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Dear Dish-It: All My Friends Have Valentines

Feb 02, 2015

Dear Dish-it,

All of my friends have Valentines and my BF just broke up with me. It hurts to see them with their BFs knowing mine is gone. How do I deal with it?

lonely one in the corner

Valentine's DayAll My Friends Have Valentines...
 

Dear LOITC,

First thing’s first – you’re not alone! I did a bit of digging and it seems like December and January – the months before Valentine’s Day – are the top months for breakups of the whole year! So, as much as it hurts, you may feel a little relieved to know that you’re not the only one going through this now.

Distractions, Distractions

Although there’s no cure for a broken heart, I recommend that you do everything in your power to keep your mind off of moping. That means concentrating on school and homework, joining a new club or team, helping your mom and dad out more around the house, spending lots of quality time with friends and just generally staying busy.

Talk the Talk

If you’re still feeling crummy about the whole thing, try talking to your friends and family members (people you trust) about how you feel. Sometimes things can feel extra hard when you keep your emotions bottled up inside. Spilling your guts to someone you trust and having a good cry could help you move on from this breakup.

Rid of Him Ritual

Another thing that helps some people let go of an ex is to have some sort of ritual or ceremony that marks the first step in your journey to healing your heart. This could involve cleaning all the stuff you have that reminds you of your ex out of your room and putting it into the trash. You may even want to invite your friends to help and support you do this!

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Itz_Eyn
Itz_Eyn posted in Friends:
This is the problem... My friends that I hang out with in school keeps on calling me fat and stupid. They are my only friends so I will not betray them, but when they are in trouble, they makes me the scapegoat and blame me on everything. Everytime they drop something, they tell me to pick it up for them. Everytime when I cannot play with them due to health issues, they will tell me to trade for something, like I can't play on a day, they will ask me to help them buy drinks (with their money).
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Gingerkissx
Maybe you could try working your way up to the conversation. I started out talking about how I was feeling online because it was practically impossible to talk about in real life, then I started talking about depression (in general, not that I thought I had it) to my friends - who I was feeling very distant from at the time, before I started being able to admit that I probably had it myself. Reaching out is one of the hardest parts but trust me, you will get there eventually. I found it hard myself because people tell people to reach for help but they never really talk about how to do it. It's usually just building the courage to say "I've been feeling depressed" even though it's not a comfortable thing to say. The thing is, there are many people out there who will be willing to help you that you wont trust. I got help when I admitted to my maths teacher about what was going on, and I definitely did not trust my maths teacher. But anxiety and depression is quite common and out there are going to be people who will understand and have been through similar experiences. You just have to find an adult who can get you help. Whether this be your parents, family member, a school counselor, or a teacher.  I hope this was helpful, and good luck.
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Austin312
Austin312 posted in Friends:
So okay, there are two guys in my class and both of them have a crush on me. Both asked me out and i dont know what should i do. same thing as what happened to you shygirl03 
reply about 11 hours
toripizza
last friday, i was home alone, my dad went to am AA meting and chiz, so i was alone for a couple og hours, i mean yeah i'm depressed, i cut, i have suicidal thoughts daily.......it's hard hurting inside..and just to see everyone pass you by like you're nothing, people judging you without knowing you. i also have social anxiety, and it really bothers me at school, so i try to walk fast in the halls, and i'm tense a lot. people criticize me once in a while.... ive been through some stuff, i've seen my mom abused infront of me thousand of times..........it's just hard...life. i'm scared to deal with it. so i made a noose, tried to attempt. long story short, my friend called the police, i got sent to the ER......my dad doesn't trust me alone for a mere 3 seconds, cause he thinks as soon as he turns his back i'll cut myself, or hang myself
reply about 13 hours
hugebear
hugebear posted in Friends:
So there's this guy in my class and he sits next to me. Correction he HAS to sit next to me, So my classroom as a table with 2 desks connected to make a huge desk but separated holders things to put our stuff in. So this guy is really the class clown of the class and he can be a jerk when he wants to be but sometimes can be a really nice guy. He likes to talk to me and he "Occasionally" Touches my hand or arm in a friendly way.. I think :3 but anyways he teases me ... A LOT but he sometimes insults me but when he sees my face not cracking into a smile. he instantly says sorry or didnt mean it like that kind of way and i smile. So does he like me? Or he just being a regular guy?  Ello and I thinks he likes you and feels your the close enough friend what he can joke around with. He doesnt want to offend you or upset you and that shows he cares about your feelings. Me advises is take your time and see how your friendship develops.  If it feeels natural to ask him does he like you then ask him and theres no rush :) Good luck :love
reply about 16 hours

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