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Dear Dish-It, My Mom Is Dying of Cancer


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Dear Dish-It,

My mother is dying of cancer and I want to hurt myself constantly. I have attempted already.
julie-ann


Dear julie-ann,

I'm really sorry to hear about your mom being sick. I totally understand why you would feel so helpless in this situation but the last thing you should do is hurt yourself. How do you think your mom would feel to know that you were trying to take your own life? Despite what she is going through, I bet she would do anything in her power to make sure you were happy and safe. So many people don't realize how important the people in their lives are until they are gone, but you have a rare opportunity. You're able to let your mom know how much she means to you and spend as much time as possible doing stuff together. No, this doesn't make up for her not being around in the future, but wouldn't you rather have a ton of good memories to hang onto rather than memories of a bunch of suicide attempts? If you haven't already, you should definitely sit down and talk with someone about what you're feeling right now. Whether that's your mom, dad, teacher, etc. you need to stop bottling up all your emotions. If you can't bring yourself to talk to someone one-on-one, check out www.suicidehotlines.com for completely anonymous help lines throughout the United States.


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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