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Dear Dish-It: All My Friends Have Valentines

Feb 02, 2015

Dear Dish-it,

All of my friends have Valentines and my BF just broke up with me. It hurts to see them with their BFs knowing mine is gone. How do I deal with it?

lonely one in the corner

Valentine's DayAll My Friends Have Valentines...
 

Dear LOITC,

First thing’s first – you’re not alone! I did a bit of digging and it seems like December and January – the months before Valentine’s Day – are the top months for breakups of the whole year! So, as much as it hurts, you may feel a little relieved to know that you’re not the only one going through this now.

Distractions, Distractions

Although there’s no cure for a broken heart, I recommend that you do everything in your power to keep your mind off of moping. That means concentrating on school and homework, joining a new club or team, helping your mom and dad out more around the house, spending lots of quality time with friends and just generally staying busy.

Talk the Talk

If you’re still feeling crummy about the whole thing, try talking to your friends and family members (people you trust) about how you feel. Sometimes things can feel extra hard when you keep your emotions bottled up inside. Spilling your guts to someone you trust and having a good cry could help you move on from this breakup.

Rid of Him Ritual

Another thing that helps some people let go of an ex is to have some sort of ritual or ceremony that marks the first step in your journey to healing your heart. This could involve cleaning all the stuff you have that reminds you of your ex out of your room and putting it into the trash. You may even want to invite your friends to help and support you do this!

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hugebear
hugebear posted in Family Issues:
You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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Mrawsomegamer
I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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Kirsteeeeen
If you don't think that you'll be in a safe situation (for example, your parents try to kick you out, or hurt you physically or emotionally) than you should definitely wait to tell them. I think you'll know when the time is right. We can't tell you how they'll react, but I bet you can sort of figure it out from how they feel and act about these topics.  Remember, you are not obligated to tell anybody at all. It's personal. Wait until you're for sure ready to tell them. And when you do, tell them the way in which it's easiest. Get your point across, offer resources, reassurance, and give them time. 
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Mrawsomegamer
Hey guys, so I do kinda have a personal issue, but I need to tell my family about it. Truth is, I'm not even sure how they'll even react. Very few of my friends know, only the ones I trust anyway... I'm gay. Or at least bisexual. I kinda had a thing for girls, but that was a long time ago. I think I'm fully gay. I have a very supportive boyfriend, who loves me with all his heart. But that's not what it's about; it's actually coming out to my family, whom I know some of them are quite homophobic. Homophobia runs in my family. Sorta...  It makes my stomach turn when I think about it. I sometimes look into the mirror, look at myself and think if my conscience suddenly made me decide I was gay, or if I was born with it. Science tells us that we are born that way, due to lack of man chemicals entering a boys brain when in development. I feel like I've chosen it (even though I know deep inside I haven't) to be gay, probably because of my family almost forcing me into getting a girlfriend and such. I come from a Catholic family, to make things even worse. I'm like the only practising person in my family, but somehow I feel that they'll use my Faith against me if I come out.  So, should I just wait until I'm older? How do I know when the time is right? How will they even react? How should I even say it?  Please help!
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Kirsteeeeen
Kirsteeeeen posted in Friends:
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