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Dear Dish-It: All My Friends Have Valentines

Feb 02, 2015

Dear Dish-it,

All of my friends have Valentines and my BF just broke up with me. It hurts to see them with their BFs knowing mine is gone. How do I deal with it?

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Valentine's DayAll My Friends Have Valentines...
 

Dear LOITC,

First thing’s first – you’re not alone! I did a bit of digging and it seems like December and January – the months before Valentine’s Day – are the top months for breakups of the whole year! So, as much as it hurts, you may feel a little relieved to know that you’re not the only one going through this now.

Distractions, Distractions

Although there’s no cure for a broken heart, I recommend that you do everything in your power to keep your mind off of moping. That means concentrating on school and homework, joining a new club or team, helping your mom and dad out more around the house, spending lots of quality time with friends and just generally staying busy.

Talk the Talk

If you’re still feeling crummy about the whole thing, try talking to your friends and family members (people you trust) about how you feel. Sometimes things can feel extra hard when you keep your emotions bottled up inside. Spilling your guts to someone you trust and having a good cry could help you move on from this breakup.

Rid of Him Ritual

Another thing that helps some people let go of an ex is to have some sort of ritual or ceremony that marks the first step in your journey to healing your heart. This could involve cleaning all the stuff you have that reminds you of your ex out of your room and putting it into the trash. You may even want to invite your friends to help and support you do this!

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Maybe they're trying a little too hard to impress you. Maybe they're desperate for a friend and don't want to lose you so they're trying to please you. Just calmly ask them if they could stop trying to be exactly like you and instead be themselves, because people like to be friends who are themselves. Good luck! -HannahG
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HannahG posted in Friends:
Hey, just move on. If she/he can't see what a great person you are, then they don't deserve you. You're an amazing person and if they believe differently, then they don't have a clue about what they're missing. -HannahG
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HannahG posted in Friends:
Look, I know that it's bad what she did. It's wrong. But there's nothing you can do about that. Let her live her own life, the best thing to do is just leave it alone. If she wants to take care of a child, she'll deal with the consequences. She makes her own decisions, so if that's what she wants then you shouldn't interfere with it. Forget her. Just don't make the same mistake. I know some girls out there believe that their boyfriend totally loves them, and if they have ########### they'll love their girl even more. That's not always the truth. They always say it's not gonna be me, I'm not gonna make the same mistake, my boyfriend loves me no matter what, and they turn out wrong. That's the end of my rant. Just leave her alone, you'll be better off. -HannahG
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