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Why Having Self-Confidence is The Key To Your Success

Apr 19, 2017

We’re going to let you in on a little secret, having and showing self-confidence is the key to your success. I know it’s hard at this age to be your own person, but it will benefit you in the long run and help to build your leadership skills. You must always remember that “you are enough.” Having faith in yourself can take you far in life. it can improve your quality of life, and help you from letting people get to you. Having self-confidence also helps with fitting in because you no longer care to associate with people who do not want to associate with you. When you're confident you make choices that will benefit you and make you feel good. When you truly believe in yourself you don’t let people who aren’t important affect you, get to you or get you upset. Here are five tips to achieving self-confidence.

Finding Confidence is a Problem SolverFinding Confidence is a Problem Solver

1. Always Listen to Your Gut

If you don’t want to do something or hang out with someone, listen to yourself. Follow your own instincts and do what you feel is right. If you predict trouble ahead then walk away from the situation with confidence. It’s okay if you know better and others don’t. It’s also okay if others don’t understand why you chose to go your own way. In the end, you’ve got to do what’s best for you. Don’t be afraid to be different if it means sticking up for something you have faith in. Never regret trusting your gut, use it as your compass and listen to it often. As long as you feel okay with yourself at the end of the day, that is all that matters.

2. Never Give into Peer Pressure

Sure, you want to fit in and you want everyone to like you, but you have to ask yourself, at what cost? At what point is it worth it for you to sacrifice your own morals? Saying no doesn’t make you a nerd, it actually makes you pretty cool for going against the grain and staying true to your own beliefs. Quality people will respect you for this. When you are confident you have the ability to say no easily because you know what you want and what your limits are. Also, you don’t feel bad because you've stayed to true to your own intentions and instincts.

I Know That I CanI Know That I Can

3. Work on it Everyday

It might seem like the simplest concept, but it’s not easy to love ourselves, just as it’s not always easy to lead with confidence. Life and people are constantly bringing us down. We are constantly faced with fears and self-doubt. This is why you have to remind yourself of how great you on are on the regular. Don’t lose sight of how you really are, take care of yourself, and in the process have your own concerns at the forefront. Keep a running inner dialog with yourself to remind yourself that you are staying confident and not allowing negativity to creep in. Always ensure that you are staying true to you and what you really want to do.

The Amazing Feeling When You are Proud of YourselfThe Amazing Feeling When You are Proud of Yourself

4. Do Things That Make You Feel Good

Participate in activates that make you feel good about yourself and bring out the best in you. Do things you love and are good at. This will remind you of your strengths and allow you to practice them. Never give up on the things you love, no matter how they weigh in on the “cool scale.” If you’ve got a real talent, don’t be scared to show it off. Show confident when it comes to your skills and don’t be scared to help others in the process. Helping someone else reach their own level of confidence is also important, and when you are confident you can be a role model to others. Don’t be superior with your gifts, be generous with them, teach others and make new friends in the process.

5. Be Around People Who Are Encouraging

Spend time with people who encourage you to be your happy, true, confident self. Find people who respect this version of you. People who look up to it and find some value in how you live your life. Surround yourself in love and in people who love you for exactly the way you are. This will make it easier for you to be the real, confident you at all times. Never should you have to apologize for being confident, however, there is a difference between cocky and confident. Nobody likes someone who is full of themselves. Aim for modesty and tend to avoid bragging and arguing at all costs.

The Power of Knowing You Stayed True to YouThe Power of Knowing You Stayed True to You

Finding confidence can be a lifelong struggle. We all suffer from insecurities (at any age), and harp on the things we don’t like about ourselves. We all have to work on this. We have to remind ourselves on the daily what it is that we do like about ourselves. This is a great opportunity to really embrace who you are and do it with pride and without regret.

A good friend once mentioned that “confidence is the key to success.” She firmly believes that her ability to go into situations confidently and self-assured have helped her throughout her life. She’s noted a comparison with others who don’t lead with this assertion. Leading with confidence has gotten her romance, jobs, awards, you name it. The trick was she never stop believing in herself no matter what (she never stopped working either), she was proud of her accomplishments, discovered her gifts early and held onto them tightly.

Always Have Faith In Yourself and What You Can DoAlways Have Faith In Yourself and What You Can Do

Try to find your own gifts and remember they are valuable. Think about how your gifts could help shape the world. Stick to your own convictions and you will find people who are impressed by this, and people who agree with you. If not, at least you are staying true to yourself. Confidence will also help improve performance of any kind, especially when taking a test or playing a sport. Your mentality speaks volumes to your success, and you want to ensure that you have a good attitude as you approach these chapters in your life. Go into the situation confidently and you will likely find yourself in a good spot!

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Do you see the value in having self-confidence? What makes it hard to be confident? 




