Kw-logo-smaller

Dear Dish-It: My BFF’s Summer Vacay

May 22, 2012

Dear Dish-It,

My BFF is going to Europe this summer and, not only will I miss her, I’m also totally jealous. All I’m doing is staying home and babysitting my bratty brothers. What should I do?

Jelly Kelly

Dear JK,

Jealousy is a pretty lousy feeling - actually, it’s a pretty pointless feeling. Comparing yourself to other people is never a good idea. The best thing to do in this situation is to think about what you can do to make your own summer vacation the best it can be – and hope that your BFF has an awesome time in Europe!

Wish Her Well

The first step to making yourself feel better, believe it or not, is to be as happy as you can possibly be for your best friend. Yes, she’s really lucky to be going on such an amazing trip this summer – and, because you’re probably a great friend, you should be happy for her! I’m sure that you’ll have plenty of opportunities of your own to go on incredible trips if you want to; this summer, it happens to be her turn. So buy her some magazines and gum for the plane and let her know that you hope she has the best time ever, and that you’ll be waiting for her to get back and tell you all about it!

Plan Your Summer

Next, be sure to start focusing on what you can do to have a really fun summer at home. I know you may have to do some stuff that you wouldn’t necessarily consider “fun” – like babysitting your bros – but can you think of any ways to possibly make it a little less painless than you think it’s gonna be? How about buying a pass for the local pool and teaching your brothers to swim? Or what about tuning up your bikes so you can all go crusing through the neighbourhood together? You can organize games or even ask your other friends who aren’t leaving for the summer if they’d be willing to come over and help you out some days. And for the days you don’t have to take care of your brothers, be sure to plan some fun activities and outings for yourself!

Stay in Touch

Last but not least, ask your friend to send you postcards from Europe so that you know what she’s up to. And be sure to stay in touch with her by email, so that she knows what you’re doing this summer, too! It’ll be fun to get letters in the mail, and I’m sure she’ll want you to fill her in on everything that happens at home while she’s gone!

Have Your Say

Got any good advice for Jelly Kelly? Leave your comment below!

Thanks,

Dear Dish it

Related Stories
38 Comments

latest videos

F1148587810593

What Are You Doing This Summer?

  • I don't know. I'll decide when school finishes.
  • I think I might go to summer camp.
  • I'm going to get a job.
  • I will be going on vacation with my family.

related stories

Micro_spring break-micro
Spring is in the air, and even better, Spring Break is just around the corner! With school out yo...
Micro_grease_micro
desperately in love asks: “I was just on vacation in Mexico. There was this guy…but he’s a comple...
Micro_tr_micro
Everyone loves to travel and go on holiday but sometimes packing can be a pain! It’s hard to whit...

Dear Dish-It in the forums

Macbarbie09
Macbarbie09 posted in Friends:
I have had a bad week so far at school. this one girl named chloe twisted my friend kayla's Wrist. Both me and Kayla have tried everything from telling her to stop, telling the teachers, EVERYTHING!! I have tried not talking to Chloe since she STEALS Kayla away from me. :(  I do not what High schools and middle schools do now, but, what happens if another student injures another? Do they get expulsion or suspension or What?? 
reply about 4 hours
ehmr
ehmr posted in Family Issues:
Uh okay, so I feel kind of stupid writing this here but I have nowhere else to go to about this. (I'm sorry if this is long). I just really need help with my life as a whole. Basically, I have extremely bad anxiety. It's gotten to the point where I cannot speak. At all. Every time I try to speak, I can never manage more than a few words before I clam up and start to cry. It feels like my IQ drops whenever someone tries to converse with me. I can't go into public either. The last time I did, my back and palms started sweating, my mouth went dry and I couldn't look up from the floor. And this wasn't even to a party or something, this was just the shopping centre. My mood is also extremely low. I feel both emotionally and physically drained which makes it hard to function sometimes. Some days I don't even have the motivation to get out of bed. I am sad 24/7. It is the most awful feeling in the world. Nothing interests me any more and I am so close to crying all the time, I dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel like dying, but death is my biggest fear so I'm not sure if I could be considered suicidal. I am not sure if it is depression because I don't have access to a doctor who can check. More than anything, though, I just want to stop being sad My parents seem to take all of this personally for some reason. They think I am purposely being rude or ignoring them. This is not true, obviously. But I can't tell them that because, like I said, I can barely speak. They keep trying to get me help for THE WRONG THINGS and haven't even thought of getting me help for anxiety. It was the therapist who first suggested that I should get help for anxiety and low mood but my parents still won't even think about getting me help for that and keep trying the wrong things. ~~~ It doesn't help that my mother barely cares about me very much at all. I'm really sorry but this bit is gonna sound like I am whining. But put basically, I have no clothes, no education (she pulled me out of school 2 years ago), and am stuck in what is basically isolation. I have asked her multiple times for clothes but she never buys me any and continues to buy tons for herself. (Or at least tried to when I could speak a bit better, haha, I haven't done since my anxiety got worse). But this means I have to about in the same un-ironed and sometimes unwashed outfit every day and it's gross, really. And since I cannot go to school anymore I have absolutely no friends. None. I do not even have friends online anymore. This makes my mood even worse and I am so ######## lonely. I tried making online friends for a while but I couldn't and since then my laptop broke (I am having to use the mobile site rn) so it's near impossible to make friends anymore. And on the topic of school, I have not had any sort of education in the 2 years I have been out of school. I do not even have a tutor. It's awful, and I would be going into Year 10 next year so I really need education soon since I only have two years left. :/ I feel dumb because of this since I have not learnt to do anything above a Year 7 level. I just don't know what to do anymore!! I really just want to fall asleep and sleep for however long it takes for me to wake up to a better period in my life. TL;DR: I am not at the best point in my life right now and my anxiety and mood only keep getting worse and I'm not sure what to do. :(
reply about 7 hours
Hannah728
Hannah728 posted in Friends:
I have a big problem. Me and my best friend(BFF) have the same crush and i lovee him he is so cute! can you guys help me! plz. comment on my bio, reply here, or pm me plzzzzzzzz! I NEED HELP! have you guys had this problem!?
reply about 8 hours
simran88
simran88 posted in Style:
Clothes...
reply about 9 hours
simran88
simran88 posted in Style:
Great suggestions! I'll try the tape idea, have never done it before. 
reply about 9 hours

play online games