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Dear Dish-It, I Don't Want to Sound Like a Prude


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Dear Dish-It,

I've been going out with this great guy for about two months now and before that we were really good friends. Before him, I'd never even been kissed before, so everything is new to me (not to him though). He says he's all about making me feel good but is there a way I can tell him that 'I don't want to go all the way' without sounding like a prude? Even though I know he doesn't care about the sexual stuff that much, I really love him and trust him. He hasn't pressured me about sex but I know he thinks about it. I'm ready for sex but I don't want to be one of those girls who loses her virginity in high school. What should I do?
hihonajilie


Dear hihonajilie,

When you're dealing with something as important as losing your virginity, you can't be too concerned about making sure you hold onto your aura of cool. From the sound of your letter, you aren't ready for sex. But you know what? That's not something you should feel bad about. It's really cool that you know what you want out of life and you're being responsible about the choices that you're making. If your guy is as great as you make him out to be, you're not going to have to worry about sounding like a prude and being a big ol' loser. He's going to understand your concerns and he is going to respect you for your choices. Be strong and stick to your guns, cuz it's really easy to let other people dictate the way you should lead your life. Good luck!


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