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Dear Dish-It, I Did Something I Regret


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Dear Dish-It,

There's a boy on my bus who is, or was my friend, but one day he forced me into doing something I really regret. How do I tell him to slow down? And, can we still be friends?
tha_hummingbird


Dear tha_hummingbird,

If things are uncomfy with this guy, then you've gotta say something. You can't go along with things that make you feel bad, or uncomfortable, just so you don't rock the boat. Just spell things out for this dude and tell him that you wanna take things really slow. If he has a prob with that, then he wasn't your friend in the first place.


Dear Dish-It,

I've had sex with numerous boys, (I used protection with all of them.) I didn't think there was anything wrong with that until a "supposedly" best friend decided to tell the whole school about it. She even started a few rumors (that I was pregnant, had AIDS etc.,) which aren't true, as I have regular check-ups with my clinic. Nobody seems to like me anymore and they shout abusive stuff at me in school, and out of school. I feel so depressed and I can't tell my 'rents, as I'm only 16 and they'll probably be ashamed of me. Please help.
TrOuBlEd SiStA


Dear TrOuBlEd SiStA,

First off, it sounds like you've gotta get yourself some new friends. Instead of spreadin' lies, they should be trying to chat with you about why you've needed to have sex with numerous boys. Although it sounds like you've been smart and safe about the sex you're having, it's probably not the best thing to have had multiple partners before you even graduate high school. So dump the chumps you've been callin' friends and book yourself an appointment with the school counselor. They'll probably be able to help with the jerks at school and give you a person to chat with about what's a healthy sex life and what's not.


You should not have sex until you are married, not only because you could get pregnant, but even with protection you have a good chance of getting STDs. There are 16 and only half are curable and some are deadly.

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Nickname: chicalic
Age: 12

What is the best way to get the word out that kids of any age should not have sex until they're married or until they know that there life is going to be spent with their boyfriend or girlfriend? I mean, come on! If they need help to know whether or not to sleep with a guy, why do they do it at all? And if there dying to have sex, maybe they need to talk to a person who is close to them and will understand or even knows what they are going through. Plus, why should they be thinking about boys, babies or sex, I mean sex isn't every thing. If they don't have the guts to ask their parent but ask you, that's just plain wrong!
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Nickname: Farie_Kiara
Age: 10


Thanks for the great feedback Farie_Kiara!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    shae508 posted in Friends:
    "classicalmusicisepic" wrote:my friends offline are having some relationship problems atm and there are just some things i want to mention on here, because i think they're relevant; some warning signs, etc and how to approach them.these not only apply to romantic relationships, but also friendships etc.physical harm - this might be an obvious one. but i just want to share some ways to approach the situation. this includes unwanted touching, hitting, kicking, etc. if your partner is doing this to you, you must report it to a trusted adult, teacher, counselor, close friend, or family member. this is one of the most serious abusive relationships- there are many resources online such as childline, etc, and hotlines you can call if you need to speak to someone about it. they may be able to help you get out of the relationship, and give you a shoulder to cry on.pressure into unwanted intimacy - this is also one of the big ones- your partner should never make you feel uncomfortable or otherwise. if they wish to stay with you, they will wait until you're ready to move onto that stage; if you even ever will be. if you feel pressured, or pushed into doing something you feel you'll regret, sit down and talk about it with your partner. you have a say in your relationship, too.control over your friends - if you feel like your partner has control over your friends- something is wrong. if they want you to dedicate every second of your life to them, with no other people, it's not right. your relationship not only affects the two people in it, (or more if it's polyamourous), but everyone around is affected by your relationship, too. again- you have a say in how your relationship is going, too!  criticizing you and your choices - relationships are about liking each other- if your partner is putting you down or demeaning you, it's a warning sign to get out of it. are they mocking you? or putting down your appearance, clothes, etc? Definite red flag; talk about it with him/her/them. other signs, include:-being doted and adored one day, and the next being pushed away and ignored,-you're afraid of your partner-they obsess over and call/text you constantly-you may find you've lost your confidence-many ups and downs in the relationship, constant roller coaster-you aren't yourself. you change and adapt for them, drop hobbies if they're not into them, etc.-something tells you you cant trust themagain, there are many resources out there if you need to talk. never be afraid to speak about it to someone- a family member, a teacher, a close friend, the police, a guidance counselor, etc.  I bolded that one part. The whole thread is great. And that one is a sign. But remember people with mental illness may also show signs like this to. If they have a good they they may spoil you and love you, and then the next day they're having a bad one. So they might push you away. They also may suddenly dote on you one day also to make up for a bad day. I'm not making an excuse, it's still a ver bad thing to do. I'm just putting it out there.
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    jordand08 posted in Friends:
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    "jordand08" wrote:Good thread! I love it! :love  (: thank you! 
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    jordand08 posted in Friends:
    Good thread! I love it! :love 
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