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Dear Dish-It: All My Friends Have Valentines

Feb 02, 2015

Dear Dish-it,

All of my friends have Valentines and my BF just broke up with me. It hurts to see them with their BFs knowing mine is gone. How do I deal with it?

lonely one in the corner

Valentine's DayAll My Friends Have Valentines...
 

Dear LOITC,

First thing’s first – you’re not alone! I did a bit of digging and it seems like December and January – the months before Valentine’s Day – are the top months for breakups of the whole year! So, as much as it hurts, you may feel a little relieved to know that you’re not the only one going through this now.

Distractions, Distractions

Although there’s no cure for a broken heart, I recommend that you do everything in your power to keep your mind off of moping. That means concentrating on school and homework, joining a new club or team, helping your mom and dad out more around the house, spending lots of quality time with friends and just generally staying busy.

Talk the Talk

If you’re still feeling crummy about the whole thing, try talking to your friends and family members (people you trust) about how you feel. Sometimes things can feel extra hard when you keep your emotions bottled up inside. Spilling your guts to someone you trust and having a good cry could help you move on from this breakup.

Rid of Him Ritual

Another thing that helps some people let go of an ex is to have some sort of ritual or ceremony that marks the first step in your journey to healing your heart. This could involve cleaning all the stuff you have that reminds you of your ex out of your room and putting it into the trash. You may even want to invite your friends to help and support you do this!

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AnneS12
AnneS12 posted in Family Issues:
Well That is your choice who you want to stay with.Nobody can force you about it.When your parents see a family<a data-cke-saved-href=" lawyer, then he will ask you whom do you want to stay with and jury will decide.So dont worry .
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worldqweencc
worldqweencc posted in Friends:
I'm not quiet sure what's a real friend and what's a fake one anymore. I know when there's a friend who's only a school friend rather than an 'outside' friend as well, but at the same time it makes me so confused. Here's my story: There's a girl named Xian. We had a unique way of becoming friends ... but it clicked. For the whole year I've been trying to keep in contact with her ... but she's not very willing to try and put in any effort to stay in contact with me. Her personality is beyond sweet, and her skills at art are even better. If she was to have an award, it would be a giant trophy with her face plastered on it and big bold letters listing 'Nicest Girl In The World!' ... Its just ... she lied to me.  I was all about this friendship. I was ... i'll admit ... sort of a lost puppy following around her owner.  So, I got her this T-Shirt she really wanted for her birthday, and not long her birthday was mine, April First. I was expecting at least a letter, or maybe even something cheap. It didn't really matter to me.  But on my birthday she didn't even come to school. Nor when she got back did she ever say sorry, or give me any be-lated gift of any sort.  That should have been my first clue. Even my mother started catching on. My second clue was she even told me she was oblivious and wasn't good at keeping in contact. I thought she was joking. How could a friendship so sweet be tossed out just like that? My third one was near the end of school, one of her friends in elementary was bragging about the plushies she got from Xian. Apparently she had four from her.  Xian had originally told me it was AGAINST her religion to give out gifts to other people. I knew she wasn't lying about her religion in general, because I met her mom on a field trip and she was quiet ... different. But I didn't understand why Xian had gotten so many small plushies for her, and yet not a single small stamp for me? My last clue was the last day of school. She didn't even try to say good-bye or even hang out with me for that matter. I know what you're thinking. "Girl, you've gotta be kidding me if you can't see that she has no intention of being your friend!" But this girl was the nicest to me. She stood next to me during harsh times, and comforted me when I was down. She told me I was important.  And you don't get many friends to do those special things to you. It was rare to have a friend make me feel so tall and worthy.  ... So ... I can't understand ... why'd she do all that .... and suddenly ... just ... walk away ...
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Style:
American Apparel croptop, Juicy Couture velvet sweatpants and Uggs
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Heyyyyy_
Heyyyyy_ posted in Friends:
"donteatcarrots" wrote:I dunno, looks like something more than being friends is going on here. It's probably best to ask her face-to-face though, before jumping to conclusions. ^^^
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catsandpizza
catsandpizza posted in Friends:
depends 
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