BF, no hard feelings, yadda, yadda, yadda. If he keeps wanting to fight about it - tell him to take a hike. If he does get violent, with either you or the new BF, tell an adult. It's not cool at all.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this guy, and everyone says I do. He likes another girl that I really hate, and I don't know how to tell him I like him.
StAiNd_KiTti


Dear StAiNd_KiTti,

First off, I have to question your motives. Do you really like this guy, or does everyone say you should, so you do? Is this your decision, because what's with "everyone says I do?" I'm not getting that. Also, if you know he likes someone else, why do you want to tell him how you feel? He likes someone else. Not you. It sucks but it's a fact - and you know it! Do you just wanna tell him so that his GF (the girl you hate) finds out? Do you just wanna cause friction for the happy couple? If so, not cool. If ya really dig him just keep hanging out with him and talking to him and being his friend. Maybe things won't work out with him and his girl or maybe you'll get over him. Just don't go messin' in other peeps relationships - it brings bad karma. Remember, what goes around comes around.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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