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Dear Dish-It, My Cousin Wants My Man


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

A year ago, I met this guy online and talked to him at least once a day, every day. My cousin was constantly annoyed with my little online relationship and seemed to have a lot of resentment for this guy. I'm guessing it was because he would tell me how bad he felt about himself and how ugly he felt, and my cousin judged him. On the other hand, I fell in love with him and we both confessed our love for each other. Finally, my cousin and I met him at the concert and he was a great guy - not only funny but also good looking. Since the concert, my cousin talks to him every night online, acting so much like me it's scary! She uses my words and treats him exactly how I treated him for the past year. She also claims to have fallen in love with him, which caused me to become quite jealous. He tells me he loves me like no other but still talks to my cousin all the time. I feel like she's cramping my style and identity and stealing the only guy I've ever really loved. I'm becoming extremely depressed, please help me.
Anonymous


Dear Anonymous,

I'm not even going to go into the fact that it's not cool to meet online peeps, because it's done. Luckily, it wasn't a nightmare for you like it is for many peeps. Anyway, sounds like your cousin - and possibly this boy - are rats. You are obviously the mature one, being that you could see the good in him without having to see what he looked like. Unfortunately, your boy may not realize that your cousin is judgin' him on his looks. You need to tell him - subtly, so you don't look like the baddie.


Also, confront your cousin. Tell her that she's being a vain, petty brat and that she needs to step-off what is clearly your man. Also, tell your boy how it makes you feel when he tells you he loves ya, but spends so much time with the evil cuz. If he still won't cut his talk-time with your evil cuz down at least a little - dump him. You deserve better.


Dear Dish-It,

I like this guy at my school and I guess you could say I know him really well. He was in my class last year and I want to know if he likes me. He has a girlfriend but I don't think he likes her that much. I have a feeling he likes me because he waits to go into the school until I do. He is always sitting at the same place with his friends and I think he sits there waiting for me to come outside.
epskatergirl57


Dear epskatergirl57,

What is it with all you peeps wanting to play couple-wrecker? It's not a fun game. I've said it before and I'll say it again (and again and again!) Don't mess with someone else's BF. Who are you to decide who your crush likes and who he doesn't? Maybe he does like his GF and it's just coincidence that he seems to be "waiting" for you. Has he ever talked to you? Smiled at you? Said, "I like you better than my girlfriend?" That's what I thought. Right now you don't know anything and you should just chill. Maybe he DOES like you, who knows? But it's up to him to dump his GF and make a move. Until he does - you're free to crush but that's it. Remember, karma baby. If you mess up this relationship, someone somewhere is bound to mess up one of yours one day.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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