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Dear Dish-It: My BFF’s Summer Vacay

May 22, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

My BFF is going to Europe this summer and, not only will I miss her, I’m also totally jealous. All I’m doing is staying home and babysitting my bratty brothers. What should I do?

Jelly Kelly

Dear JK,

Jealousy is a pretty lousy feeling - actually, it’s a pretty pointless feeling. Comparing yourself to other people is never a good idea. The best thing to do in this situation is to think about what you can do to make your own summer vacation the best it can be – and hope that your BFF has an awesome time in Europe!

Wish Her Well

The first step to making yourself feel better, believe it or not, is to be as happy as you can possibly be for your best friend. Yes, she’s really lucky to be going on such an amazing trip this summer – and, because you’re probably a great friend, you should be happy for her! I’m sure that you’ll have plenty of opportunities of your own to go on incredible trips if you want to; this summer, it happens to be her turn. So buy her some magazines and gum for the plane and let her know that you hope she has the best time ever, and that you’ll be waiting for her to get back and tell you all about it!

Plan Your Summer

Next, be sure to start focusing on what you can do to have a really fun summer at home. I know you may have to do some stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily consider “fun” – like babysitting your bros – but can you think of any ways to possibly make it a little less painless than you think it’s gonna be? How about buying a pass for the local pool and teaching your brothers to swim? Or what about tuning up your bikes so you can all go crusing through the neighbourhood together? You can organize games or even ask your other friends who aren’t leaving for the summer if they’d be willing to come over and help you out some days. And for the days you don’t have to take care of your brothers, be sure to plan some fun activities and outings for yourself!

Stay in Touch

Last but not least, ask your friend to send you postcards from Europe so that you know what she’s up to. And be sure to stay in touch with her by email, so that she knows what you’re doing this summer, too! It’ll be fun to get letters in the mail, and I’m sure she’ll want you to fill her in on everything that happens at home while she’s gone!

Have Your Say

Got any good advice for Jelly Kelly? Leave your comment below!

Thanks,

Dear Dish it

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