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Dear Dish-It, I Did Something I Regret


Dear Dish-It, is here to whisper "ttyl after I've thought about this some more".


Dear Dish-It,

There's a boy on my bus who is, or was my friend, but one day he forced me into doing something I really regret. How do I tell him to slow down? And, can we still be friends?
tha_hummingbird


Dear tha_hummingbird,

If things are uncomfy with this guy, then you've gotta say something. You can't go along with things that make you feel bad, or uncomfortable, just so you don't rock the boat. Just spell things out for this dude and tell him that you wanna take things really slow. If he has a prob with that, then he wasn't your friend in the first place.


Dear Dish-It,

I've had sex with numerous boys, (I used protection with all of them.) I didn't think there was anything wrong with that until a "supposedly" best friend decided to tell the whole school about it. She even started a few rumors (that I was pregnant, had AIDS etc.,) which aren't true, as I have regular check-ups with my clinic. Nobody seems to like me anymore and they shout abusive stuff at me in school, and out of school. I feel so depressed and I can't tell my 'rents, as I'm only 16 and they'll probably be ashamed of me. Please help.
TrOuBlEd SiStA


Dear TrOuBlEd SiStA,

First off, it sounds like you've gotta get yourself some new friends. Instead of spreadin' lies, they should be trying to chat with you about why you've needed to have sex with numerous boys. Although it sounds like you've been smart and safe about the sex you're having, it's probably not the best thing to have had multiple partners before you even graduate high school. So dump the chumps you've been callin' friends and book yourself an appointment with the school counselor. They'll probably be able to help with the jerks at school and give you a person to chat with about what's a healthy sex life and what's not.


You should not have sex until you are married, not only because you could get pregnant, but even with protection you have a good chance of getting STDs. There are 16 and only half are curable and some are deadly.

Kidz Submit by:

Nickname: chicalic
Age: 12

What is the best way to get the word out that kids of any age should not have sex until they're married or until they know that there life is going to be spent with their boyfriend or girlfriend? I mean, come on! If they need help to know whether or not to sleep with a guy, why do they do it at all? And if there dying to have sex, maybe they need to talk to a person who is close to them and will understand or even knows what they are going through. Plus, why should they be thinking about boys, babies or sex, I mean sex isn't every thing. If they don't have the guts to ask their parent but ask you, that's just plain wrong!
Kidz Submit by:
Nickname: Farie_Kiara
Age: 10


Thanks for the great feedback Farie_Kiara!


So, ya gotta burnin' question? Need some love directions? Thinkin' 'bout stuff like depression, sex,how ya feel 'bout YOURSELF (that's called "self-esteem"), boyfriends, girlfriends, losin' old friends, bullyin' or peer pressure, but too scared to ask the parents? Don't be scared to .


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    jordand08
    Maybe that's the only line that needs to be said? You don't have to write down a whole paragraph explaining about how you feel. Sometimes, one word or one sentence can be enough. :p but I don't know. Maybe I have no clue what I'm talking about. :p
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    jordand08
    You'll have to remember, your parents love you, with that being said. If you feel like you can talk to them and they're reasonable, go ahead. But if you feel like waiting it's up to you. I think your family will support you, because they do love you. Maybe they'll be upset at first, but they'll come around, everyone does eventually. Is there anyone in your family that knows, like a cousin? Maybe you can ask for their opinion if you should tell your parents, and family. However, it's up to you. and remember, your parents care and love you.
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    hugebear
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    You doesnt have to come out to your family until your ready and until they is ready too.  If you blurt it out it could be the shock.  You says that you think your Mums side of the family will be more supportive.  Has you got an Aunty or Uncle what you could discuss this with?  An adult member of your family what is most likely supportive  could probably give the best advises on how to tell your family and when and how and prepares you for how they will react. Good luck mate and takes your time :angel
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    Mrawsomegamer
    I think my mothers side of the family would be fine with it. It's my dad's side I'm most concerned about. My dad says some dreadfully terrible remarks about homosexual people. I think I'm not gunna tell him at all. Ever...  Either way. Thanks for the advice!
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