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Dear Dish-It, I Did Something I Regret

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Dear Dish-It,

There's a boy on my bus who is, or was my friend, but one day he forced me into doing something I really regret. How do I tell him to slow down? And, can we still be friends?
tha_hummingbird


Dear tha_hummingbird,

If things are uncomfy with this guy, then you've gotta say something. You can't go along with things that make you feel bad, or uncomfortable, just so you don't rock the boat. Just spell things out for this dude and tell him that you wanna take things really slow. If he has a prob with that, then he wasn't your friend in the first place.


Dear Dish-It,

I've had sex with numerous boys, (I used protection with all of them.) I didn't think there was anything wrong with that until a "supposedly" best friend decided to tell the whole school about it. She even started a few rumors (that I was pregnant, had AIDS etc.,) which aren't true, as I have regular check-ups with my clinic. Nobody seems to like me anymore and they shout abusive stuff at me in school, and out of school. I feel so depressed and I can't tell my 'rents, as I'm only 16 and they'll probably be ashamed of me. Please help.
TrOuBlEd SiStA


Dear TrOuBlEd SiStA,

First off, it sounds like you've gotta get yourself some new friends. Instead of spreadin' lies, they should be trying to chat with you about why you've needed to have sex with numerous boys. Although it sounds like you've been smart and safe about the sex you're having, it's probably not the best thing to have had multiple partners before you even graduate high school. So dump the chumps you've been callin' friends and book yourself an appointment with the school counselor. They'll probably be able to help with the jerks at school and give you a person to chat with about what's a healthy sex life and what's not.


You should not have sex until you are married, not only because you could get pregnant, but even with protection you have a good chance of getting STDs. There are 16 and only half are curable and some are deadly.

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: chicalic
Age: 12

What is the best way to get the word out that kids of any age should not have sex until they're married or until they know that there life is going to be spent with their boyfriend or girlfriend? I mean, come on! If they need help to know whether or not to sleep with a guy, why do they do it at all? And if there dying to have sex, maybe they need to talk to a person who is close to them and will understand or even knows what they are going through. Plus, why should they be thinking about boys, babies or sex, I mean sex isn't every thing. If they don't have the guts to ask their parent but ask you, that's just plain wrong!
Kidz Submit by:
Nickname: Farie_Kiara
Age: 10


Thanks for the great feedback Farie_Kiara!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    samkitty214 posted in Friends:
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    Thanks guys. Thoses tips helped. They are getting almond better now.
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    kaykay2002 posted in Friends:
    "Wooper1255" wrote:No. Just no. Mr. Face does not approve this. ._.Okay, okay, let's get serious.Your best friend BULLYING you? And loves it when you get mad? What the heck? SHE'S NOT EVEN YOUR FRIEND!You should have a talk with your best friend. No seriously, she doesn't have any friends cause she's a bully and no one likes to be friends with a bully...You should tell your best friend that she NEEDS to change her attitude! She needs to be more nicer to others also.Also, a best friend is: Caring, Kind, Loyal, Nice, Thoughtful, and will stand up for you against bullies, will be there if you're upset, maybe they'll even CRY with you!A best friend is totally NOT: Someone who bullies you, Someone who likes it when your madYou should ask her any of the following questions:Are you Okay?Why are you bullying me? You're my friend.Is something wrong like family issues?Questions like that are good because there may be a reason for bullying. She could be suffering from depression, or is confused or lonely. Just talk to her. Have a discussion with her. Also, you should talk to other people. Ask them why they aren't friends with your best friend. Then maybe, after they tell you what they don't like about her, you can go back to your best friend and tell her the things she needs to improve on. Also, if necessary, tell an adult like your mom, a teacher, consular, or her mom.Whatever you think will solve this conflict between you and your best friend well... just go for it. But think about the outcome too.Hope I helped, I might add some tips and suggestions to you. :3  your right and the only reason I have put up with her this long is because her dad died but I cant stand her anymore so but seriously I feel like there is another reason bcuz she has had people confront her saying "u know what I have put up wit this for a while and I have told u to stop and u don't listen and I know your dad died but that doesn't mean u can treat people like that "  but she still does it and for the past 3 yrs. I have put up with it but not anymore I will talk to her about it. Thanks.
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    Wooper1255 posted in Friends:
    You NEED to tell your parents or HER parents about her attitude, this is abuse from your OWN best friend! Tell an adult, don't be afraid, it's not even SILLY to tell an adult, this is serious, she is HURTING you! Tell someone before things get out of hand and she REALLY hurts you! D=
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    Wooper1255
    Wooper1255 posted in Friends:
    No. Just no. Mr. Face does not approve this. ._. Okay, okay, let's get serious. Your best friend BULLYING you? And loves it when you get mad? What the heck? SHE'S NOT EVEN YOUR FRIEND! You should have a talk with your best friend. No seriously, she doesn't have any friends cause she's a bully and no one likes to be friends with a bully... You should tell your best friend that she NEEDS to change her attitude! She needs to be more nicer to others also. Also, a best friend is: Caring, Kind, Loyal, Nice, Thoughtful, and will stand up for you against bullies, will be there if you're upset, maybe they'll even CRY with you! A best friend is totally NOT: Someone who bullies you, Someone who likes it when your mad You should ask her any of the following questions: Are you Okay? Why are you bullying me? You're my friend. Is something wrong like family issues? Questions like that are good because there may be a reason for bullying. She could be suffering from depression, or is confused or lonely. Just talk to her. Have a discussion with her. Also, you should talk to other people. Ask them why they aren't friends with your best friend. Then maybe, after they tell you what they don't like about her, you can go back to your best friend and tell her the things she needs to improve on. Also, if necessary, tell an adult like your mom, a teacher, consular, or her mom. Whatever you think will solve this conflict between you and your best friend well... just go for it. But think about the outcome too. Hope I helped, I might add some tips and suggestions to you. :3
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