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  • Very confident! Nothing and no one can stand in my way.
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My parents have always been aggressive and abusive and I only just noticed it a couple months ago. Over time they've gotten worse (specifically my mother). Whenever she gets mad she'll yell at us and if she gets mad enough she'll hit and push us around. Whoever we get into arguments it's always one- sided and she always wins, even if she knows she is wrong. An argument we had not to long ago was about me not taking care of myself. She looked at my hair and started to touch it and told me "Your hair isn't soft why is it so dry, it's probably because you aren't taking care of your hair." Then she goes on to tell me that she's going to cut it and all of this other stuff when she knows I'm conscious about me looking like a boy ( Used to get called a boy for having short hair). As the argument goes on, I start to tell her things that she knows she is wrong about. She proceeds to yell at me then grabs me by the face and say "If you don't lower your tone and listen to what I'm saying I'm going to knock you in the head." Then she goes on to tell me she remembers nothing I was saying and that it's a lie. She also hit me when I didn't clean the laundry room correctly and whenever she gets fed up. I'm constantly having to watch what I say and do, because I'm scared that I'm going to end up hurt. She also likes to degrade me and tell how bad I'm doing. She's said plenty of thing like when I didn't have my bed covers tucked in she yelled at me and hit me and I said "Do you expect me to just stand here and take this", and she replied saying "That's what you are supposed to do you are the child and I am the adult, you take whatever I do until I'm done." Another time is when I had my band concert and I had to pick out the right attire. When we went shopping to get the clothing I chose slacks when she liked a skirt better, we went on to fight in the store and she bought the slacks. When we got home she said to me that real girls wear skirts and dresses and boys wear slacks and pants. This hurt me because she knows I have a past with people telling me I look like a boy etc. Another time I started to sleep on the floor, because I was practicing a minimalist life. When I left my pillows on the floor she found it and questioned me on why they were there. I told her it fell of my bed when really I left it there. Later when I told my dad, he told her and she got mad because I was getting cat hair on my pillows. She then proceeded to ask why I lied and I told her sometimes lying is better then the truth (I knew she would get mad that I was sleeping on the floor so I lied) then she told me that I was never going to have a relationship, a job, or friends ( This hurt me because I don't have friends now). She's also said that I don't take care of my body because I ate two sweets in one day which lead her to banning me from Doritos and now I have to ask to get chips and any other snack. She's told me I don't take care of my teeth because I have yellow spots from using whitening toothpaste with braces on. She's told me I don't take care of my hair so I can't wash it or do any hair style or then a bun. She had lead me to starving myself (Unless she makes me eat) and cutting myself. I've just stopped caring, because what ever I do is always wrong. I never get a choice in my activities, she controls my life in fact she me just in a different body. But what is even worse is that she's turning my dad into her. Now I have a scheduled time to eat breakfast and lunch, and to go onto my electronics. I feel like I'm in a prison with my parents constantly watching over me, in fact yesterday when I was pouring my milk my mom got out a measuring cup and poured my milk into the measuring cup and said "Why isn't this a full cup" and I replied saying "Because I don't measure my milk." Then she got angry at me. There's so much I could say about her, but I'll stop. Anyways my father is always sarcastic and he doesn't realize how much it hurts me. Today I was cleaning out my bag for next school year and my dad came in and said, "Wow, you aren't even dress yet and I had to come up here to tell you how sad." Just little things like that hurt me. My little sister got mad at me last week for sitting in a certain area and she said " Why are you sitting there," and I didn't reply because I didn't want to speak to her and she then said, "Probably because you are too stupid to answer." I wanted to break down crying then and there, but I kept it in. I've limited my talking to her, because all she does is break me down. Like when there was a Proactive commercial and she said, "Ha, you need that." That hurt me because just the other my mom was telling me how I don't take care of my face and that's why I have acne. My older sister and I barely talk, because whenever I try to talk to her she's mad for what ever reason and when my parents were talking about hitting my sister she was in the corner laughing. My cat Preston is very young and I got hi,abo a year ago. I get very sad and often cry, because I've seen him turn out scared and aggressive just like me because he's been through what I have. One time he pooped in a clothes basket (It's right next to his litter box) my mom grabbed him by the neck and hit him while she smothered his face in his poop, all while yelling at him. I was going to call the Animal Protective Services, but I got too scared and I realized how lonely I would be. Please help me I'm not sure what to do anymore. Also sorry for the very long post!
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Error101 posted in Family Issues:
Dear Kkmr324, I hope you get to feeling better as time goes on.  It does get better but like you said you can't actually get over it.  Losing someone to cancer is awful and I have never lost a friend and I hope I never will and I am so sorry that you did, but I have lost family to cancer and it is horrible.  I hope your okay. :(
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Kkrmr324 posted in Family Issues:
A few months ago,my friend Kendall died of cancer. It was really hard to "get over it"; because really you dont just get over it. One thing i did was find a bunch of pictures of me and Kendall and remembered all the fun we had together. And it helped! I still miss her, but good friends and family helped with that.
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Kkrmr324 posted in Family Issues:
A few months ago,my friend Kendall died of cancer. It was really hard to "get over it"; because really you dont just get over it. One thing i did was find a bunch of pictures of me and Kendall and remembered all the fun we had together. And it helped! I still miss her, but good friends and family helped with that.
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why are you allowing that to control your happiness? why can't you have true happiness instead of chasing some dream for momentary satisfaction? You're 12. This is when your core beliefs, values, and outlooks on life start. Don't mess it up choosing to be sad over something like that.
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