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Dear Dish-It, I Don't Want to Sound Like a Prude

Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".

Dear Dish-It,

I've been going out with this great guy for about two months now and before that we were really good friends. Before him, I'd never even been kissed before, so everything is new to me (not to him though). He says he's all about making me feel good but is there a way I can tell him that 'I don't want to go all the way' without sounding like a prude? Even though I know he doesn't care about the sexual stuff that much, I really love him and trust him. He hasn't pressured me about sex but I know he thinks about it. I'm ready for sex but I don't want to be one of those girls who loses her virginity in high school. What should I do?
hihonajilie

Dear hihonajilie,

When you're dealing with something as important as losing your virginity, you can't be too concerned about making sure you hold onto your aura of cool. From the sound of your letter, you aren't ready for sex. But you know what? That's not something you should feel bad about. It's really cool that you know what you want out of life and you're being responsible about the choices that you're making. If your guy is as great as you make him out to be, you're not going to have to worry about sounding like a prude and being a big ol' loser. He's going to understand your concerns and he is going to respect you for your choices. Be strong and stick to your guns, cuz it's really easy to let other people dictate the way you should lead your life. Good luck!

So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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drowning
drowning posted in Friends:
"NS12" wrote: I meet this guy at a festival and we have been talking for the whole week and my mum has noticed I keep texting someone and I know I need to tell her but I don t know how I am going to tell her, I doubt she ll get angry or anything but he lives about 4/5 hours away from me. I know I need to tell her as I don t like keeping secrets from her. I know this was a bit ago, but I truly hope that you were able to be open with your mother. If you feel as if they won't get mad at you, then chances are that your guardian will not. Honesty is the best policy, and if you feel guilt keeping a secret, then it is one you probably shouldn't be keeping.
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drowning
I agree with @rainbowpoptart. You really shouldn't worry about relationships that much given your age. I promise, they're better things to worry about than boys and more secure romances occur later on in life anyways. But, given the situation, you shouldn't worry about either. The boy is unfaithful and so is your friend. If your best friend really valued your friendship, she would not have put it in a position that could end it. Don't waste your time on those who will not put you first just as you do for them; better people will come into your life and they are the ones who you should really worry about.
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rainbowpoptart
There's a Dear Dish-It section for questions like this. (: But to answer it anyway: BREAK UP WITH HIM! Stop being friends with who he cheated on you with. Move on and find someone better for you. Don't let it ruin your life. Neither of them are worth your time, there are much better people out there. Because you're only 10, though, I would definitely advise not focusing too much on any more romantic relationships. Work on preparing for your future; boyfriends can wait a while.
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Pinklilylane
So my Bf cheated on me for my bff. Know they won't even talk to me. I don't know what to do. Can you tell me what to do?
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PitbullLover777
You should definitely tell your mom - gently, and slowly - be honest - and everything will be ok
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